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I have dear friends who are a lesbian couple. They have 10 kids (5 biological and 5 foster). One of their foster sons has been with them since he was 3 days old and is now 14 months old. His mother (an honest to goodness crack-whore) has decided that she wants him placed with this couple for good. She wants them to adopt. Seems fairly simple, but it's not.
Unfortunately, here in WI if a woman is married at the time the baby is born, the man goes on the birth certificate regardless of whether or not he's actually the biological father. (And if the woman isn't married when the baby is born, the baby's bio dad can NOT go on the birth certificate without filing an addendum).
In my friends' situation, there is a presumed father (the mom was married when the baby was born to a man she hadn't seen in about a year) who is a fundamentalist christain. Her parents and siblings are also fundamentalist christains. The presumed dad and the extended family are blocking the adoption because my friends are lesbians. They've been very upfront about the reason.
This man was not involved with the baby until the adoption proceedings began. In fact, when the baby was 4 months old he went to court to ask for DNA testing to prove that he was NOT the father. The DNA test confirmed that the baby is not his. But he's so against my friends that he is willing to block this adoption.
Bottom line, today is supposed to be the hearing. The biological mom (who absolutely must appear in court in a stable and possessed condition to give her baby up to this couple) showed up this morning, still high from a 5 day crack binge. The court is pissed and it does not look good.
Keep them in your thoughts, please!
Unfortunately, here in WI if a woman is married at the time the baby is born, the man goes on the birth certificate regardless of whether or not he's actually the biological father. (And if the woman isn't married when the baby is born, the baby's bio dad can NOT go on the birth certificate without filing an addendum).
In my friends' situation, there is a presumed father (the mom was married when the baby was born to a man she hadn't seen in about a year) who is a fundamentalist christain. Her parents and siblings are also fundamentalist christains. The presumed dad and the extended family are blocking the adoption because my friends are lesbians. They've been very upfront about the reason.
This man was not involved with the baby until the adoption proceedings began. In fact, when the baby was 4 months old he went to court to ask for DNA testing to prove that he was NOT the father. The DNA test confirmed that the baby is not his. But he's so against my friends that he is willing to block this adoption.
Bottom line, today is supposed to be the hearing. The biological mom (who absolutely must appear in court in a stable and possessed condition to give her baby up to this couple) showed up this morning, still high from a 5 day crack binge. The court is pissed and it does not look good.
Keep them in your thoughts, please!
