"Keep Your Distance !"

[Samuelx]

I am not a very social person. Seriously. I am VERY selective as to who I speak to. I don't like letting certain people in my life. I have enough trouble as it is with the women and men in my life. I've had my fill of bad apples and I don't want/need any more of them. When I meet someone with the potential to be one of those,
I avoid him or her like the plague and keep them out of my life. No, I am not paranoid. I can SPOT these people very easily.


Today, in the school cafeteria, I was speaking with my friend Paul.
We were talking with this guy named Daniel. Enters this chick
and she joins the conversation. From the first words that came out of her mouth, she just rubbed me the wrong way and I didn't want to know her. Paul introduced us !!!! What a dumb move !!!! I didn't want to know the chick. Now she knows my name. I got up and left, doing my best to ignore her.


She called out my name, saying "bye" as I left.


Again, this may sound odd to you but I can spot bad apples very easy. I have lived with some very dangerous women and nasty men in my life and the worst thing anyone can do is let those people in their lives. I've seen the very worst things that some psycho women and Bad men can do. I don't let people into my life anymore.


I tracked Paul down and asked him NOT to introduce me to any
shady characters. I plan on ignoring this chick if/when she ever
tries talking to me again. I can SENSE that she's trouble.


I'm not a social person. I don't NEED any DRAMA !!!!


My attitude toward most people is : "Keep your distance !"


Unfortunately, Paul still lives in La-La Land when it comes to that.


Ever feel that way ?

 

[Xectxny19X]

eh...I used to feel like that in HS, b/c I guess a lot of HS people were into proving themselves rather than being themselves. Did that make any sense? LoL...probably not! Anyway, that was my highschool. People usually felt really close to me...but at the same time, I pretty much kept them far away, b/c something just didn't feel right about them for me to trust wholeheartedly.

Now a days, I only feel like that when I'm extremely busy! There's little time, and you just kind of want to spend that time w/ less shady characters, right? Am I getting anywhere close to what you're feeling?

Though I don't think your friend means any harm. He's probably very sociable and just doesn't see the harm in associating w/ people...even the shady ones, I guess. He's your friend, and there's something about him you probably really like or else you wouldn't be his friend. Try not to let him give out your number though! LMAO...that's what my friends do, when they introduce me to people.

 

[Harrowborg]

felt that way today. needed to get some work done and didn't feel comfortable surrounded by everyone in the uni library so went and found a room and got down to work.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Hmm..I have felt that way once or twice. well maybe more times, but it's not much. Usually I too spot the shady characters with ease, but i always give a chance to them. By having a small conversation you can understand if the shady character just 'looks' shady because he/she thinks it's cool trying to be something you are not. If I see that they have potential to at least be themselves around me and i like them as people, i give them more chances. It's up to them to keep the friendship really. I rarely am the one that does something to hurt the friendship..

 

[John Doe]

Most people suck.

 

[Xectxny19X]

Hmm..I have felt that way once or twice. well maybe more times, but it's not much. Usually I too spot the shady characters with ease, but i always give a chance to them. By having a small conversation you can understand if the shady character just 'looks' shady because he/she thinks it's cool trying to be something you are not. If I see that they have potential to at least be themselves around me and i like them as people, i give them more chances. It's up to them to keep the friendship really. I rarely am the one that does something to hurt the friendship..

I can understand that. I usually give people a benefit of a doubt, too...when I'm not too boggled down w/ work. Then, I kind of make snap judgements which isn't always reliable I know. It's just that I have some people I already trust and don't feel the need to expand or I'm just too lazy!

You're probably easy to be around if people feel comfortable being themselves around you.

 

[Programmer Cat]

I'm not a social person. I don't NEED any DRAMA !!!!

My attitude toward most people is : "Keep your distance !"

Unfortunately, Paul still lives in La-La Land when it comes to that.

Ever feel that way ?

All the time. I am not a friendly, sociable person, and I am extremely picky about the people I associate with. I've ended friendships over this; I even stopped dating a girl after she disregarded my opinion on the matter: "If I want you to introduce me to somebody, I will ask you to do so. Do not, for any reason, introduce me to people without my consent."

 

[Samuelx]

All the time. I am not a friendly, sociable person, and I am extremely picky about the people I associate with. I've ended friendships over this; I even stopped dating a girl after she disregarded my opinion on the matter: "If I want you to introduce me to somebody, I will ask you to do so. Do not, for any reason, introduce me to people without my consent."

well, good for you. that way you won't have bad company that you will be forced to avoid !

 

[trask9]

Ref: Keep your distance

I can understand your feelings 100% but I also would like to offer a word
of caution in regards to those feelings.
I am three times your age, I have been seen every type of behavior and
attitudes thats are good and outrageous.
Seperating yourself from the world will make you a very lonely person and
you will become one of the people that you dislike.
Keep and open mind, protect your heart, (somewhere in your young life you
have been hurt badly).
The girl may have joined the conversation to try and impress you, she may
thing your cool, what was running from her mouth in that short amount of
time probably has nothing to do with what she is really like. Not given a
chance to really show who she is and prove that she might be a great person
is unfair of you.
I have to say that I would avoid you from what you have posted here.
Now, have said that and read what you have posted I add this.
I don't know you, you don't know me, please give others a chance before
saying they are not worthy of your freindship. Protect your heart first,
open you mind.
I wish you luck
TJ

 

[Programmer Cat]

I don't know you, you don't know me, please give others a chance before saying they are not worthy of your freindship. Protect your heart first,
open you mind. I wish you luck

I won't speak for samuelx, but I personally place a low value on friendship and human contact. When I want it, I will seek it out. I do not want it imposed on me, and I will deal harshly with people who refuse to keep their distance.

 

[YANKEE DAN]

I get a knife and cut all the bad spots off the apple, then eat it.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

I won't speak for samuelx, but I personally place a low value on friendship and human contact. When I want it, I will seek it out. I do not want it imposed on me, and I will deal harshly with people who refuse to keep their distance.

Well, there are people that like to expand their social relations. Making new friends and such. What do you mean you will deal harshly with people who refuse to keep their distance.. -_-
How about the opposite. when YOU seek out friendship how'd you like someone treating you like nothing with no excuse at all?

Good friends are people who stand by you at any time and situation of your life. If by meeting new people there's one chance in a million to find such a person I say it's worth the trouble..

And even nice people can be misunderstood for shady characters..
A friend of mine once told me that when he first met me he thought the worst of me.. His reason was because i use sarcasm a lot. I don't do it with bad purpose most times, I even do self-sarcasm, but from somebody else's point of view it may seem like I am making fun of someone. Get to know a bit of the other people before you make up your mind that they are evil or not worth your time..
After all introducing you to someone doesnt mean you HAVE to be friends with him/her. You can always ignore them. It won't make you any better or worse than you are..Or do you suddenly care about hurting people you just met?..

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Nevermind.

 

[Programmer Cat]

How about the opposite. when YOU seek out friendship how'd you like someone treating you like nothing with no excuse at all?

Oh, you mean the way I was treated all through school? I'm used to it.

Or do you suddenly care about hurting people you just met?..

The feelings of strangers never did matter to me.

 

[Xectxny19X]

I get a knife and cut all the bad spots off the apple, then eat it.

good analogy.

anyway, yeah. different experiences in our lives def. shape who we are today...our perceptions. it may be easy for some to give others a chance(benefits of a doubt...get to really know them), but it's very difficult for others to a pt. that they don't want the interpersonal relationships at all. hm....

Though I do think it's very disrespectful to force something(i.e. being introduced when you don't want to be) on someone.