lasting longer

[drhinnc76]

hey probally already been asked. im a 32 m 6'2 about 260 problem is that during sexx with my wife of 10 years when it starts feeling good for her im ready to get off. really pisses me and her both off can anything be done to help? shes great and would love to go longer for her pleasure and mine . shes about 5'11 close to 190 i guess any reply welcome.tried cock rings and thay dont help

 

[Francisromantic]

stating the obvious

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[SweetErika]

You're right, this is a common topic. Try these (which I found by searching this way; in the future, you can just substitute your own key words/phrases for everything after the 'site:forum.literotica.com' part [it's usually much easier than dealing with the forum search function ):
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=231380&highlight=lasting+longer
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=23708024#post23708024
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=598768

I'm also wondering if your partner is having at least one orgasm before you have sex and how she feels about how long you're lasting.

For me, sex is just gravy - if I have an orgasm or three during, fine, but those are simply extras because I nearly always come before sex. Therefore, I don't care how long my guy lasts, and it'd actually really bother me if he focused on trying to last, rather than enjoying it and relaxing into his best orgasm. I'd also worry about the focus on lasting longer becoming a problem, as some guys work on it so much that they have trouble coming when the moment is right and end up lasting WAY too long!

So, make sure you talk to your wife about this and find out how she feels. Maybe she's happy with the way things are now, or would prefer to come before sex, or would just like a couple of minutes more, rather than a marathon man.

 

[drhinnc76]

yes we use toys and stuff during and before i still cant last over 10 good minutes of hard sex like she likes condoms dont work either. i just want to last longer somehow

 

[SweetErika]

yes we use toys and stuff during and before i still cant last over 10 good minutes of hard sex like she likes condoms dont work either. i just want to last longer somehow

And SHE has said she wants you to last longer? Because 10 minutes of hard intercourse is perfectly adequate, or even overkill, for most women. Just make sure this is something she wants first. Ask her flat-out, "I've been considering finding ways to last longer during sex. Is that something you want, or are you happy with the ten or so minutes of thrusting we have now?"

Be aware that she may very well be one of the 75% or so of women who don't come from penetration alone, or the stars may have to align just right for her to come, so more thrusting may not do a damn thing for her. She also might prefer to go a couple of rounds, rather than being subjected to one long session of thrusting, which can easily become painful and boooooooring.

If it IS something she really wants, then go on to try the techniques suggested here and in the threads I linked to. Avoid numbing creams/lubes, medications, drugs, herbs/supplements, etc. Do try male kegels (google it; in my opinion, this is the best solution--even though it takes a couple of months to see good results--because it can lead to multiple orgasms for you by stopping your ejaculation until you're ready to let it loose), tantric breathing, mental tricks, switching positions, using lots of lube, and perhaps coming beforehand via sex or masturbation. While something like condoms may not work on its own, it might be effective in combination with kegels or other techniques.

There's no magic bullet here. You're going to have to communicate with your wife to see what she wants, read up on different techniques and experiment to see what could work for both of you.

 

[drhinnc76]

oh yes she wants to last long as possible cause she loves to ride and be done hard and fast. i just cant keep from cumming when she starts riding hard and fast.

 

[Jack_Samuel]

Whew tough one. Sometimes no matter how much we want things we cant them.

Not everyone is built for pornstar sex and i know that 10 minutes of hard fucking would do me everytime. Id say it would do most people.

I guess the important thing is to stay confident and know your not doing anything wrong

 

[xby2]

Exercise

Try working out and exercising regularly. It helps.

Have sex more frequently than youdo at present.

Dont worry that you will finish off while having sex. Just enjoy what you do.

If she is riding you and you are not able to hold it, try doggie style and other positions and se which one works.


Also look in to Mr.G's squirting technic under HOW TO forum.

Good Luck

 

[drhinnc76]

ok ty for replys ill figure out something even if the blue pill id try if it would work

 

[tenchikoi]

My boy and I have the same problem. He would love to last longer. But we have sex perhaps once a week, if that, because of his hectic work schedule and him being overly tired.

Just yesterday afternoon, we were trying to take advantage of some daytime lovin while he was home.

We snuggled for a few minutes, then did 69 for a while. I had 3 very nice orgasms from that alone. Then we switched to doggy because it's my favorite position.

He literally lasted just barely 2 minutes before he blew. I was very frustrated, but I understood the reasons behind it. He was upset because he thought he hadn't satisfied me.

As much as I love intercourse and wish it could last much longer, it's more important to me to just be with him. He is what turns me on, not what we do.

 

[CatfishTrucker]

You know something I've found?
If I'm sleeping enough, getting a little exercise, and eating right, I last longer. Just throwin that out there. Stress can kill it, and all those things relieve stress.

 

[zont]

Masters and Johnson

Google books by two docs, Masters and Johnson. They were researchers in the 60s/70s that developed techniques for managing ejaculations. The books were best sellers at the time. The techniques were simple and easy.....not to mention fun....

Could be very helpful. Good luck. let us know if it works....

 

[IDreamUcream]

I lived witha nymphomaniac for 2 years

To last longer, I would withdraw when I thought I was gonna cum.
Wait for the urge to pass (maybe 10-15 seconds) then start again but slowly.

I could last for ages doing this, but the downside was I had a permanently
split wood.

 

[banes27]

I have a tip

Cum first then have sex. So say perform a lot of oral, make her cum from that a few times before sex and then make sure you cum as well, from a blowjob or a handjob, or mix the 2 together and get her to masturbate and suck you off till you both cum. That way you'll last longer next time

This is only something I do if I haven't cum in 2 or more days though and I only know that it works for me

 

[bobinks]

Many men think of arousal as a binary thing. It's on or off. Either you're aroused, or you're not aroused. Try to think of your arousal as a scale from 1 to 10. Get to a point where you can recognize that you are at a 5, or 10, then get to where you can recognize the difference between a 5 and a 7 and a 9... When you masturbate, get yourself to a 7, then relax and drop down to a 5, then get to an 8, then relax and drop down to a 5 or 6, then get to a 9, then relax again. Work on this over time. You'll get to where you can relax before you ejaculate, and then continue again. Once you ejaculate, it's over.

On a side note, I'm surprised that many of the people on this thread are using the term 'sex' to refer to intercourse. Isn't it all 'sex'?

 

[banes27]

Many men think of arousal as a binary thing. It's on or off. Either you're aroused, or you're not aroused. Try to think of your arousal as a scale from 1 to 10. Get to a point where you can recognize that you are at a 5, or 10, then get to where you can recognize the difference between a 5 and a 7 and a 9... When you masturbate, get yourself to a 7, then relax and drop down to a 5, then get to an 8, then relax and drop down to a 5 or 6, then get to a 9, then relax again. Work on this over time. You'll get to where you can relax before you ejaculate, and then continue again. Once you ejaculate, it's over.

On a side note, I'm surprised that many of the people on this thread are using the term 'sex' to refer to intercourse. Isn't it all 'sex'?

From my experience men (although to my knowledge me) are able to carry on after ejaculation, it just takes effort and time to get the stamina [back]. Mostly massive arousal but not so much that the head becomes to sensitive helps

 

[webejamn]

i lack in the stamina area as well, one thing that works for me, is when i am about ready to cum, i pull out most of the way, and start to play with her, this usually will give me 5 min or so, by then i am ready to go again,
if i just cum in her, i am too sensitive to keep going much longer,

 

[youngleo]

Everyone is telling you what works best for them. Everyone is different. I beat off watching porn for a minimum of 20 minutes. Backing off at the point of orgasm. You have to do the same thing with your wife or girlfriend. When you get tight balls, back off, but keep arousing her. My girlfriend ususallly cums 2-3 times before I cum. About a 20 minute fuck session.

 

[pussy_liquor]

Don't think my wife wants it to last any longer!

 

[akatrex]

You cum too early mainly due to your own brain. The most powerful sex organ on the planet.

Nothing more nothing less. When your brain GETS IT you could have 10 condoms on and there ain't no stopping it.

Personally I think of the most boring scene in my mind over and over again. Mine is a basketball game. (Sorry Basketball Fans, it bores the crap out of me.) Disconnecting from the action going on.

When I am ready I refocus and WOO HOO we've got LIFTOFF.

 

[anoncuriousm]

i can understand the desire to prolong the actual fucking, and i do it too. what works for me is just staying put inside my gf for a minute without moving when i know i'm getting too excited, or pulling out while continuing to pleasure her with my hands/mouth. but i also think that sometime you have to look at the total sexual experience/intimacy that can last for an hour or more with even only a minute of dick in pussy penetration. there are MANY things that are part of sex that do not get you 'off'. why not prolong the sex by doing more of those things and not worry about prolonging your dick in her pussy? worrying about prolong this part of it takes away from both partners' pleasure.

 

[satindesire]

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[infinity706]

Oh, Viagra works fine for both. It doesn't stop you from getting off too fast, but it gets you ready for round 2 faster.

 

[Sexy_Shalu]

Oh, Viagra works fine for both. It doesn't stop you from getting off too fast, but it gets you ready for round 2 faster.

How much does Viagra Cost ?

 

[satindesire]

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