Lao tien bu

[S-Des]

From Malachite

Dear AH denizens,

Because there are assorted interpretations of my departure, I thought I owed you all an explanation. The single incident was not the reason I left. It was not the actual thing about which I got upset. It was that I was unable to stop myself from blurting out an angry reply. This, to me, is a huge warning sign.

I have often reacted angrily or emotionally to things posted, as have many of you. However, I was always able to think better of my actions before blurting anything I might regret (I have a quick temper). I've made it a personal rule, for my own happiness and mental health, to limit or cease participation in any venue where I find myself getting upset, anxious, or otherwise overly emotional. Unfortunately, the AH had become such a place. I was much too involved, and thus too easily upset and likely to flash off at the mouth. My life right now is not such that I need to put myself in the way of stressful situations online.

I've been debating a departure for some several weeks, but when I made the decision in my temper tantrum, I found afterwards it felt right. Thus, at least for now and probably for a long while, I feel it best to leave things this way.

I am very sorry if some will miss me or feel my absence to be a lack. I certainly enjoyed much of what went on, and many of you are more than just online acquaintance to me. I learned quite a lot. Of course, I am not completely out of reach to those who really feel a need to contact me. Several people here can forward messages to me. However, I am certain that the AH will recover from my particular brand of insanity and will continue on, as it has existed before me.

Good luck to you all.

 

[S-Des]

Your grace and compassion (as well as your freaking silliness) will be missed. I still hope you reconsider someday, but I understand. Get the TV fired up, I'm getting Jammies and we're going to sit on the couch and watch Fred Astaire movies (and make fun of 'The Rat').

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

From Malachite

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Dear AH denizens,

Because there are assorted interpretations of my departure, I thought I owed you all an explanation. The single incident was not the reason I left. It was not the actual thing about which I got upset. It was that I was unable to stop myself from blurting out an angry reply. This, to me, is a huge warning sign.

I have often reacted angrily or emotionally to things posted, as have many of you. However, I was always able to think better of my actions before blurting anything I might regret (I have a quick temper). I've made it a personal rule, for my own happiness and mental health, to limit or cease participation in any venue where I find myself getting upset, anxious, or otherwise overly emotional. Unfortunately, the AH had become such a place. I was much too involved, and thus too easily upset and likely to flash off at the mouth. My life right now is not such that I need to put myself in the way of stressful situations online.

I've been debating a departure for some several weeks, but when I made the decision in my temper tantrum, I found afterwards it felt right. Thus, at least for now and probably for a long while, I feel it best to leave things this way.

I am very sorry if some will miss me or feel my absence to be a lack. I certainly enjoyed much of what went on, and many of you are more than just online acquaintance to me. I learned quite a lot. Of course, I am not completely out of reach to those who really feel a need to contact me. Several people here can forward messages to me. However, I am certain that the AH will recover from my particular brand of insanity and will continue on, as it has existed before me.

Good luck to you all.

That is a thoughtful note, in both senses of the word. It and the decision to take a break are indeed worthy of respect.

Take your time, but do return, Mal. I haven't associated with you here yet, but always had the sense that it would be worth my while to do so sometime. Perhaps this will still happen in the future.

Sincerely,

Roxanne Appleby