Ladies, the "age old question"

[lilhubby]

Here's the "age old" sex question for you ladies to answer, but this time with a slight twist to it. My wife and I (actually mostly myself) are struggling in our relationship (alot sexually), we were separared for a while last year and during that time she enjoyed herself with other men (her sexual desires were and still are more than I could satisfy). Part of us staying together is my willingness to allow Cas to have threesomes (which is most of the weekends now). Cassandra loves "well hung" guys, and without a long story, that is what she enjoys in our threesomes (I only measure 4" fully erect and almost 1-1/4" thick). I'm so aroused and turned on by watching Cas with these men, their cock sizes ranging from 7" to one sporting a 9-1/2" cock (he was so large Cas asked this guy Mark if she could measure him, if I had't seen it for myself I wouldn't have believed it), and let me tell you Cas seemed to be in her glory. I'm struggling with the whole "arrangement", I'm having problems mantaining an erection in her pussy when it's just the two of us (I guess that's why Cas loves to take me in her ass the tighter feeling always gets me off). Yet when I'm alone and start "playing back" in my mind the scenes (of those big cocks plunging into Cas's pussy and those unbelievable sounds she makes) I masterbate quite often, sometimes twice a day. I finally told Cas that I was struggling with the whole situation, and she told me that she really loves me and began to share her fantisies with me. She always has a fantasy about men with large cocks, that it was part of a larger fantasy where she was "being bad". She said that she always fanaticized about meeting a real good looking guy at the beach, swimming together in the waves. He telling her how good she looked and then when they come out of the water noticing quite a bulge in his trunks they end up back at her place alone and she can't let go the thought of fucking this guy now. She said that she fanticizes about meeting good loking guys that find you attractive and then checking out their crotch and seeing a large bulge, she wants to fuck them and "be bad" and the thought of me watching her was even more erotic to her.
Cas said that any woman wants to go to bed with a guy with a larger than average cock. She said that any woman would say that all things being equal, two great lovers (one average 6" or below) the other with a larger than average cock, that every woman would go for the larger lover. Cas says for her that a well girthed 8" cock is what her pussy tells her is what she needs for maximum enjoyment.
Well ladies that is the question, when you "check out" a guy how many of you "check out" the bulge in his pants and wonder about his size? and how would you answer: "ALL THINGS BEING EQUAL the lover with the bigger penis is the one you would rather go to bed with?

 

[Rubyfruit]

All things being equal (which they never are, by the way), I'd take the well-hung lover.

 

[AzureAngel]

That's kinda like asking, "All other things being equal, would you take the guy with an extra $5."

X vs X+1. Who would you pick? It's all about value.

Now, a more important question would be... given one great guy with a smaller package and one so-so fella hung like a horse... which do you pick?

 

[Rubyfruit]

The great guy, of course.

 

[AzureAngel]

And this is why we all adore Ruby.

Well. There is that minority that's all about her body.

 

[KillerMuffin]

So she gets to have a lot of fun sexually while you stay in the background, humiliated and slowly becoming impotent because she makes it clear that you're just not man enough for her?

And you're staying with her?

I had a man with a 5 incher that was pretty narrow. He wasn't the greatest when it came down to thrusting compared to someone with a big dick. However he was a master at a few other things. He's the only man whose imagination dwarfed mine. He's the only man who ever came close to keeping up with me. What he could do with his fingers and mouth was enough to make me weep.

The most important bit, though, was that he had made his largest sex organ his brain instead of his penis and that, to me, is much more satisfying.

I have no idea why you'd stay in a mentally abusive relationship.

 

[Rubyfruit]

The most important bit, though, was that he had made his largest sex organ his brain instead of his penis and that, to me, is much more satisfying.

Amen, sister.

 

[red_rose]

Generally speaking, bigger is better...

BUT...

The biggest guy I have ever been with? He was a lazy lover. He would just lay back and watch... like his only repsonsibility was to get hard.

The best lover I ever had? He couldn't have been more than 5"... but he rocked my world with it.

As for the question of whether I check a guy's "bulge" when checking him out... no. I don't. That just seems silly to me.

 

[AzureAngel]

I'm going to have to agree with KM on the abusive relationship side of things. Your choice, obviously, but... it's pretty clear that she's not helping ye olde self image.

 

[Megameg]

Let's say you had to choose between 2 equally beautiful woman.

One has a tight vagina but just lays there, won't suck, won't tickle your nipples, won't do some of the "naughty" things you love. Just lays there while you fuck her, and maybe even tells you how every guy she's been with just loves her tight pussy.

The other has a looser vagina - but she gives the BEST head you ever had, and does "something" with her hips that makes you crazy, laughs at your jokes, and generally gives you a nice warm fuzzy.

Which would you pick?

 

[red_rose]

Let's say you had to choose between 2 equally beautiful woman.

One has a tight vagina but just lays there, won't suck, won't tickle your nipples, won't do some of the "naughty" things you love. Just lays there while you fuck her, and maybe even tells you how every guy she's been with just loves her tight pussy.

The other has a looser vagina - but she gives the BEST head you ever had, and does "something" with her hips that makes you crazy, laughs at your jokes, and generally gives you a nice warm fuzzy.

Which would you pick?

Um. yeah. That was what I was saying.....

I guess it is kinda true what they say...

It's not the size of the boat... it's the motion in the ocean.

 

[Voosla]

I've said it many times, in my experience, its not the size that matters, its how you use it. I've had large men that couldnt get me off, and i've had smaller men who could get me off 3, 4 times in a row. It all depends on the people. I think your arrangement is pretty damn shitty personally. But what ever works for you.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Well ladies that is the question, when you "check out" a guy how many of you "check out" the bulge in his pants and wonder about his size?


I can actually say I have never checked out a guy in that way.

I don't check out the bulge in this pants & wonder how big he is.... maybe I am more into the man ... then just that part of his anatomy... go figure.

Maybe I am weird that way ... or some thing.

 

[lilhubby]

Thanks ladies for the responses, I don't know about this relationship I'm into but I really don't know if there is a woman out there that would REALLY be contented sexually with my 4" penis. Maybe my wife is right that I'm better as an "appetizer", not the "main course", so to speak. You tell me ladies if 4" is all your lover had could any of you be satisfied with oral and anal? I love giving it and I give all my little 4" can give. Well ladies?

 

[KillerMuffin]

Your wife is filling your head with bullshit.

I didn't marry the StudMuffin for his dick. I married the StudMuffin cause I couldn't kick his ass.

If my love came with 4 inches of cock then so be it. You don't treat people you love like they're not whole men because they aren't Long Dong Silver. If he didn't have the know how to satisfy, then I'd teach it to him. I would be perfectly satisfied with anal and oral for the rest of my life. I wouldn't have a problem buying him a strap on, either.

I want my man to feel good about himself. I want him to feel like he's man enough for me no matter what his fetishes and body size are. If I am sexually incompatible with him, then I have no business being married to him.

In my view, your wife is abusive. She's making you feel like you're worthless because of something you can't change. It's also her responsiblity to help you satisfy her, it's not just yours.

If you don't like your sexual relationship with your wife, and I don't think you do, sit her down and tell her that you aren't okay with it at all. If it ends your marriage, ask yourself this, did you even have one to begin with or did you just have something that kicked you in teeth and guaranteed that you'd build up resentment for the rest of your marriage until it ended anyway.

Do yourself a tremendous favor. Go seek counseling about your self-esteem and your self-confidence. That's the most important part of your sexuality. Not your dick.

 

[nasty]

It's stories like that that make me so self-conscience..

 

[Jewelz]

bigger bulges are pretty too look at, but id rather be tickled to death than stabbed to death. There is only so much room for a huge package. And I want to be able to take him deep orally...soo bigger ones would just choke the hell outta me! Id rather the man with an average size know how to use it and his tongue *wicked smile*

And I dont generally look in the crotch and wonder how big it is.....but after a few flirtations...yeah, it did cross my mind.

 

[red_rose]

<schtuff>
I didn't marry the StudMuffin for his dick. I married the StudMuffin cause I couldn't kick his ass.
<more schtuff>

Awesome.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

what Killermuffin said, eventhough I'm male...
If she makes you feel bad, then leave, that simple...you've already given up too much...married women (and men) should not be fucking outside of marriage without their spouses approval, and if it makes you feel bad, you don't really approve.
In my opinion, she's a bitch for even asking...

 

[SweetCherry]

Thanks ladies for the responses, I don't know about this relationship I'm into but I really don't know if there is a woman out there that would REALLY be contented sexually with my 4" penis. Maybe my wife is right that I'm better as an "appetizer", not the "main course", so to speak. You tell me ladies if 4" is all your lover had could any of you be satisfied with oral and anal? I love giving it and I give all my little 4" can give. Well ladies?

OK, my angle on it. I've said it time and time again to Draco. I love him for who he is, not for what he's got in his pants. I don't care if he came up impotent tomorrow. I love him for ALL of him. His wit, his caring nature, his intelligence. His physical attributes are totally secondary. I love the man, not the appearence. If your wife can't get past the size of what's in your boxers, she's not the woman fo you.

 

[Megameg]

Thanks ladies for the responses, I don't know about this relationship I'm into but I really don't know if there is a woman out there that would REALLY be contented sexually with my 4" penis. Maybe my wife is right that I'm better as an "appetizer", not the "main course", so to speak. You tell me ladies if 4" is all your lover had could any of you be satisfied with oral and anal? I love giving it and I give all my little 4" can give. Well ladies?

This is amazing. The exact same thing happened on a similar thread asking the same "age old question."

The guy asked if the ladies preferred big or small. I said I would actually prefer my husband were smaller (than 8") because in certain positions, he bumps up against my cervix (I think) and causes extreme unexpected pain. Also, I think it would be nice if I could get more (or all) into my mouth. The asker ignored my post. The next response was something like "mmmm, baby, I've had big and small, and I prefer BIG" - to which he replied "see? you all like big dicks. I don't have a chance."

Lilhub, all the responses to your original question have been VERY much in support of dicks the size of yours. Yet you still wonder if a woman could be contented. You seem so sure that your dick is too small that you can't even hear us saying it's not.

Attitude is important - if you think you can't satisfy a woman for ANY reason, that may be all it takes to fail. Don't blame it on your dick. And don't take your wife's word - she obviously can't be trusted.

Meg

 

[juicygirl]

lilhubby, your wife is just being mean to you. Its your relationship but I don't think she cares for you anymore really. As to the appetizer thing that was very bitchy. Four inches is fine, and there is a lot to be said to being more or less exclusive. If she really has this revolving stud list to fuck her every weekend I would consider giving her an ultimatum. Stand up for yourself big fellah. At least insist on an extra woman every weekend too.

 

[wellnow]

Ladies, your advice to lilhubby has been very compassionate and as honest as circumstances allow.
It is difficult for a man to believe that size doesn't matter because it does but it isn't always the final determining factor as most of you have expressed.

KillerMuffin's reference to the brain as being the largest sex organ and " If he didn't have the know how to satisfy, then I'd teach it to him. I would be perfectly satisfied with anal and oral for the rest of my life. I wouldn't have a problem buying him a strap on, either. " are great, if only all women were that communicative and supportive. Studmuffin is very lucky.

Megameg's reference to the fact that a man with a small penis doesn't listen is very true because he has probably been lied to soooo many times and has been dropped because of his penis size before having had the opportunity to build a relationship. Experience has deafened us and we probably do need professional help
but we are embarrassed to go and get it.

I really enjoyed and agree with JuicyGirl's recommendation although I'm sure I know what the outcome will be and I hope it won't be the extra woman because the end result lilhubby would still be left out because group sex is usually driven by our animal instincts.

Thanks, to you all. BTW, a bit off topic, but have any of you had a lesser endowed guy use one of these hollow strap-ons and were the results satisfactory?