Kinks - how open are you about them?

[discjockey74]

Very open!! Ask away!

 

[Unapologetic_Bull]

My sister knows I'm a bull to hotwife/cuckold couples. She was visiting, borrowed my Ipad which was synced to my phone.. which had a video of me having sex with a Taiwanese wife in front of her husband on it She watched the video.

That led to a conversation about how long I'd been helping couples, what I enjoy about being a bull and her wish that I be careful.

Three years later the topic has never been brought up again.

 

[paulboulder]

I have my share of turn ons and turn offs, to be sure, some of which I have talked about with my SO, who is pretty darn conservative. Some things are best left unsaid to her because I know it's not going to be received well (not open to a FFM three way, for example, and God forbid if she knew I was on here chatting with people and writing erotic stories). So those things I keep to myself. My brother and I are very open about our "favorite things," and always have been - he's dated some adult film actresses and sex workers, and has had experiences that would make my toes curl; it's one of our bonding topics, actually, to share about our peccadillos. I have another guy buddy or two about the same age - we went to college together, and we talk pretty openly about what we like and don't like about our private lives and what we'd like to do differently. Happily, I have some friends I have made on here that have helped me open up about what I like. It's been fun and helpful in that regard.

 

[EmmAgain]

I’m very rigid about kinks. My list of acceptable sex acts solidified 11 years ago when I started having sex and hasn’t budged. They’re pretty vanilla, I guess, and I’m very open about them with new partners.

 

[rshebe]

Kinks are a curious thing. It’s a part of who we are and sometimes it’s challenging to not only discuss them, but to understand them.

For example, I fall in line with many men here that I’ve read about as well as on subreddits. I’ve got a huge panty kink. Of the sub kinks within this kink I fall into the ‘wearer’ category.

Besides myself there are two people who know I have this kink. An old college female friend who has always been encouraging and my wife, who I think has put up with it but has also drunkenly shared with me that it’s “creepy & weird”. Gawd I wish she would be playful and encouraging.

This kink, seems very common and even pretty vanilla in the realm of kink and yet many women are not ok with this kink. Sure they say things like you do you, be happy, etc but then always come around with well not my man.

I present to the real world as a masculine man and I’m not sure one would even know that I’ve got a cute sexy pair of panties on.

I wish more women were truly accepting and playful of this kink.

My wife is okay with my panties kink

 

[LMWM321]

My wife and I saw a sex therapist quite a few years ago. For one of our do-at-home assignments, she gave us a fairly comprehensive list of sexual kinks ranging the entire gamut from gentle hair pulling to forced sex role-play. We each had a copy. Our task was to discuss each kink then put Yes, Maybe or No Way beside each:

1. Yes - Heck yes! I’m into it. Also referred to as “Want.”
2. Maybe – We’d need to discuss particulars before I’d consider trying it. But no promises this will become a yes.
3. No way. I’m not open to this activity. Also referred to as “Won’t.”

It was an interesting exercise. It was helpful because neither of us had to muster the courage and risk embarrassment by naming a kink... they were listed there for us. ..And when we talked about each, it was surprising to find my wife was wayyy more receptive to some things than I expected. ..As one example: She was a Yes to double penetration - specifically, a butt plug in her ass during PIV sex. I had never asked to do this as I thought she'd think it a weird thing to want to do. So hearing she was ok with it was a huge step forward... Voila! We now had something new to try.

There were many other surprises but nearly all from her. Me? ..There were no surprises because I marked just about everything with a Yes. ..We both sorta expected that

These days, I have no qualms asking if I can do something. The latest was asking if I could use the word Cunt when referring to her vagina during sex. It's a word that used to make me cringe but now turns me on. ..I was a little shy about asking. Her response, after hearing my reasons for wanting to do it was a quick and easy "Sure.. it's just a word, I see no harm."

 

[jassybb]

There should be transparency between partners about that. If you dont share, they will never know but at the same time boundaries should be respected.

 

[cadman7777]

There should be transparency between partners about that. If you dont share, they will never know but at the same time boundaries should be respected.

There should be but when you hint of something and the response is somewhat negative it all seems to stop. You don't want the rejection

 

[discjockey74]

I am very open!!!!

 

[MonicaHwife]

Somewhat open.
Close friends and family know I'm a hotwife, but they don't know everything about my lifestyle and all mine and my husband's kinks.

 

[discjockey74]

Somewhat open.
Close friends and family know I'm a hotwife, but they don't know everything about my lifestyle and all mine and my husband's kinks.

Would enjoy hearing about those kinks.