Ladies, I need your help...

[Teloz]

... with a little research project. I'm a mere man and have absolutely no idea how a woman feels when she makes love, has sex, whatever you want to call it.

What I want to know, and this is genuine research not just puerile curiosity, is how it feels when you are penetrated by a penis. Let's assume your partner has been considerate and has got you "hot to trot", how does that first entry feel?

I hope you can help.

 

[Bianca_Sommerland]

... with a little research project. I'm a mere man and have absolutely no idea how a woman feels when she makes love, has sex, whatever you want to call it.

What I want to know, and this is genuine research not just puerile curiosity, is how it feels when you are penetrated by a penis. Let's assume your partner has been considerate and has got you "hot to trot", how does that first entry feel?

I hope you can help.

Depends if it's the first time with a partner or if he's a regular. With regular sex with the same person I find, personally, I get so used to it it takes a bit more to get past the feeling of familliarity. Guess it's the difference between well worn jeans and a nice new pair that feels heavenly being pulled on, with the fresh new material clinging in all the right places. It doesn't matter if the guys bigger or smaller. The excitement makes my body want to feel each new curve and nuance as it presses in.

Now I sound like a whore. Huh. Well I'm a happy whore anyway

 

[Teloz]

... Now I sound like a whore. Huh. Well I'm a happy whore anyway

Just because you like sex it doesn't make you a whore or a slut, it means you're normal. Don't believe the propaganda put forward by the Neanderthals in our society, just stay happy. Enjoy!

 

[3113]

How hot to trot? if a woman has just or still is orgasming, than penetration will bring it right back on again. At which point that first stab is the beginning of "Harder! Faster! Deeper!" Meaning the sensation of that first moment can get lost in the whole feeling of soaring on that orgasm--not saying we don't know we've been penetrating, but the first moment isn't distinguished from the rest of the pumping and pounding and such.

From your question, I'm assuming that the two are taking this slow? Otherwise that first entry goes by in the blink of an eye.

Also, how virginal is the girl?

 

[Teloz]

How hot to trot? if a woman has just or still is orgasming, than penetration will bring it right back on again. At which point that first stab is the beginning of "Harder! Faster! Deeper!" Meaning the sensation of that first moment can get lost in the whole feeling of soaring on that orgasm--not saying we don't know we've been penetrating, but the first moment isn't distinguished from the rest of the pumping and pounding and such.

From your question, I'm assuming that the two are taking this slow? Otherwise that first entry goes by in the blink of an eye.

Also, how virginal is the girl?

PMSL You're just trying to make my life complicated now! Let's assume a woman who has been sexually active for a while and is past the first orgasm, leaving her well lubricated for the actual penetration.

What are the sensations as the man's penis actually enters your vagina? How does it feel when he's fully inside you? Are vaginal orgasms a reality or a myth? Can you feel the whole length or is it just girth that matters?

I know how it feels for the man, but I truly want to understand, as well as I can anyway, how it feels for a woman. Then when I write about it I can write in a way that women can relate to.

 

[secretme]

It depends on too many variables to give a simple "it feels like..." answer.

What position are you in? Legs spread, legs together, on your back, on your knees, on your side, squatting, standing, tied down... The list goes on. And that doesn't include the variables of how big, how long, how hard he is.

How deep is he going? How fast? Does he know what he's doing? Does he know what you like? There's a lot that goes into it. Not to mention, I'd venture to guess that every woman is a little different.

 

[Bianca_Sommerland]

Just because you like sex it doesn't make you a whore or a slut, it means you're normal. Don't believe the propaganda put forward by the Neanderthals in our society, just stay happy. Enjoy!

Thank ya doll. I try to remind myself that guys do it so what's the big deal. Slips in sometimes. Uck, freakin' social conditioning

 

[secretme]

PMSL You're just trying to make my life complicated now! Let's assume a woman who has been sexually active for a while and is past the first orgasm, leaving her well lubricated for the actual penetration.

Okay. If you've waited and she's well lubed but COMPLETELY done with the first then, depending on the woman, it could be more difficult to go back that way. If you're just looking for what does it feel like, period. then...

What are the sensations as the man's penis actually enters your vagina?
How big is he... My man is better than average. It always feels filling. Like if you're putting something in your mouth. What does it feel like to you when you take a big bite versus a small bite of something? If we're done having sex and he's just inside me... There's the pleasurable warm tingle that seems to emanate from inside.


How does it feel when he's fully inside you?
How deep did he go? It could hurt. But mostly just a lot of pressure. The more excited I am the deeper I want him and the less it hurts if he goes deeper too quickly or too hard. But he better go slow in the beginning. He's way to big to force it comfortably. That back wall (cervix) is flexible and reacts to the stimulation just as much as the rest of the equipment. If a woman's not wet enough it won't feel good and if her body in general isn't ready for it, it won't feel good either.


Are vaginal orgasms a reality or a myth? Definitely not a myth. Though they can be hard to come by... If a guy goes anywhere near my clit, it won't work for me. And it works best for me if I don't have control over the situation at all. Being held down seems to do it. But for me it takes longer and he better be patient. Again, everyone is different though.


Can you feel the whole length or is it just girth that matters?
Both. See comments above. If he's too long then he's gonna hit her cervix and he better know how to do it right or it's gonna hurt.

 

[Teloz]

Thanks secretme, now we're getting somewhere and I know that a massive prick isn't necessarily what a girl wants. A considerate lover who knows what he's doing and can make allowances if he is well endowed is much more important.

I once heard that length was not an issue, it was girth that produced most sensation, is that true?

 

[secretme]

Thanks secretme, now we're getting somewhere and I know that a massive prick isn't necessarily what a girl wants. A considerate lover who knows what he's doing and can make allowances if he is well endowed is much more important.

I once heard that length was not an issue, it was girth that produced most sensation, is that true?

Ehh... I've had both ends at this point I think. If there's no girth or length to speak of he can still do some quite effective things but it's more about angle and whether or not he hits the right spot. If he has the girth and length then there's less geometry involved and it can be really great. But in that case you have to worry about the possibility of pain. Even when he knows what he's doing, what you like and how to get you there, accidents can happen. Heck, when I'm on top and get overly enthusiastic I have accidentally impaled myself. Not very pleasant.

 

[Bianca_Sommerland]

Ehh... I've had both ends at this point I think. If there's no girth or length to speak of he can still do some quite effective things but it's more about angle and whether or not he hits the right spot. If he has the girth and length then there's less geometry involved and it can be really great. But in that case you have to worry about the possibility of pain. Even when he knows what he's doing, what you like and how to get you there, accidents can happen. Heck, when I'm on top and get overly enthusiastic I have accidentally impaled myself. Not very pleasant.

I like girth, but ITA with the point of it's how he uses it. My ex was long, and he knew exactly what positions worked. My FWB was long and thick, but he was a selfish jerk and it was a string of quickies. The novelty got me off the first time. After that I enjoyed the foreplay and the initial...ummm...joining (god it's easier to be frank in fantasy ) but after that it was thrust and 'God that was good. How was it for you?'

I usually just asked him for a smoke

 

[secretme]

I like girth, but ITA with the point of it's how he uses it. My ex was long, and he knew exactly what positions worked. My FWB was long and thick, but he was a selfish jerk and it was a string of quickies. The novelty got me off the first time. After that I enjoyed the foreplay and the initial...ummm...joining (god it's easier to be frank in fantasy ) but after that it was thrust and 'God that was good. How was it for you?'

I usually just asked him for a smoke

My ex wasn't exactly selfish, just boring and uninventive. It was always the same way and if I wasn't on top I didn't get off. It was like he was afraid to try to do anything I might like and after he was done it was all over.

Now, I don't think I've had a bad experience with my current. He's almost too giving in the sex department. He's always considerate of what I need and he spent a lot of time finding things I like. He's also got girth and length and that makes for an incredible combination in a lover. How often do you find good and considerate with the equipment. I think I got really lucky.

 

[Bianca_Sommerland]

My ex wasn't exactly selfish, just boring and uninventive. It was always the same way and if I wasn't on top I didn't get off. It was like he was afraid to try to do anything I might like and after he was done it was all over.

Now, I don't think I've had a bad experience with my current. He's almost too giving in the sex department. He's always considerate of what I need and he spent a lot of time finding things I like. He's also got girth and length and that makes for an incredible combination in a lover. How often do you find good and considerate with the equipment. I think I got really lucky.

Not often. My ex is an ass most of the time, but he's an awesome lay which is why I'm glad we're...'friends'.


But girl there is no 'Too giving'. Enjoy! A lot of men just don't get the mechanics of pleasing a woman. If your man gets it then all I can say is make use of all your spare time.

 

[Teloz]

I usually just asked him for a smoke

If any lady I'd just made love to did that, I'd probably go to the bathroom and quietly slit my wrists!

 

[Bianca_Sommerland]

If any lady I'd just made love to did that, I'd probably go to the bathroom and quietly slit my wrists!

LMAO! It's better then the. 'You done now? Okay, get off.' I pull when I've gotten to the point I'm real bored.

I'm hard to please. Can't help it. If I can do better on my own the guy better not waste my time.

 

[jomar]

Not often. My ex is an ass most of the time, but he's an awesome lay which is why I'm glad we're...'friends'.


But girl there is no 'Too giving'. Enjoy! A lot of men just don't get the mechanics of pleasing a woman. If your man gets it then all I can say is make use of all your spare time.

Get the mechanics or don't tend to them?

I'm writing a story where the newlywed hubby finds out how and with how many his wife satisfied her voracious sexual appetite before they got married. Part of the story involves her explaining some of the things this thread adresses.

So thank you all who respond and to Teloz for starting it.

I'm thinking Loving Wives, just for fun.

 

[3113]

What are the sensations as the man's penis actually enters your vagina?

Let's try this. The penis is not going to feel hot or cold. (not unless the guy has done something weird to it just before like rubbing it with an ice cube). As you may imagine, there is no roughness. It's velvety, silky smooth, and if the woman is well lubricated (and the man is too) very slippery. There is no feeling of "that's the head, that's the shaft" (not usually, but depending on the woman's sensitivity and the man's penis shape who knows?).

What is felt is the "hardness" of the penis. Again, obviously, a penis is not like glass or wood, but like hard rubber. So when I say we feel the "hardness" it's more like something firm entering. In it's way, it's very reassuring.

The feeling is best described by the word "stab" but not in a bad way. If a woman has had a good orgasm or in the midst of one, then she'll be tight (like your hand squeezing), and she'll very much feel it enter and push and stretch the clenched vagina.

It's nowhere near the same, but squeeze your hand into a fist and push two fingers in. Notice they way your hand stretches open and feels that penetration?

How does it feel when he's fully inside you?

Good!

Are vaginal orgasms a reality or a myth?

Nope. They happen.

Can you feel the whole length or is it just girth that matters?

Girth matters more than length. Once again, however, we're talking an average penis, not one that is freakishly short and fat or freakishly long and thin, or freakishly short and thin or humongous. The average sized penis (about 6") is about right for most women in length. If the guy is longer, he might hit the cervix which can be unpleasant. So it's girth rather than length that the walls of the vagina feel--just as your hand made into a fist will feel the difference between one finger and two and three, rather than the length of your fingers.

Does that help?

 

[Bianca_Sommerland]

Get the mechanics or don't tend to them?

I'm writing a story where the newlywed hubby finds out how and with how many his wife satisfied her voracious sexual appetite before they got married. Part of the story involves her explaining some of the things this thread adresses.

So thank you all who respond and to Teloz for starting it.

I'm thinking Loving Wives, just for fun.

A little of both. I hang with more guys then girls so I get a lot of that "Man I made her come so hard after just stiking it in" convo's.

I try not to let them see me roll my eyes.

Advice. Groom shoud take his time, but not seem to do so. I don't like a guy slowing down and saying 'You like that?' To which I usually respond 'Must you speak?' There are plenty of cues with a woman a guy can go by. Clenching down, moaning. And harder doesn't mean faster. Don't get what guys miss with that.

 

[secretme]

LMAO! It's better then the. 'You done now? Okay, get off.' I pull when I've gotten to the point I'm real bored.

I'm hard to please. Can't help it. If I can do better on my own the guy better not waste my time.

I can understand that... Actually with my ex that was often the case. Why bother with the real equipment when I'm happier with my toys.

At the moment my man it equally good with his manly bits as he is with fingers and tongue and anything else he may decide to try. I'm not exactly easy to please either. It often takes quite a while for me. So I'm eternally grateful that he seems to get as much pleasure out of the play and the different things we do as he does the actual getting off part. I soooo love making love to this man!

Get the mechanics or don't tend to them?

I'm writing a story where the newlywed hubby finds out how and with how many his wife satisfied her voracious sexual appetite before they got married. Part of the story involves her explaining some of the things this thread adresses.

So thank you all who respond and to Teloz for starting it.

I'm thinking Loving Wives, just for fun.

Funny, my situation is the other way around. He's had a vast amount of experience more than I. On one hand it's intimidating, on the other, I think it set him up to be able to deal with my difficulties...

 

[secretme]

Let's try this. The penis is not going to feel hot or cold. (not unless the guy has done something weird to it just before like rubbing it with an ice cube). As you may imagine, there is no roughness. It's velvety, silky smooth, and if the woman is well lubricated (and the man is too) very slippery. There is no feeling of "that's the head, that's the shaft" (not usually, but depending on the woman's sensitivity and the man's penis shape who knows?).

What is felt is the "hardness" of the penis. Again, obviously, a penis is not like glass or wood, but like hard rubber. So when I say we feel the "hardness" it's more like something firm entering. In it's way, it's very reassuring.

The feeling is best described by the word "stab" but not in a bad way. If a woman has had a good orgasm or in the midst of one, then she'll be tight (like your hand squeezing), and she'll very much feel it enter and push and stretch the clenched vagina.

It's nowhere near the same, but squeeze your hand into a fist and push two fingers in. Notice they way your hand stretches open and feels that penetration?


Good!


Nope. They happen.


Girth matters more than length. Once again, however, we're talking an average penis, not one that is freakishly short and fat or freakishly long and thin, or freakishly short and thin or humongous. The average sized penis (about 6") is about right for most women in length. If the guy is longer, he might hit the cervix which can be unpleasant. So it's girth rather than length that the walls of the vagina feel--just as your hand made into a fist will feel the difference between one finger and two and three, rather than the length of your fingers.

Does that help?

I tend to use the word pressure to describe it. I totally agree that you don't feel the shape exactly and if there's no girth then there is much less pressure. And when you really want sex or to come it's kinda like scratching an itch. More girth is comparative to scratching hard and satisfying. But with less girth it might take more vigor to get the same result. In other words, with a smaller penis you don't feel as much if all he's doing is basic in and out.

 

[3113]

I don't like a guy slowing down and saying 'You like that?' To which I usually respond 'Must you speak?'

LOL! Oh, god, I hate it when a guy does that. It sounds so condescending If it's not working, believe me, I'll say something, but if it is working then the last thing I want is to have a conversation. I'm too busy making other sounds and gyrating and such.

Then again, if it makes the guy feel manly and sexy, well, I'll deal

 

[secretme]

LOL! Oh, god, I hate it when a guy does that. It sounds so condescending If it's not working, believe me, I'll say something, but if it is working then the last thing I want is to have a conversation. I'm too busy making other sounds and gyrating and such.

Then again, if it makes the guy feel manly and sexy, well, I'll deal

I once had a guy say "Thank You" after it was all over... I don't think anything ever killed it for me like that did.

 

[jomar]

A little of both. I hang with more guys then girls so I get a lot of that "Man I made her come so hard after just stiking it in" convo's.

I try not to let them see me roll my eyes.

Advice. Groom shoud take his time, but not seem to do so. I don't like a guy slowing down and saying 'You like that?' To which I usually respond 'Must you speak?' There are plenty of cues with a woman a guy can go by. Clenching down, moaning. And harder doesn't mean faster. Don't get what guys miss with that.

Guys are dumb with that kind of talk. I'm gonna practice guy stupidity next week on a guy outing. Hope I survive.

I like the silent cues and will use them. Part of the story is the experienced wife saying things like "you like it when I do this" and clenches, etc...

Thanks.

Funny, my situation is the other way around. He's had a vast amount of experience more than I. On one hand it's intimidating, on the other, I think it set him up to be able to deal with my difficulties...

Equilibrium is good!

 

[Teloz]

Whooo girls! This is great! I can't recall ever being told how it really feels for a woman and this thread is a real education!

I was always jealous of my brother who was much better endowed than I, it was only later in life I realised that my average sized equipment was far more versatile and universally acceptable. Vive Mr. Average! I can't see the point in having a big dick if you can't get it all in.

 

[ples]

It's not as straight forward as you may be thinking. I always had the idea that a guy is like a garden hose - turn the handle and he's up and running and off is just as quick. girls are not wired that way -there are too many things happening as you can see from the responses.