Ladies gather round - Filt’s search for conversational ladies continues - 2021 repro

[filt]

Hello everyone,

Thanks for dropping by. 2021 is forming a gloomy outlook. I don’t feel any closer those much craved late nights out with friends nor is sun drenched foreign holiday seemingly any closer on the horizon. A third lockdown within a twelve month period is a tough one to stomach.

So, why am I here? I guess I am seeking a sexual, conversational, fun loving partner in crime. I add the “sexual” word because it’s Lit, it’s the over arching element of the site and what primarily lured us in. However, you are like an onion - I mean in the sense that you have multiple layers, not that you’ll make me cry, please don’t do that. There is much more to us than just sex, a conversation based on sex alone will become boring, stale and I am prone to becoming bored.

I want to get to know you. What makes you tick, your thoughts, opinions, desires, fear, even secrets (when you get to know me, you’ll know I’ll guard them with my life). I want to share parts of our day together.

So a little about me. I am not single, I am in fact in a long term relationship. Home life is not ideal. I am not poorly treated, nor am I totally misunderstood or any of the things that some might say to portray a tale of woe and sufferance that should be accompanied by a violin playing a soft melancholic melody.

If my status is an issue, I accept your stance - please don’t message me to voice your disapproval or share a series of messages with me before you decide you’re not ok with it. I have a vast amount of time on my hands, do not for a second think that by messaging me you will be filling short limited pockets of time in my home life, not true. However, talk is cheap and time will be my judge as to whether that statement is genuine, I am totally relaxed about that.

I guess we are visual humans so I shall endeavour to create an image in your mind. I am 6’6 - yep, huge. 198cm of human, banged my head on more things than you can imagine, I’m useless in historic little cottages and I am amazing at finding people in a crowded place!

I’m 37, near London - your location is not a big issue but the more closely aligned the time zones are the easier it will be for the pair of us right? I sleep terribly though so who knows what time of day I could be here! Stockily and powerfully built, shaved brown hair, green eyes with glasses, stubble, large hands (let’s face it I’d look even more ridiculous with small ones) with long and thick probing fingers, powerful thighs (I am told I have nice thighs - https://ibb.co/nmsVTGL - why don’t you be the judge of that?) and humongous size 14 (US 15) feet. Is it true what they say about big feet? Yep, purchasing footwear is an absolute nightmare.

My life has been a bit of a journey in the last few years. I have friends, my circle is deliberately small. I have a tump of acquaintances, yet I am prone to feeling lonely in my own mind. I took a serious look at myself and needed to change. It took a lot courage to do that, to get, accept help and take onboard what they said. I shed 30% of my body weight, I eat better, I have learned an extraordinary amount about myself, as well as others and I have developed a genuine enjoyment of exercise - weight training and spinning is my primary poison.

I love sports - don’t worry I am capable of talking about other things so I will not bore you on my view of tactical formations and their pitfalls, I promise! I am an unashamedly a number nerd, I like stats and I combine them with my love of sports to make a pocket money income.

My dogs are my absolute heroes. They’re thoroughly bonkers, eclectic rabble that have been cobbled together and rescued - I am a right softie when it comes to dogs. They drive me mad, they terrorise me but I love them to bits.

I love music, it propels me to people, events and memories that evoke a tump of emotion. My aim for 2020, now 2021 and probably to be pushed into 2022 is to watch more comedy. I love to laugh, the creative and speed of wit of stand up fascinates me. Some people (probably the ones with questionable humour) have urged me to try stand up as my wit is, allegedly, rapier like.

So a chunk of my soul bared, and my thighs, bared on a public forum. Let’s have a conversation and see where it takes us. I have made my leap of faith, make yours and come and say hi, after all we should “never be afraid to try something new because life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know”.

Have a good day

 

[LTMMC]

a lot of thought

It seems to me, you put a lot of thought into your ad, filt. So I wish you two "eyes" of a woman catching your ad today, or soon thereafter, which are curious enough to take in everything you have written into it.

And then a heart connected to her eyes, which appreciates most of what you wrote. Good luck to you!

 

[filt]

Thanks for your kind words and wishes, LTMMC. Really appreciate it, mate.

 

[NorthernVAM]

Loneliness & Sex ..

First, I have to say that the filt's post was well written, but it was also somewhat thought provoking for me. What struck me was that the overall tone of the posting seemed to convey a sense of loneliness, and the hope that by finding someone to talk to on this site, some of the emotional pain associated with loneliness will be ameliorated.

When I was a younger man, I think that posting would have resonated with me more than it does now. One of the things that I've learned, at least about myself, is that much of the "feeling" of loneliness is really something that has less to do with the external world, and much more to do with how you cope with and process your feelings and emotions.

When I was in my 20s and had my first "real" apartment and was living alone I can remember feelings of anxiety because I was alone and I felt isolated. Sometimes, I would cope with those feelings by going out to a local cafe, and sit among the patrons, and write. If I were doing it today, I probably would have a laptop with me, and do my writing that way. At the time, I thought the anxiety was just part of feeling lonely, and that I would never have the type of relationship with a woman that I wanted.

Decades later, I can say that I doubt that I will ever feel that level of loneliness. In fact I've tended to go the opposite way, and prefer not to have to deal with a lot of people who want to make emotional demands upon me to deal with their feelings. I think lots of people remain in unhappy situations because of the fear of loneliness, and I tend to think that is a shame, because if you look outside of yourself to be "happy" or "comfortable", you'll never discover the fact that you can create your own "happy place" without others, and that you can share your happy place with others when you feel the need to, or enjoy it in solitude when you feel the need to.

I think some people mistake the emotional euphoria that sex can provide as a remedy or a solution for loneliness. I'm a bit wary of anything that can provide such an emotional high -- mostly because emotional highs like seem to be unsustainable in the long run. The best analogy I can think of outside of romance are people who win lottery jackpots. They experience a "happy high" for a year or two, and then they return to whatever baseline of happiness there had before they won the lottery. That's why I'm suspicious of any "external" remedy for loneliness.

Maybe my attitude is just part of the maturation process that we all experience to one degree or another as we go through life. On the other hand, I could just be an "odd ball", a "one off", someone who belongs on the "island of misfit toys" for those who get that reference.

And in case nobody can tell, I'm really procrastinating in starting my work day today ... does anyone have a motivation pill that I can use?

 

[filt]

Morning all,

Not been able to get close to this thread for a while.

NorthernVAM - thanks for the post. It is quite thought provoking. I started a new job this week, no home working, no screens. Course, a mask, but I’m interacting with people. Tonnes of them. Short and rapid interactions. It’s a tremendous feeling to have back and it has dramatically altered my mood and outlook in a matter of days,

I guess the issues with Covid and the restrictions each region has is it leaves people a little cut off. I love my own time and own company but I guess these things are all about balance. We are social beings and it doesn’t need to be long, deeply philosophical or profound, well it doesn’t need to be for me.

As for the sexual element, that’s just fun. Plus, again perhaps just for me, it needs an element of connection because it allows me to learn more about the person because we are not solely sexual beings and I am easily bored!

Girlygirl - thank you so much. Really kind of you to pitch in. I hope you’re well and I seriously appreciate your kind words.

Have a great weekend people

 

[filt]

Hello

Rumours of my demise are untrue. Thought I’d stick my head round the door and say hello.

To those who have checked in, thank you. To those who have messaged off the back of this post whilst I have been gone, if you’re still around and interested drop me a line as a couple of months is a lifetime in Lit land