Late acceptance

[searching-one]

For a long long time I have denied my sexual preferences. At the age of 77 I have told my wife that I am bisexual. All she said to me was are You currently attracted to men - my comment was no but although it is many many years since I had a gay experience I know thatgiven the right approach I would succumb. Two questions arise in my mind 1 Am I unusual toseek to rekindle old feelings. 2, Is my situation unusual. Given the fact that I grew up in a religiously repressed society how do I salve my comsincous and am I being an ass in al;lowing such feelings to arise so late in life

 

[limplizzard]

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From my experiance the answer to both questions is no. I was in my middle sixties befor I finally accepted that I had denied my gay feelings, like you because of my upbringing and the fact I lived in the heart of the bible belt. I was 64 when I sucked my first cock, I enjoyed it and I continue to enjoy it today. I also enjoy sex with women. Mt biggest regret is that it took so long before I accepted my sexuallity. Good luck.

 

[Bill3250]

I was lucky. I was in my early teens when I sucked my first cock and licked my first pussy, and now in my sixties I still enjoy both.

 

[sjl1701]

Given that our society is still quite homophobic, it's not surprising that there are many who have spent a great deal of their lives supressing their sexuality. I'm another case like that. I'm working with a counselor to work on mine. I'm still figuring out whether I'm bi or even gay. It's a tough process when you've put the enemy into your own head. I know it will be challenging, but it will be good to finally be able to accept all of me and not have this part that I've been hiding. So good for you that you can face it up front. And no you're probably not the only guy to come out at your age.

Scott

 

[LoboBoy]

It doesn't make you an ass that you acknowledge your bisexual feelings.

Good luck to you and deciding what that means from here on in.

 

[tonycurinmass]

It seems that this comes out later in life when the wives start to lose interest in sex. At least that's the impression I've gotten from chatting with older men.

 

[mmmscurious]

I'm in that category. I had a few early experiences in my teens and then gained interest in my mid 40s when my wife had a hysterectomy. Finally did something about it a couple of years ago (I was 49) and wished that I would have continued to enjoy M2M experiences all those years ago.

 

[etoile_filante]

It seems that this comes out later in life when the wives start to lose interest in sex. At least that's the impression I've gotten from chatting with older men.

I don't know if it has as much to do with wives losing interest, as I think it has to do with the fact that as men get older they tend to become more open to the idea of being with another man.

When I was younger I was all in to proving my masculinity, and trying my best to conquer as many women as I could... (which wasn't many!) While I was in college I had a few guys come on to me, but I was afraid of the stigma that would be attached to me if I was ever "outed" So, although I was intrigued with the idea of being with a guy, I refused to allow myself to succumb to the urges I had brewing inside of me. It didn't take too long before I did, mid 20's I think... and I've never looked back once with regret... except the regret I feel for not doing so sooner.

Being bisexual at an older age I find having sex with both men and women close to my age is still just as vibrant and trilling as it was when I was younger. Of course, although I"m 51 I don't really think of myself as old... ask me again when I'm 77, my answer might be different then!

 

[PT-NH]

I'm another 40+ year old who has reached that phase to be open and curious about enjoying more "combinations" of sexual fun. My girlfriend has always wanted to enjoy two cocks and it comes up while we talk during sex. Over the last year or so I started making comments about what we would both do to another cock, to see her reaction.....she says that she would be SO turned on by the two guys also getting into each other.....wow ! We really got turned on the other night - I was using a toy on her and sucking the toy in between putting it in her....... then filling her with the toy and my cock she talks about it being two cocks......and there were more combinations......... yup, time to make it real.....

 

[dlkereluk]

I came out at about this time of year in 2003, when I was 37.