last post he choked me tonight

[woodnymph_O]

and shoved me and kicked me, and he took my little girl.
I had yelled at him.
well let me back up

i asked him tonight for an apology , for the ugly things he called me last night and the insults he threw at me.
he got mad that i brought up our argument and the fact that he was wrong. But i proved he was wrong, he and i both knew it and i felt i deserved an apology for being called crazy and stupid,
he left in a huff as usual when i dare sat something he doesn't like, and called me to tell me put his work things on the porch. I lost it tonight as 2 1/2 years of his threats and emotional blacmail piled up and I drove 10 miles to yell at him. And I did , i yelled at him for everything he has put me through these 2 years in about a 30 second stream , i said i was done, tired, and it was over, he needed to come get the rest of his things, i tried to leave at this point , but he followed me, choked me and took our daugter. He followed me home and we argued more, and when i tried to take my daughter who is 1 out of her car seat to calm her down he started to choke me and drag me away from her again. Then he tried to get my son out of the back seat of my car. and i didnt let him , i backed up creaming the door , and got inside with my son , to call my father. then he took off , i dont know where my daughter is , i dont even know if ill see her, but then again he is so in love with his damn computer game, he will be back to get this, so this is why i say goodbye. and cloudy, if you're out there , you were right , i should have run when i had the chance
i love you all
Nymphy

 

[Colleen Thomas]

and shoved me and kicked me, and he took my little girl.
I had yelled at him.
well let me back up

i asked him tonight for an apology , for the ugly things he called me last night and the insults he threw at me.
he got mad that i brought up our argument and the fact that he was wrong. But i proved he was wrong, he and i both knew it and i felt i deserved an apology for being called crazy and stupid,
he left in a huff as usual when i dare sat something he doesn't like, and called me to tell me put his work things on the porch. I lost it tonight as 2 1/2 years of his threats and emotional blacmail piled up and I drove 10 miles to yell at him. And I did , i yelled at him for everything he has put me through these 2 years in about a 30 second stream , i said i was done, tired, and it was over, he needed to come get the rest of his things, i tried to leave at this point , but he followed me, choked me and took our daugter. He followed me home and we argued more, and when i tried to take my daughter who is 1 out of her car seat to calm her down he started to choke me and drag me away from her again. Then he tried to get my son out of the back seat of my car. and i didnt let him , i backed up creaming the door , and got inside with my son , to call my father. then he took off , i dont know where my daughter is , i dont even know if ill see her, but then again he is so in love with his damn computer game, he will be back to get this, so this is why i say goodbye. and cloudy, if you're out there , you were right , i should have run when i had the chance
i love you all
Nymphy

Oh god.

*HUGS*

Take care nymphy and please be careful. Please please please don't put yourself in a situation where you are alone with him again.

*HUGS*

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

Give me a description, a location, and I will drive all night and kill him.

 

[woodnymph_O]

im so glad you are out there tonight , makes me not feel so alone

ty both for worrying and lucifer you almost me me smile honey ,, thats saying alot right now

 

[tolyk]

Give me a description, a location, and I will drive all night and kill him.

I'll sneak across the American border and join you. Need any munitions, or shall we use swords?

 

[tolyk]

ty both for worrying and lucifer you almost me me smile honey ,, thats saying alot right now

*****HUGS*****

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

I'll sneak across the American border and join you. Need any munitions, or shall we use swords?

I'm using an assassin's dagger myself.

 

[woodnymph_O]

why is it

that those of us who love so deeply have such a hard time finding love in return ?

 

[LadyJeanne]

I'm so sorry, sweets! Take care of yourself. Have you called police to look for your daughter?

 

[woodnymph_O]

im going to go try to sleep now

i have a hard road ahead of me tomorrow, if you hear nothing else from me assume the computer is gone, I will stay safe send prayers and angels to my little one tonight. She needs them more than me , she doesnt understand.
Nymphy

 

[Dar~]

That stupid fucker! I am glad he's gone, but you need to call the police and get your baby back. I would kill him if I could see him. I am actually trembling in rage right now. Baby, you take care of yourself and go to your father's or anywhere, have the policve waiting for him to come get his stuff. They will take him in for domestic abuse and you will get your sweet baby back. Be assertive. Press charges, do not let him get away with this.

 

[Belegon]

As much as the rest of it angers me, I will save my energy to be directed towards the little ones safety...she is far more important than he is...

that said, do not put yourself in a solo situation with him, it will do neither your daughter or son any good...and Luc, if you leave on that vengeance trip? well, I'm 20 minutes from you...I expect to be picked up...Anduril is mine, but you can have your choice among the others...

 

[rgraham666]

Tol, pick me up on the way.

I can't add anything but my love and support. Those, I'll ladle on with a shovel.

 

[English Lady]

*hugs* and prayers for you and your children. I hope you've called the police and that you can get your baby and get on with your life. you deserve to be happy with them. Take care and I'll keep you close in my prayers

 

[scheherazade_79]

Nymphy, you and your kids deserve better. Call the police.

 

[tolyk]

Tol, pick me up on the way.

I can't add anything but my love and support. Those, I'll ladle on with a shovel.

Well, I'm an insomniac, crazy Canadian... I think I can add lots

Shall we go "sneaky, sneaky" across the border?

 

[velvetpie]

Absolutely call the police and get them involved immediately. You'll need to this when it comes time to hit Family Court and they look at you to see what kind of efforts you made to locate your daughter. Don't let this piece of shit get away with anything.

I have a sister-in-law who is fighting this asshole she divorced and the fights are constantly about the kids. He's not physical but it had taken us a long time to shore up her confidence because he says nasty things and breaks her down. Even now, when he picks up the kids for visits, he says something nasty so we've taken to accompanying her. She's much stronger now so things have gotten better.

I say this to you to let you know that things will get better but that you have to work through some things now. You can't sit around and assume that he's going to do anything for your benefit. Talk to your father. Things that you do now will benefit both you and your kids in the long run.

*hugs and prayers*

 

[wishfulthinking]

Have you seen to your own and son's safety? Is someone able to stay with you, or can you stay at your father's?

Have you called the police about your missing daughter? Even if he has done this before, and showed up a couple of days later, you can't risk that this will be the same.

Don't go back to this jerk. The child protection/family services in Oz view a failure to prevent children from witnessing DV means a failure in parental responsibility. Don't give them the opportunity to take your children away from you.

You need to get a domestic violence order equivalent in your jurisdiction and put your kids on this. If he wants contact/access to the kids, make sure it is with a relative present to supervise him.

Get counselling if you haven't already.

I'm sorry this sounds like a lecture

 

[cloudy]

PM sent.

Please be careful.

 

[Liar]

Shit.

Take care and make sure you're safe. Have no more advise to add, just my moral support and best wishes.

I don't know about law where you live, but here, what you described would be considered a kidnapping.

 

[AppleBiter]

Oh God. Don't worry, you will get your baby back. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Stay safe.

 

[lil_elvis]

So sad, nymphy, my heart goes out to you. I'll never understand guys who act that way. Pisses me off to no end that they feel violence is the solution to a problem. I have no additional advise, but do as suggested and get the cops and other authorities involved. Be strong, and keep safely away from him.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

Oh fuck.

Nymph, my heart goes out to you. I second what's already been said. I hope you have called the police and gotten them involved in finding your baby.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

 

[KarenAM]

Woodnymph, going to the police is a first step. Press charges and don't back down. Get yourself and your kids to a battered woman's shelter and do whatever you have to do to get out of this relationship. There are resources out there that can help you.

It's going to take a lot of courage, but you can get through this.

To you others who are talking violence and murder: I understand your rage, I really do. I've seen domestic violence up close and there is a part of any healthy human being that just wants to kill the perpetator. But this is the real world, not a fantasy where guns never miss and violence solves things. Violence is the problem here, not the solution.

If you want to channel your rage into something constructive, I would suggest getting involved in helping those resources that exist for the victims of domestic violence. You can do this by volonteering your time, or by simply making a donation. You can make it a habit to go and donate blood, if nothing else. The opportunities to contribute in positive ways to your communities are all around you.

Most of all, you can do your best to model positive human behavior. This costs nothing and the rewards are immense. Teach young people around you that our culture of violence is ultimately self-destructive. Teach them that self-esteem, real self-esteem, does not come from knocking someone else down but by helping them up, that charity and kindness are far better virtues than blood-lust and revenge. Teach them that they are loved.

 

[rgraham666]

Nicely said, Karen.