Ladies, your opinions please

[pleaz_me]

Settling down onto my knees.

You know I will treat you like a goddess.

I know you will!


Ummm.... you know, I think we kinda sorta *ahem* hi-jacked someones thread

 

[mrsoggypecs2005]

Thank you

As some one pretty new to this site then, prior to the hijacking, I found this thread very interesting and enlightening. It perhaps didn't head in the intended direction but the feedback has been so open, frank and honest that I have been captivated.

Can I thank you all for your thoughts?

And guys who feel that they have much to offer - and I am talking here about getting to know people, being intelligent and able to hold a conversation, in addition to any possible romancing, etc. - could continue to struggle because of their inability to strike up a conversation with a stranger?

Shyness and fear of rejection always had the better of me - I've never started a conversation with a stranger in a pub, bar or club.

Guess that I've said enough for now.

 

[skygazer]

Hey mrmikelobe and pleaz me I appreciate all your input. May I respectfully request that you take your chat to the chat room I would really appreciate it.....Thanks

 

[SweetErika]

If I were open to meeting men to cyber with (and I'm not), they'd all be people I'd gotten to know somewhat first. I don't expect online friendships to go beyond chat/email, unless the person explicitly states they're interested in something more, and then it happens to develop that way. I doubt I'm alone in that, either.

The other thing is, I ALWAYS look at someone's profile and posts prior to talking to them further via PM, if I don't know them from the boards. I don't think I'm the only one who does some checking, or at least looks at profiles to get a sense of who I might be dealing with. If your profile clearly states you're married and not interested in a relationship or RL encounters, then why not trust the intelligent women of Lit to read it?

There's nothing dishonest about saying, "I'd like to get to know some of the incredible women here and maybe talk about sexuality, if we click (though I'm not interested in phone or RL encounters)." Why can't you say that, then get to know ladies, and see where it goes? I don't even know that you need to reiterate your lack of interest in RL stuff, considering it's on your profile, and that'll likely come up in conversation as you get to know each other better.

So, give us a little credit for knowing the score and being able to read. Post and get to know people, then you might start a friendly chat thread and take it to PM, then chat or email. Don't expect us to know you'll come off as less abrupt once you "hook" us, because quite a few of the guys here are idiots and only out for getting off as quickly and effortlessly as possible. If you don't want to invest time in being on the boards, try Lit Chat, SRP, or one of the many chat rooms out there.

 

[skygazer]

Thank you Erika for your reply.... Sounds reasonable

 

[lil_squirter]

If I were open to meeting men to cyber with (and I'm not), they'd all be people I'd gotten to know somewhat first. I don't expect online friendships to go beyond chat/email, unless the person explicitly states they're interested in something more, and then it happens to develop that way. I doubt I'm alone in that, either.

The other thing is, I ALWAYS look at someone's profile and posts prior to talking to them further via PM, if I don't know them from the boards. I don't think I'm the only one who does some checking, or at least looks at profiles to get a sense of who I might be dealing with. If your profile clearly states you're married and not interested in a relationship or RL encounters, then why not trust the intelligent women of Lit to read it?

There's nothing dishonest about saying, "I'd like to get to know some of the incredible women here and maybe talk about sexuality, if we click (though I'm not interested in phone or RL encounters)." Why can't you say that, then get to know ladies, and see where it goes? I don't even know that you need to reiterate your lack of interest in RL stuff, considering it's on your profile, and that'll likely come up in conversation as you get to know each other better.

So, give us a little credit for knowing the score and being able to read. Post and get to know people, then you might start a friendly chat thread and take it to PM, then chat or email. Don't expect us to know you'll come off as less abrupt once you "hook" us, because quite a few of the guys here are idiots and only out for getting off as quickly and effortlessly as possible. If you don't want to invest time in being on the boards, try Lit Chat, SRP, or one of the many chat rooms out there.

..that just applies to men right?

LOL I adore you girl, you make me wish I was bi.

 

[skygazer]

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[lil_squirter]

Hey Lilsquirter, Erika stated in her post that she was not looking for R/L or cyber with anyone.... Aren't you one of the people who were jumping on me for disrespect a few days ago??? Wouldn't it be nice if you practiced what you preached???

No, I was not offering cyber, hot chat or anything of the like to her. I was stating my adoration for her mind which is what shines through so very clearly in her posts.

I stated I am not bi, thus even more reinforcing that it was a complement, albeit possibly a twisted and bizarre one. I have complemented her for such well written posts in other threads before. I believe S.E. will know exactly how I intended my comment to be taken, but I will happily explain it to you or she if it is required.

The response was a joking complement. I did not ask her for anything, I did not pursue her, I offered a few words of flattery over her ability to so eloquently put her thoughts. I am sorry if the humor was missed by you or because I wrote it so badly, but such was the birth of the post.

If I was entertaining the idea of getting to know someone on a much more personal level as you seem to have thought, I would not do it in a public forum. Harmless friendly flirtation is one thing, but more serious matters are best kept out of the public eyes in my opinion.

I hope this clarifies things for you.

 

[skygazer]

Well then, I'm happy that you hold SweetErika in such high regard....I'll have to admit that her post answered my question in a friendly concise manner which I appreciate... However, I have had some difficulty keeping this thread on track as you can see if you read back a little. So I will respectfully ask those who post here to please try and stay on the subject without out too much private conversation......Thanks everyone

 

[monique1971]

I think that the original question was something along the lines: shouldn't I be able to ask for cybersex directly, and get it, on demand, NSA? Isn't that what this site is for?

My sense, skygazer, is that you feel entitled to something. And I guess I can understand that. No one likes to feel disappointed, frustrated, or that he/she isn't being given his/her due.

But regardless of what you think you "should" be able to experience, if you want someone to experience it along with you (and cyber does take at least two!) you will have to work within their expectations. Those expectations include respect, honesty, and courtesy. You're setting up a false binary between "Wanna have cybersex?" and "Would you be my wife?" There are many women and men who don't want a r/l thing, but that doesn't mean that they're necessarily on the other end of the spectrum and immediately ready to start typing "I suck ur cock" on demand. There's a middle ground.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Hey mrmikelobe and pleaz me I appreciate all your input. May I respectfully request that you take your chat to the chat room I would really appreciate it.....Thanks

We were trying to provide a demonstration of how to develop a meaningful cyber relationship, right honey?

 

[pleaz_me]

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[skygazer]

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[pleaz_me]

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[SweetErika]

Hey Lilsquirter, Erika stated in her post that she was not looking for R/L or cyber with anyone.... Aren't you one of the people who were jumping on me for disrespect a few days ago??? Wouldn't it be nice if you practiced what you preached???

Well, actually, I stated I was not looking for male cybersex partners, not that I'm closed to RL relationships ('cause I'm not). In all honestly, I don't get much out of cybering with someone I'm not in a relationship with, so it's not something I'm open to. I specified men because I've only gotten two requests from women here in as many years, and I can deal with that. And any relationship with either sex that I met here in the future would begin with friendship, not ANY kind of sex. That's the way I work.

I'm guessing Lil actually took the time to read my profile at some point, and knew I'd take it as a joke and compliment, which I most certainly did. ( A on the cheek and a thank you for the straight chick. ) People I post with frequently and who know me can take some liberties, joke around, and haven't crossed the line yet.

 

[skygazer]

Thanks for clarifying that

 

[DirtyKitten]

Have you named your cock??

(curious Kitten, you know)

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Have you named your cock??

(curious Kitten, you know)

Y do you ask?
Did you want to name it for me?

 

[skygazer]

Just giving this old thread a bump to see if anyone else cares to share their opinion.... Anybody else???

 

[KittenKatchus]

Wait, just sitting here staring at the screen doesn't get me any closer to losing my virginity.

Ahhh Shit. I've wasted a month.

ROFLMAO

 

[vangoh971]

your right

All good points. Ladies, i am genuinely interested in who are as a person and what your have to say......now lets fuck.

 

[lil_squirter]

All good points. Ladies, i am genuinely interested in who are as a person and what your have to say......now lets fuck.

*swoon*

 

[vangoh971]

he he

glad to see i reached your sensitive side

 

[sereneone4u]

I only read a couple of responses, but I think that if they dont like it, they can avoid the thread and not dictate what others should do. Its not like you PMed anyone and demanded it--I appreciate honestly myself.

 

[sereneone4u]

I mean, how many times do men pm us, saying how they like our writing and you get into a convo, pming back and forth and then, you either continue it to IM, but even if not, you eventually get, "So, what are you wearing?" lol rolleyes