LDRs: relationships of the 21st century

[daughter]

Maybe this has been done before, hope folks will be interested in responding again.

For those in LDR(long distance relationships), how did you meet? How long before you met in person? How long have you been together? How are you making it work?

I'll start. Met my guy on a forum for poets. He was amused by this loud mouthed, opinionated black woman who was queen bee(his words). He was a new poet on the scene, whom my girlfriend was egging me to strike up a conversation. I wasn't interested-- till he posted to something I had written. He made an observation that everyone else seemed to have missed. I almost fell out my chair.

After a flurry of emails and IM's and marathon phone calls, he came to see me. He was relieved to find me not sporting hip hop nails, but I do like my funky, ethnic print flowing dresses. I was tickled to meet my 'suit'. Yep, I fell hard looking into those beautiful eyes framed with bushy brows and long lashes. My Brooks Brother man was gorgeous. He was reserved, but confident and articulate. I wasn't my usual talkative self that first date. Fella changed my heart rhythms.

It's been eighteen months from crazed infactuation to mellow,"I wanna spend my life with you." He's everything I should have dreamed of. And approaching middle-age, I'm more comfortable in my skin, confident and content. Bad times toughened me up but didn't make me bitter. I believe relationships can work. Love is real.

How do we make it work? We talk all the time. We listen. We value our time together. We made a commitment. We reject the social temperment that says everything is temporal and disposable. Relationships take work, and change doesn't automatically mean something is wrong. Relationships evolve.

Peace,

daughter

 

[SweetCherry]

I met Draco in ICQ about 20 months ago. We started off as very good buddies, shoooting the breeze and telling dirty jokes back and forth to for a couple months. We moved onto being very close friends, revealing deep secrets and having quite interesting philosophical conversatiuons. At one point in time, I hit a very bad low, dealing with more thna I could in one shot. I was very self destructive, and he was there for me, sitting up with me for long periods of time. Somehow, in all that, he had realized how much he loved me, and I the same, and we just clicked. It's now been 15 months. We've not met yet, but plan on it soon. It doesn't matter tho. I love this man. He is my partner and will someday be my husband. I'm greatly honored that this wonderful man could have such deep feelings for me and accept me, despite all my flaws.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

HI Daughter

Hi Daughter!

For those in LDR(long distance relationships), how did you meet?

Shortly after the WTC attack, a friend recommended the Lit site to help get my mind off the almost overwhelming misery of every-day life in NYC. Started enjoying the literature, then ventured into the chat site, where I spent some time enjoying the "fantasy" and temporary release I would get from cybering. This became boring after a short while, and I started to just enjoy hanging out in Syd's Tub and getting to "meet" some of the regular users there.

One quiet sleepless night "Jenny" stepped into the tub, and met "omahaman2". It was the first time that I allowed "Jenny" to be more of myself, and we immediately clicked. I started looking forward to seeing him there, and little by little we found ourselves sharing more than just games on a screen.

How long before you met in person?

Three months later, Oman and I have NOT yet met! It gets harder each day not to be able to just touch him, hold his hand, smile with him. We had hoped to meet for a weekend in January, but it isn't working out for us. I've been umemployed for quite a while now, and both of our financial situations make it impossible for us to get together right now. We are hoping when the holiday rush is over for Oman, that we'll finally met in February.

How are you making it work?

Constant communication. Complete honesty. Faith in following our hearts. Trust.

Glad to hear your meeting went so well. I have a similiar thread on the Personal board, and have found comfort and understanding by the many who have added their tales, both good and bad, there.