Kissing...

[Elendariel]

I've read through a number of articles on the HOW TO board.. but there really isn't much on kissing.
Makes it hard to improve technique when you think you (I) suck.

There was one article on types of kisses received, which had some usefull descriptions towards the end, but I'm hoping to find more how to info for various ways of approaching a kiss/erotic kissing.

Thoughts?

- What's the best kiss you can remember and what made it so?
- Do you think you are a great kisser? How? Why?
- Do you have a favorite kiss? Describe it?
- What are the subtle nuances that make a great kiss?
- And beyond "sticking it in there and swishing around", how does one do a decent job of a French kiss?

Thanks!

 

[bambikiller]

Of course a great kiss depends on the person you are with and what they enjoy.
I've had great kisses being very rough, forcing ones tongue down each other and biting.
I've had very light kissing sessions where we barely touched each other and all in between.
In there time a situation I enjoyed them all.

 

[fire_breeze]

I'll bite.

It depends on the person - I don't think there's a one-kiss-fits-all approach. Each partner, and each kiss, is different and unique. I know what I personally like, but I am also open to what each partner brings into a kiss, and that's what can make it hot, sweet, touching, lustful, poignant, intimate, soulful or in one case - all and much more.

I've read through a number of articles on the HOW TO board.. but there really isn't much on kissing.
Makes it hard to improve technique when you think you (I) suck.

There was one article on types of kisses received, which had some usefull descriptions towards the end, but I'm hoping to find more how to info for various ways of approaching a kiss/erotic kissing.

Thoughts?

- What's the best kiss you can remember and what made it so?
- Do you think you are a great kisser? How? Why?
- Do you have a favorite kiss? Describe it?
- What are the subtle nuances that make a great kiss?
- And beyond "sticking it in there and swishing around", how does one do a decent job of a French kiss?

Thanks!

The most memorable kiss happened over a year ago. He teased me, licking the corners of my mouth, cupping my face, bringing me close... it was an extremely erotic, intimate, soulful kiss. It literally took my breath away and made my mind blank. At that moment, I felt that I was vulnerable, but not weak, completely open, my soul bared and touched... but never ever threatened. It was exciting, heart pounding, and still very comfortable. All I could think of was the moment and reciprocating it for Him.


I don't know... I feel a kiss is a game of tag, of playing, of teasing, of hinting. It's more than foreplay, it's a way of communicating desires, and that should be reflected in a kiss. It's not a prelude to a sexual act but an act itself.

 

[subwannabe]

I think it's one of those things where either the parts fit together or they don't, which basically means if you are with the right person it should be great.

 

[evercurious]

The best kisses I've had were with people that could read me and learn from me. The first kiss I have with a girl is a learning experience, but is exciting because of this. Once you learn what they like, and hopefully they learn what you like, you can essentially tell your partner what you want, listen to what they want, and help get eachother to whereever it is that you want to be...All through a kiss.

The worst kisser I've ever kissed did none of these. She was nothing but fast fast fast, when I wanted to be slow and passionate. The time to me wasn't about excitement, it was about sensuality. Of course, she probably felt the same about me, only the exact opposite. And this is the thing about kissin: It is possible that everyone is the best kisser in the world, and the worst. We are the best for one person, and the worst for another. The only thing that can make you better in general is being able to read the situation and your partner, and adapt accordingly.

 

[VelvetSin]

Like others have said, specific preferences differ person to person.

Personally, I do not want a kiss that is so wet, I need a towelette to clean up afterwards. I like a teasing lick on my lips and tongue involvement, but I don't want my chin, cheeks, and nose to be wet as well from only a kiss. This includes keeping the tongue under control, but it also means not opening your mouth so wide it feels like you might swallow my face.

I like slow and sensual kisses if the mood is right, but I'll admit, if the kiss is lengthy and the same general "moves" are used on me from start to finish, I get bored. If going for a make-out record, try to be creative and add different dynamics along the way to keep it interesting. It can still be slow and sensual, but the same tongue swirl and lip nibble become predictable. If kissing someone for a significant length of time, nothing says the kiss can't wander to her jawline or neck after a little while. A tip: From the women I've spoken with and my own experience, I think there is a universal "on" switch located on our necks under our ear. For some it's immediately under, for others it's further down by the collarbone, but every woman I've ever spoken with loves having *a* spot beneath her ear kissed and goes into the red zone in libido-land. If already into some serious kissing, it's an innocent enough spot to tag and requires no clothing removal, but ooooh. It can be a warm-up that leads back to her lips eventually, or a "remember me" farewell with a whispered something in her ear. I assume the same spot exists on men judging by reactions, but from the conversations I've had with other women and my own response, it sends our pulses racing.

Don't underestimate the power of voice. Just because you're lips are locked doesn't mean communication is impossible. If your partner does something you really like, an appreciative growl, moan, whimper, happy sigh give a lot of feedback (and are another zip to the libido).

And it probably goes without saying, but breath. Please be aware of it. That simple factor can make a mind-blowing fantastic kiss a bomb if the partner is trying not to breathe the whole time.

ETA - Hands, don't forget them. Whether just resting on her hips, running up her back, or in her hair (cupping her head or fingers wrapped in), it can turn an OK kiss into something that wakes up her every nerve ending, all without touching any of the typical e-zones.

Edited again to add the OP's specific questions (sorry for forgetting!)

What's the best kiss you can remember and what made it so?

My fiance should teach classes, he constantly tops himself. I couldn't pick just one. The folks I'd kissed before ranged from pretty good to abysmal, but B is capable of kissing me when I'm in a grouchy mood not wanting to be touched to melty and dreamy or trying to set a speed record for clothing removal, all with a touch of his lips. My favorite type of kiss from him is the "growly, fingers wrapped tightly in my hair lifting me slightly onto my toes, other hand exploring wherever he feels like, leading the way and expecting me to follow" variety. Yum.

Do you think you are a great kisser? How? Why?

Being unable to kiss myself, I couldn't really say. I don't think I'm terrible, and partners have seemed to respond quite positively.

Do you have a favorite kiss? Describe it?

See above.

What are the subtle nuances that make a great kiss?

Expressiveness. A kiss tells a lot about a person, and the best 'kissers' IMO can communicate exactly the type of person they are through that brief (or not-so-brief) contact.

To explain that, my favorite type of kiss above says, "I don't give a shit if you had a bad day, leave your troubles at the door because right here and now, you're mine. Never forget that. We'll talk about it later and I'll help you sort out the problems, but for now, forget your concerns." It does the trick every time!


And beyond "sticking it in there and swishing around", how does one do a decent job of a French kiss?

Covered above also.

(Can you tell I like kisses? Sorry this ran so long!)

 

[PixelPrincess]

I like what everyone's had to say. I just wanted to add that to me, kissing is key. It tells you so much about a person and about your physical chemistry. I absolutely love soft, gentle, sensual kisses that turn into long, lustful, powerfully passionate kisses. Where you can just feel the two of you getting turned on more with each passing second.

I love it when a man touches my face, looks into my eyes, and guides my lips toward his. The combination of touching my skin, mainly my face, with passionate kissing makes me melt.

This thread also makes me think of bad experiences too (hmmm...maybe I shall start a thread on that one....) I remember recently meeting a guy who was nervous as hell. When I finally broke the ice and started kissing him, he started literally attacking my face. He was biting and pulling on my lips and kept digging his nose into my eye. lol definitely not something I ever want again...

 

[Maidinusa]

I love it on my neck and ears....

 

[Mephistophelily]

Ugh, Agree with VelvetSin.
Do not kiss in a way that makes me prefer to get affections from my sister's Saint Bernard.

Tiny numerous ones are wonderful to me. All over. Kiss me gently on the lips, kiss my lower, my upper, my cheek, my neck; little lovely moments all over... Those, I love.

Drowning me in your drool? I'm gonna push you off and make a face. There's a difference between the little licks I like and just slobbering on me.

 

[Hotcappucino]

Gosh, it's been so long since I've had a passionate kiss with anyone other than my wife...

One of my most memorable kisses was with a girl who took a small sip of wine and passed the wine into my mouth as we kissed. It caught me by surprise because I wasn't expecting it, but it was a pleasant surprise. And it must have been a white wine, because I remember how cold it was.

Another memorable kiss took place in a movie theater, when I was in high school. It wasn't memorable for any particular reason other than it lasted pretty much the whole movie, and I'm sure we were a distraction for anyone trying to watch the film.

The worse kiss was after a party with a girl who had pretty bad breath. Ugh!

I've noticed that most girls that I've kissed close their eyes, but I like to keep mine open & watch her reaction. I'll start off with light pecks and nibbles around the lips before any tongue action. When French kissing, I don't jam my tongue in deep, and a good French kiss feels like you're dancing with your tongues, with some give & take, changes in rhythm. Sometimes I like to run the tip of my tongue along her teeth for variety, as well as around her lips. I love caressing her face during a kiss, running my fingers through her hair & lightly stroking her ear with my thumb.

Sigh, those were the days...