Ladies, I need some advice!

[kindnessmatters]

I am a 35 year old mom of 2, recently separated. My ex and I have not been intimate in well over 3 years

I have a date coming up with a guy who is extremely well endowed. The problem is my ex was my first and only partner I’ve had sex with and he was / is extremely small.

Needless to say I am a bit nervous and am looking for advice from ladies, or men really, on how best to prepare myself for this. I am super excited about things too because we’ve built a really nice connection which I super important to me before ever considering sleeping with a man.

Anyway, any help would be amazing!!

 

[BornNorCal]

Kindness,

I will defer to the advice of any women that respond but I have two important thoughts. Go slow and ease yourself into things. Your mood and arousal are important things to track even if it means slowing him down some. If he is quality, he will understand. That being said, use lubricant and don't be afraid to overdo it. Have some sort of code word/safe word if you need one, but if too much is too much, say so.

 

[kindnessmatters]

Kindness,

I will defer to the advice of any women that respond but I have two important thoughts. Go slow and ease yourself into things. Your mood and arousal are important things to track even if it means slowing him down some. If he is quality, he will understand. That being said, use lubricant and don't be afraid to overdo it. Have some sort of code word/safe word if you need one, but if too much is too much, say so.

That is really good advice, thank you! I feel a bit better since he is a much older guy so I imagine he has faced this fear or anxiety from women before and will know how to help me relax

 

[BornNorCal]

You are very welcome. I hope you have an amazing time.

 

[LeSabreur]

That is really good advice, thank you! I feel a bit better since he is a much older guy so I imagine he has faced this fear or anxiety from women before and will know how to help me relax

Quite apart from the physical part of your concern...will it fit?...will it be uncomfortable?...I'll put this out there for you.

The vibe that you put forward is one of genuine concern for others. I immediately resonate with your user name, and live my life by that creed. So, without knowing anything else about you, I'll suggest that if you have developed a connection with this man then he most likely is a considerate, gentle soul.

If he's anything like this kind, older man, you have absolutely nothing to fear. I send you best wishes for a satisfying and meaningful experience.

 

[matureman32]

That is really good advice, thank you! I feel a bit better since he is a much older guy so I imagine he has faced this fear or anxiety from women before and will know how to help me relax

Speaking as an older guy, I'm sure/hope he will and concur with the previous advice......, good luck and enjoy!!

 

[kindnessmatters]

Quite apart from the physical part of your concern...will it fit?...will it be uncomfortable?...I'll put this out there for you.

The vibe that you put forward is one of genuine concern for others. I immediately resonate with your user name, and live my life by that creed. So, without knowing anything else about you, I'll suggest that if you have developed a connection with this man then he most likely is a considerate, gentle soul.

If he's anything like this kind, older man, you have absolutely nothing to fear. I send you best wishes for a satisfying and meaningful experience.

Thank you for this and you’re right, I do really think he is an incredibly genuine and thoughtful man, so I probably shouldn’t be worrying as much as I am and almost let things unfold naturally and follow his lead a bit

 

[kindnessmatters]

Speaking as an older guy, I'm sure/hope he will and concur with the previous advice......, good luck and enjoy!!

Thank you so much!!

 

[gisade]

Dont be afraid to say no! You dont owe him anything just because he took you out.

 

[M_K_Babalon]

You had two kids, I'm sure you'll be fine. They don't shrivel up.

 

[ericalauren]

You had two kids, I'm sure you'll be fine. They don't shrivel up.

They= vaginas?

 

[34ilookyounger]

I am a 35 year old mom of 2, recently separated. My ex and I have not been intimate in well over 3 years

I have a date coming up with a guy who is extremely well endowed. The problem is my ex was my first and only partner I’ve had sex with and he was / is extremely small.

Needless to say I am a bit nervous and am looking for advice from ladies, or men really, on how best to prepare myself for this. I am super excited about things too because we’ve built a really nice connection which I super important to me before ever considering sleeping with a man.

Anyway, any help would be amazing!!

That guy is extremely lucky. you have an amazing body. Have fun darling

 

[kindnessmatters]

That guy is extremely lucky. you have an amazing body. Have fun darling

Aww that is very sweet, thank you!

 

[M_K_Babalon]

They= vaginas?

Of course.

 

[R0xyfoxy]

Hi girl here, you will be surprise how much you can take when you are horny. Just have fun girl and if it hurts just tell him to go slow

 

[kindnessmatters]

Hi girl here, you will be surprise how much you can take when you are horny. Just have fun girl and if it hurts just tell him to go slow

Thanks so much for this!!

 

[MissyDaddyGirl]

Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay!! If he's a gentleman he will know how to treat you. I'm sure you will enjoy it and be eager to do it again!!

 

[R0xyfoxy]

Thanks so much for this!! You are welcome, keep us posted I am already invested

 

[NOBGE]

I am a 35 year old mom of 2, recently separated. My ex and I have not been intimate in well over 3 years

I have a date coming up with a guy who is extremely well endowed. The problem is my ex was my first and only partner I’ve had sex with and he was / is extremely small.

Needless to say I am a bit nervous and am looking for advice from ladies, or men really, on how best to prepare myself for this. I am super excited about things too because we’ve built a really nice connection which I super important to me before ever considering sleeping with a man.

Anyway, any help would be amazing!!

Lucky guy! As others have said, this isn’t the first time he’s had to deal with this. Explain your concerns but willingness. If he’s worth sharing your body with, he will respect your concerns and take care of you. Might be a good idea to have some lube handy as well. Enjoy!

 

[34ilookyounger]

Aww that is very sweet, thank you!

You're welcome, and seriously you're very good looking. I'm kinda jealous haha when is this date?

 

[R0xyfoxy]

You're welcome, and seriously you're very good looking. I'm kinda jealous haha when is this date?

Ohh I didnt see her pic in the profile, babe you look fav. Now I'm more intrigued, how well endowed is he? How tall is he? How tall are you? So many questions

 

[kindnessmatters]

You're welcome, and seriously you're very good looking. I'm kinda jealous haha when is this date?

It was last night!

 

[kindnessmatters]

Ohh I didnt see her pic in the profile, babe you look fav. Now I'm more intrigued, how well endowed is he? How tall is he? How tall are you? So many questions

Aww thank you!!

Ok, he is about 9 inches long and 6 inches or so around!! He is 6’3-6’4 and I am 5’7

 

[R0xyfoxy]

Aww thank you!!

Ok, he is about 9 inches long and 6 inches or so around!! He is 6’3-6’4 and I am 5’7

Girl, girl girl, I'm in awe, you are very lucky, if he is a good man dont let him go. But first we have to see his heart because a good D*!ck is not good without a good heart

 

[MiaBabe23]

Hi Kindness,
This all sounds very exciting!
Firstly, to reassure you - if he’s really that thick, he’s on the outer edges of what’s ever been recorded, so chances are, he’s exaggerating just a tad
Whether he is that big or isn’t - gonna be blunt lol, but it’s all about arousal and being nice and wet
Otherwise, it’s all about communication, and patience - e.g. he’s probably gonna hit your cervix when he gets fully excited. Some women like that, some don’t, so be ready to ask him to go easy
Otherwise, focus on the fun - it’s what a guy does with it that counts, not size, and that counts for big guys too!