Kink in college

[YourCaptor]

By the way, anyone reading this who is in their early twenties and in socal? Please speak up.

 

[jenniferbaby]

By the way, anyone reading this who is in their early twenties and in socal? Please speak up.

I'm 24, live in Los Angeles, definitely kinky.

In college, I was the furthest thing from kinky a person could be. I didn't think about kink (or think much about sex) at all, so I really don't have much to add in terms of finding college-age kinksters.

As for meeting kinksters of other ages, I haven't endeavored to meet any offline except for one, and I met him through Lit.

You know without the web I don't think I would have gotten into BDSM.

This is definitely the case for me. I haven't ventured into offline kink as much as I'd like, so I can't really say whether or not there's much venturing to do.

Another thing, BDSM as it is portrayed in film is just very unattractive.

I've noticed this too. It's all about dungeons and dark holes and scary instruments. In my fantasies of being tied up and forced to my knees, it's usually in a well-lit bedroom somewhere.

This is what kinda boggles me. Aren't you in the LA area? Geeze, man, I'm in the Bible Belt, and I can't take three steps without tripping over somebody that I can confirm is kinky.

I guess my experience is just vastly different. Finding kinky people is not particularly a problem. Though I will say that I am not personally worried about age group. Just find kinky people, and, through them, other kinky people. Statistically speaking, you will meet some across the age brackets.

Wait, YC, you are in California? If that's the case, then your inability to not find kinksters your age is mystifying. You can't step outside in CA without tripping over some kinky motherfucker, and I know for a fact that a whole boatload of those many many kinky Californians are on the young end of the spectrum.

Maybe I need to start taking advantage of this town I live in, if there are many such opportunities....

 

[00Syd]

By the way, anyone reading this who is in their early twenties and in socal? Please speak up.

Holla.

 

[YourCaptor]

I'm 24, live in Los Angeles, definitely kinky.

Hello, are you on the coast or inland? I'm further east, got so hot here today.

Holla.

Did you move out here, what happend?

 

[jenniferbaby]

Hello, are you on the coast or inland? I'm further east, got so hot here today.

Definitely inland. It was hot here as well, still is at the moment.

 

[00Syd]

Did you move out here, what happend?

Oh no, still on the East Coast, haha, I misread "and in socal" as being "and is social."

 

[YourCaptor]

Definitely inland. It was hot here as well, still is at the moment.

Cool, you are on my side then. The way less westwood side. Ha ha!!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Oh no, still on the East Coast, haha, I misread "and in socal" as being "and is social."

I read it as "in social" as in "in sociology"

 

[00Syd]

I read it as "in social" as in "in sociology"

Haha

 

[Naughty_Neko]

College Student

I attend a small liberal-arts college in the Pittsburgh area. We have, all told, maybe a little over 1000 students.

During my time here (I'm a sophomore), I have been in 2 three-ways, have been involved in 2 relationships which involved heavy BDSM play, and have "played" with another couple on a semi-regular basis.

My roommate, who is also my best friend, is an engaged lesbian. She has fetish tape in her drawer, which she has told me I can use at any time.

Most of my friends are into kinky stuff. And this is just a small college in the middle of nowhere.

 

[Homburg]

Yup, like I said before, when everyone sees it but you...

 

[Netzach]

Yeah, I don't get how you can't find kinky people in the LA area.

My personal understanding of the LA scene is that it is partially kind of lame partially a giant prodomination F/m sodom and gomorrah of out of work models and coke. It's not NYC. But it's not nonexistent either, and I think it's less lame than it was when I was being bitched to about it.

But that's just via frustrated LA msubs.

It seems to me like a Dom leaning 20something could actually work his way into the picture perfectly well.

Personally I'm very supportive of subculture. Having tried the "you don't need anything but a good willing and game partner" route I can say that if your needs are fringe, looking outside the fringe is pretty much a waste of fucking energies and emotions for some otherwise fine people who can't give you what you need. Enjoying a tit twist mid fuck is not going to equate to a D/s relationship or the kinds of play you might really be interested in. It might, but in general, I've found it to be a very very poor bet. This is my personal experience, and sticking doggedly to my guns has led me toward relationships of quality, though it took some time. I know other people have had better luck with that approach, I'm simply stating mine. And I'm wondering actually, if the widening buffet in terms of subculture has actually drawn enough kinked people to it as to make it less likely to encounter really *really* twisted people who haven't come out, touched the subculture and then ignored it largely again, as I know I have and a lot of my contacts have.

If I were young and in NYC, as an example, I would probably throw myself into the non-college-specific groups and events as much as I could. Lesban Sex Mafia, Leather Week. There were plenty of twentysomethings at every Leather Week event I went to and these are no way lightweight players. And these are not the people navel gazing online and wondering "am I really a..." they're out there doing it.

 

[00Syd]

My personal understanding of the LA scene is that it is partially kind of lame partially a giant prodomination F/m sodom and gomorrah of out of work models and coke. It's not NYC. But it's not nonexistent either, and I think it's less lame than it was when I was being bitched to about it.

But that's just via frustrated LA msubs.

It seems to me like a Dom leaning 20something could actually work his way into the picture perfectly well.

I know that there is also a big Male-dom/Fem-sub scene in CA, not because I've experienced it, but because I know people who live there. Also a big rope scene.


mmmmm rope.