Knight in Shining Armor Syndrome

[WastelandVoice]

Anyone who reads my posts and my threads would probably not expect that I, WastelandVoice, would suffer from the unfortunate condition known as KISAS, or Knight In Shining Armor Syndrome.

Indeed I have a multitude of fetishes, turn-ons, and sexual appetites that might perhaps give you a certain impression of me as a sexually deviant, dominant, and perverse individual..

All of the above are probably true.

But nothing gets me going quite like a damsel in distress. Asshole boyfriend? Bad home life? Hopeless lost cause that previous boyfriends have given up on? That's right in my wheelhouse. Are you broken? I think I can fix it. I want to fix it. I CRAVE fixing it.

Case in point: I just spent 50 dollars on the Lit cams to talk to a girl who was crying. No, I wasn't sexually aroused by her tears (although sometimes tears are hot- let's be honest with each other), and no it wasn't the idea of seeing her masturbate or perform sexual acts while crying that did it for me.

Honestly? I just wanted to make her stop crying. It made me feel bad to see a pretty young girl crying and I felt, perhaps it was my ego shining in, that by throwing her a few American dollars and saying nice things- this pretty Romanian girl who is probably being forced into sexual servitude at gunpoint might have a better day.

When we connected she asked me what I wanted to see her do and she was shocked when I told her that all I wanted her to do was smile. I think she genuinely found that to be nice.

I'm not a webcam kind of guy and I probably never will be but I talked to her for a few minutes.. okay, 17 to be exact (at $2.50/minute) and she seemed like a nice girl- the kind I'd like to ask out and get to know.

Except of course for the whole being a Romanian webcam sex slave, living in Romania, and not quite speaking English thing.

Other than that though... Game on.

Not sure if this is exactly the right place to post this- don't know if its a fetish so much as a compulsive need... but I felt the compulsive need to talk about it somewhere and this seemed as logical a place as any.

 

[sunandshadow]

I sort of feel like this, though with the genders reversed. I need to be needed. For me it's not just any hurt though, I'm specifically attracted to the idea of a man who does not think he's lovable or desirable.

Of all the story ideas I've ever come up with, one of the ones with the greatest 'literary merit' explores this theme: a 40 year old man getting divorced because his wife has decided she's done having children, has been working as a painter and gaining the fame and respect she always wanted, and she just doesn't need him there telling her she's worthwhile any more. He can't be in love with her when she doesn't need him. He instead falls for a younger woman with significantly more problems and starts a new family with her.

 

[WastelandVoice]

Sounds like an interesting story indeed.

I too know that feeling of craving someone who considers themselves undesireable. Half the time it's not warranted, the other half of the time there's a reason that no one wants them but we have to figure that one out for ourselves don't we...

 

[cum2ut]

My mom used to tell my brothers "If you get involved with a damsel in distress, all you end up with is a distressed damsel. Good luck after that!" But I don't think its wrong, because I think it shows you're a compassionate person. What's sad is the people who take advantage of that compassion. Those people need to be sent to an island together & see who's compassionate then.

 

[asmittenkitten]

Kisas

So funny. One of the funnier posts I've read. Your stellar sense of humor shines through...

 

[WastelandVoice]

I am nothing if not stellar ;-)

 

[OzoneRed]

I want to fix it. I CRAVE fixing it.

I very often feel the same way. Fortuately for my peace of mind, I've learned that I'm just not very good at fixing it.

I'm pretty sure it's something intrinsic to being male. Check out a few Romance and Erotic Couplings stories. See how many of them involve a Damsel in Distress.

 

[richard_daily]

Men with this syndrome are usually whiney passive aggressive pricks... at least that's what the ladies tell me.

 

[WastelandVoice]

Entirely possible, Richard. Although I think not in my case

 

[ElijaRDC]

Ugh. No offense to anyone but I am so tired of this. I for some reason cannot find potential boyfriends who can't get over the fact that I do not act needy and cry and simper and act in general like a stupid ninny. So frustrating.

 

[ConstantineIII]

I fear that I fall into the same category. I have learned over the years that it is best not to charge in like a KISA; however, what has infuriated me over the last few years is for a couple of women in my life to come running, literally, to beg me for help. I help them out, and I am rewarded by complete indifference from them. Then when I do not bail them out a second time, they get angry at me for not dropping everything to help. Now, when I say indifference, I am not expecting lauds or really even thanks, but I do expect a cordial to friendly relationship. I end up feeling like Marlon Brando at the beginning of the original Godfather.

 

[sunandshadow]

Ugh. No offense to anyone but I am so tired of this. I for some reason cannot find potential boyfriends who can't get over the fact that I do not act needy and cry and simper and act in general like a stupid ninny. So frustrating.

There's lots of men looking for a dominant/kickass woman instead. It's just the middle of the road pragmatic/stoic attitude that isn't particularly sexy because it's common and normal.

 

[Poet_In_Camo]

guilty as charged. of course, my need to try to help everyone in need stems from my own pains and hardships...if my experience can benefit someone else so that they may not suffer the same way i have, boffo stuff!

 

[EnglishEm]

Ever since I was a small child, I've always loved reading stories containing a 'knight in shining armour' and I still love those types of stories. To know they truly exist? OH JOY!!!

What a nice guy you are, spending your money to make that girl smile

 

[miss_emiii]

There's lots of men looking for a dominant/kickass woman instead. It's just the middle of the road pragmatic/stoic attitude that isn't particularly sexy because it's common and normal.

Whats not sexy about a woman that needs to be saved sometimes, but is perfectly capable taking care of herself too?
Normal is boring? Maybe your right...your less likely to get a crazy rollarcoaster relationship with an emotionally stable woman...but Id take a levelheaded normal guy over a needy crybaby or macho man any day.

(Not to say the knight in shining armor idea isn't a bad one. Its nice to be a sweetheart, but what happens when you need to be saved?)