Kink, what be thy name?

[Riles]

Hello once more.

Yes, I am editing this ad because I'm still receiving pm's from new sources and while I greatly appreciate the wealth of information being sent my way (don't stop!) I am also getting propositions in every size, shape and flavour imaginable. That's not what this ad was for, but I do thank everyone for their ....enthusiasm.

The conclusions I've come to are that 1) I don't need a label. 2) I will be asked what my label is regardless. 3) My kind of kink isn't a solo one, so there might be a counterpart out there. 4) The bdsm world is full of crazy, scary smart, funny and helpful people....most of whom don't post!

I have researched local opportunities as often suggested, and sadly thus far can't seem to find anything within a reasonable distance...not for starters anyhow. So with that said, I think I'm settled on just reading and testing the waters online. And no, before you read THAT as an invitation to apply for the job, my interest is singular at this point.


Thank you once more. I have enjoyed both the humorous and educational conversations this has generated, and I credit myself a lucky woman to have received such a great response.


Kindest regards,

R.

 

[Prince Albert]

If you would like to talk/chat/converse, please reply. Thank you, for the eloquent posting.

 

[UhlBWett]

Intriquing

Hello,

First thing I want to make clear is that this is not another ad for casual online sex play. Ideally I am here to seek wisdom from someone who likes being in a mentoring role, and enjoys directing my research, exploration and development. Why the bdsm personals you ask? Because I think it's where my kinks fit in. My hope is to understand this budding side of my sexuality without excessive stumbling on my part. Maybe it's an unattainable goal, but just maybe it's the most brilliant idea ever!

I have been reading the multitude of threads and links on the forum, and I feel more lost than found. My problem is that I don't identify with submission - not entirely. I don't identify with masochism - not entirely. But I like the potential for both of those things in creative ways. I'm equally aggressive as I am passive and I like being controlled by physical force as much as I do from psychological.

So where do I fit in?

I'm not going to write out 10 paragraphs on what turns my crank. If you aren't interested by now, that's fine, but I don't feel like feeding those who stalk these ads and become "D for a day" in order to get a little wank fodder.

If you are interested, I have made a starting attempt at filling in the details of who I am under it all in the past few days on the bdsm forum. Maybe those few posts can help you decide if you will contact me or not.

But on that same note. For those of you who don't have a posting history; that's fine, I understand, but I can't very well get the perspective of who YOU are without one....so let's not waste anyone's time, okay?


So, to that end....hopefully this post reaches the right set of eyes, and trips the right triggers to get you into my inbox and talking with me.

Thanks for reading.

Is there a name for your new thread naughty girl?

 

[Riles]

Is there a name for your new thread naughty girl?

Yes, it's called "Kink, what be thy name?" You can tell this because I wrote "Kink, what be thy name?" in the place where it asked for "thread title".

 

[Riles]

If you would like to talk/chat/converse, please reply. Thank you, for the eloquent posting.

Thank you. Let me do a little look see and I will let you know.

 

[cliteatingman]

Hi I think I am a lot closer to where you are than to anyone who is clearly identified as dom or sub. I would love to explore with you!

Hello,

First thing I want to make clear is that this is not another ad for casual online sex play. Ideally I am here to seek wisdom from someone who likes being in a mentoring role, and enjoys directing my research, exploration and development. Why the bdsm personals you ask? Because I think it's where my kinks fit in. My hope is to understand this budding side of my sexuality without excessive stumbling on my part. Maybe it's an unattainable goal, but just maybe it's the most brilliant idea ever!

I have been reading the multitude of threads and links on the forum, and I feel more lost than found. My problem is that I don't identify with submission - not entirely. I don't identify with masochism - not entirely. But I like the potential for both of those things in creative ways. I'm equally aggressive as I am passive and I like being controlled by physical force as much as I do from psychological.

So where do I fit in?

I'm not going to write out 10 paragraphs on what turns my crank. If you aren't interested by now, that's fine, but I don't feel like feeding those who stalk these ads and become "D for a day" in order to get a little wank fodder.

If you are interested, I have made a starting attempt at filling in the details of who I am under it all in the past few days on the bdsm forum. Maybe those few posts can help you decide if you will contact me or not.

But on that same note. For those of you who don't have a posting history; that's fine, I understand, but I can't very well get the perspective of who YOU are without one....so let's not waste anyone's time, okay?


So, to that end....hopefully this post reaches the right set of eyes, and trips the right triggers to get you into my inbox and talking with me.

Thanks for reading.

 

[scrymettet]

Hello,

First thing I want to make clear is that this is not another ad for casual online sex play. Ideally I am here to seek wisdom from someone who likes being in a mentoring role, and enjoys directing my research, exploration and development. Why the bdsm personals you ask? Because I think it's where my kinks fit in. My hope is to understand this budding side of my sexuality without excessive stumbling on my part. Maybe it's an unattainable goal, but just maybe it's the most brilliant idea ever!

I have been reading the multitude of threads and links on the forum, and I feel more lost than found. My problem is that I don't identify with submission - not entirely. I don't identify with masochism - not entirely. But I like the potential for both of those things in creative ways. I'm equally aggressive as I am passive and I like being controlled by physical force as much as I do from psychological.

So where do I fit in?

I'm not going to write out 10 paragraphs on what turns my crank. If you aren't interested by now, that's fine, but I don't feel like feeding those who stalk these ads and become "D for a day" in order to get a little wank fodder.

If you are interested, I have made a starting attempt at filling in the details of who I am under it all in the past few days on the bdsm forum. Maybe those few posts can help you decide if you will contact me or not.

But on that same note. For those of you who don't have a posting history; that's fine, I understand, but I can't very well get the perspective of who YOU are without one....so let's not waste anyone's time, okay?


So, to that end....hopefully this post reaches the right set of eyes, and trips the right triggers to get you into my inbox and talking with me.

Thanks for reading.

switch is fun too.

 

[Riles]

switch is fun too.

I have no issue with the idea of that, except that there isn't a single desire inside me to be the lead. I simply just don't want to give in without a good tussle.

Which is of course where I then question the submit in submission. Where does the "take it from me" end and the "give it to you" begin?

 

[cliteatingman]

I have no issue with the idea of that, except that there isn't a single desire inside me to be the lead. I simply just don't want to give in without a good tussle.

Which is of course where I then question the submit in submission. Where does the "take it from me" end and the "give it to you" begin?

A good tussle sounds like a hell of a lot of fun!!

 

[scrymettet]

I have no issue with the idea of that, except that there isn't a single desire inside me to be the lead. I simply just don't want to give in without a good tussle.

Which is of course where I then question the submit in submission. Where does the "take it from me" end and the "give it to you" begin?

I haven't really time to answer now
keep you posted
but don't believe all you read on internet.

 

[Riles]

I haven't really time to answer now
keep you posted
but don't believe all you read on internet.

Well yeah....which is why I'm hoping to come across someone who's already run the gauntlet of crap, and can maybe help a gal out by pointing her in the general direction of what I can believe.

 

[Riles]

A good tussle sounds like a hell of a lot of fun!!

Indeed it does, and usually is.

...unless a nose gets broken by accident.

 

[cliteatingman]

Indeed it does, and usually is.

...unless a nose gets broken by accident.

I'd love to have a good wrestle with you that culminates in my pinning and penetrating you!!

 

[Riles]

I'd love to have a good wrestle with you that culminates in my pinning and penetrating you!!

While I certainly appreciate your enthusiasm for the idea, I'm not sure that is the best direction for this thread if I am to obtain my desire.

 

[draig_OMalley2]

been there...i think

Not having posted since I came back to Lit after a long hiatus makes me a lurker, although just an occasional one. I’m much too busy for full-time lurking.

Your thread reflects that state of desire many of us intrigued by D/s experience, not only when we initially make the move explore it, but on a continuing basis. The experience, shared with my long-term mate, is not easily identifiable or defined. It is in our nature to explore. We’ve learned when and how to go about it, and to recognize when and how not to, which is equally important.

When done well, the experience rewards us with a richness added to our lives that we surely would never have imagined at the beginning of our relationship. Enjoy your naughty explorations.

(Now, I must finish writing my lines in time to present them to Ms Em with her coffee this morning…)

 

[Riles]

Not having posted since I came back to Lit after a long hiatus makes me a lurker, although just an occasional one. I’m much too busy for full-time lurking.

Your thread reflects that state of desire many of us intrigued by D/s experience, not only when we initially make the move explore it, but on a continuing basis. The experience, shared with my long-term mate, is not easily identifiable or defined. It is in our nature to explore. We’ve learned when and how to go about it, and to recognize when and how not to, which is equally important.

When done well, the experience rewards us with a richness added to our lives that we surely would never have imagined at the beginning of our relationship. Enjoy your naughty explorations.

(Now, I must finish writing my lines in time to present them to Ms Em with her coffee this morning…)

I appreciate the input. My only issue is that once again I am confronted with this D/s term. Is that what I'm looking for? Does that come into everyone's head when they read my ad? It's not what I intended...unless there's something latent seeping out through my words, I really just don't think that's where I fit. I've considered it, certainly. But then, this is of course the reason behind it all - somebody point me in the right direction and let me know I'm not some kind of mutant. Or, just shove me into the place you think I fit best and tell me it's where I belong - I'll roll with that for now.

Thanks again.

 

[draig_OMalley2]

It is very important to not be hung up on the term D/s, or any other. It is just a term, and can mean as many things as there are people trying to understand it. What is real is that a side or dimension of one’s nature that hides behind convention wants to express itself.

When I first began to explore it, I was frightened that I was, as you call it, a mutant. I was full of anxiety, especially when it came to telling my Loved One about it. I finally did, and it was definitely uncomfortable for both of us. Over time, we both began to realize that the mix of sexual dimensions of my nature was unique to me, and that hers was unique to her, and that such is true for each person.

That was the first lesson we both learned from opening up to each other in this regard. Each of us has our own mix of needs, wants, desires, expectations, etc., none of which fits into one definition or term. Through careful and caring exploration, we learned of a whole new universe our magnificent natures have to offer each other, an unimagined pallet of emotions and pleasures with which to enjoy the “art” of sensuality. Don’t get me wrong. We’ve done lots of stumbling along the way, both individually and together, and continue to do so. But that’s what happens when you explore…

I hope my comments here have been of help to you.

 

[Primalex]

I'll keep my opinion to myself, unless explicitly requested.

 

[Riles]

..............

 

[Pervy_Sage]

I'd never dare imply that I can decode the mind of Riles, but I think I understand what you're saying and wanting. Good luck.

 

[Riles]

I'd never dare imply that I can decode the mind of Riles, but I think I understand what you're saying and wanting. Good luck.

I'm sure you do. Now it's my turn to figure it out.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

I'm sure you do. Now it's my turn to figure it out.

I've complete faith that you will in time. Now...about that av..