"Kinky" is Dead

[MasterPhoenix]

I'm just me.

Alpha Sadistic Dominant Male, perverted, twisted, bent, sick fuck, kinky... whatever you want to use works...

I am all of the above

just me.

 

[nodakgirl]

...old thread, but still interesting topic

I embrace the word kink or kinky mainly as a generalized term to help vanillas or newbies understand BDSM and alternative sexual lifestyles...swingers, perverts, poly, etc....Usually I will refer to myself and friends as "kinksters"

The really specific descriptions are too hard for them to understand....and are left for those of us in the lifestyle

Plus I am naughty, dirty, fucked up, perverted AND pretty fucking kinky!

xoxo

K

 

[ForHerToUse]

I use Kinky, so I hope it's not dead. Has a nice ring to it.

 

[Ahlam]

I'll never be too cool to say "kinky."

 

[Kim_Burly]

The way things are going for me I think I have earned my BDSM wings, but compared to most here, I'm still a beginner. I use it as a way to break the ice or broach the topic. Yes, to many couples, her wearing a baby doll and then making love, or maybe just anal is kinky. But I'm not ready to tell another woman at a PTO meeting that I would love to tie her up, torture her with cruel devices, cane her until she cries and begs for mercy before I make her service me on her knees. No, I think that it's just better if I ask her if her and her husband ever "get kinky" with a wink and a giggle and gauge her response.

Now on the occasion where we are with like minded people I'm very frank, somewhat like conversations here, but more intimate, because it is face to face with another actual human. I love talking to Lynn as she describes what the pain that a fiberglass pole on the side of her dangling breast is like and I can tell her how much it turns me on when she whimpers in pain and begs for more as tears run down her beautiful cheek. So to summarize, I still use the word kinky, but I'll always be an S&M dork, Que Sera Sera.

 

[Pachet]

Tbh I can't stand that word. It just rubs me wrong.

 

[UpwardSpiral]

I will agree that just the word "kinky" has become overused by people who don't truly understand it, but I'm old enough to remember when it was used as a pejorative, like "pervert" or "deviant". So no, it's not a word I throw out much, other than to gauge someone's reaction to it (typically someone whose "vanilla-ness" is uncertain to me).

That being said, I think "kink" is still a valid term, precisely because it's not mainstream.

 

[bisexualsmoker]

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The word kinky had more power before it became mainstream.
The loss of novelty is an influence.

 

[MeekMe]

I haven't used the word kinky to describe myself. Mostly because I don't talk to anyone but Mister about this (of course I talk to all of you here ^_^)

I do, however, ask him once in awhile if he thinks I'm a weirdo. (-_^)