Keep him or Dump him?

[juicylips]

I have been corresponding with a guy for a week or so.
His emails have been very erotic, passionate, etc.

Today I get one with another girl's name in the body of it! I emailed back and asked who **** was and he has apologized profusely....

BUT

Should I forgive and forget?

Make him grovel?

Or is this unforgivable?

Cassidy,
who really thinks this is kinda funny

 

[Guest]

It depends on the nature of the relationship. If it's just a pleasure thing, I wouldn't care. If it meets your needs, who cares if he included another girly. BUT, if this is more than pleasure, if your feelings are involved- I'd be careful.
Good luck!

 

[Guru]

 

[MissTaken]

It depends on what you expect. As for me, I would probably laugh and rib him about it.

 

[juicylips]

It depends on the nature of the relationship. If it's just a pleasure thing, I wouldn't care. If it meets your needs, who cares if he included another girly. BUT, if this is more than pleasure, if your feelings are involved- I'd be careful.
Good luck!

No feelings going on here. Just pleasure. I am not upset about him corresponding with other women, just that fact that it looks as if he is sending the same one out to all of us, just inserting our names .. that is what pisses me off...

Cassidy.
whose name is not that hard to remember!!!!!

 

[Xander]

Its fall, and its dumping season

Speaks for itself dont it.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

It depends on the nature of the relationship. If it's just a pleasure thing, I wouldn't care. If it meets your needs, who cares if he included another girly. BUT, if this is more than pleasure, if your feelings are involved- I'd be careful.
Good luck!

I agree with that. If there is no significant attatchem a name slip up should not mean much.

 

[april-wine]

hmmmmm create letter insert name........lol

i'd rib the hell outta him, i imagine your letter got sent to her lol....he is enough of a hot seat lol

 

[XXplorher]

Depends –
For anyone in this predicament, I’d say it depends on the following:

1)Is there something supposed to be ‘exclusive’ about your correspondence?
2)If so, is there a reason it NEEDS to be exclusive?
3) Would your satisfaction be just as fulfilling if it WASN’T exclusive? (aka – don’t ruin it for yourself).
4)Has he made overtures claiming YOU to be ‘the one’, ‘finally found you’ etc. And were these things said in similar fashion to the ‘other’ girl? (Say g’bye!).
5)Did the letter with the other girls name in it read very similar to the ones you’ve been getting with YOUR name in it (aka – he’s got a bunch of form letters he sends out, simply changing the recipients name. I would DEFINITELY dump the joker if THAT’S the case!)
6)And lastly, can you use your own determination to make a choice? I’d recommend that highly, since you’re the one in the middle of it, eh.

According to your second post (I started replying before reading entire thread - oops) – it’s door number 5!
So the question is: do you get any satisfaction from receiving a letter you know to be fully generic, and used like taffy to catch shoe prints?

Personally, I would find that to be hella unsatisfying. Kind of like being one of those guys in the ‘Houston 500’ (line em up gang bang). I prefer personal interaction. And REAL interaction at that, eh.



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[iann666]

Dump him

And come and eat asparagus with me

 

[Ice Princess]

If he's been writing you stories, you might look too for signs that he's stolen them from someplace. I realized once that a man was not just mass mailing erotic emails to women and changing the names, but sometimes left traces of the original story he had copied his text from.

Bottom line is whether you are more amused by his messages or irritated by his behavior.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Dump him

And come and eat asparagus with me

Ok, Ian,

You talked me into it...
I mean that is not much of decision is it?? Between asparagus and a guy who forgets my name?? Easy choice.

By the way, what else are we having for dinner??

Cassidy

 

[Guest]

Re: Dump him

And come and eat asparagus with me

Er, that's a big cock you're holding in your av!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I have been corresponding with a guy for a week or so.
His emails have been very erotic, passionate, etc.

Today I get one with another girl's name in the body of it! I emailed back and asked who **** was and he has apologized profusely....

BUT

Should I forgive and forget?

Make him grovel?

Or is this unforgivable?

Cassidy,
who really thinks this is kinda funny

If its just fun don't fret over it ... and I think just my opinion - he is prolly writing the same stories or whatever to all his female friends. Its just for fun so don't over think it ... you go on and write some other guy's name when you email. Have some fun with him.

 

[Cheyenne]

hehe... sounds familiar. There was a guy here many months ago who sent out whole stories he wrote with your name in them. He'd send the same story to different women after doing a search and replace edit in Word to replace the old name with the new woman's name. He had 3 or 4 stories that he'd send in succession, if you said you liked the first one he sent.

Then he couldn't remember who you were if he hadn't talked to you in a week or so. He was older, and funny, since he'd poke fun of his own bad memory. But he really did have early Alzheimer's or something going on like it.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[mig]

Make the bastard grovel,then dump him anyway.

 

[Isolde]

Definitely don't take him seriously.

On the off chance you do and subsequently wind up having to dump him at a later date, perhaps this will help you...




Dear _________________,

I regret to inform you that you have been eliminated from further contention as Mr. Right. As you are probably aware, the competition was exceedingly tough and dozens of well-qualified candidates such as yourself also failed to make the final cut. I will, however, keep your name on file should an opening
become available. So that you may find better success in your future romantic endeavors, please allow me to offer the following reason(s) you were disqualified from the competition.

Check those that apply...

___Your last name is objectionable. I can't imagine taking it, hyphenating it, or subjecting my children to it.

___Your first name is objectionable. It's just not something I can picture myself yelling out in a fit of passion.

___The fact that our dining experiences to date has left MY wallet a little lighter, and YOUR pants a little tighter!

___Your inadvertent admission that you "buy condoms by the truckload" indicates that you may be interested in me for something other than my personality.

___You failed the 20 Question Rule, i.e., I asked you 20 questions about yourself before you asked me more than one about myself.

___Your constant e-mailing shows me you have TOO much time on your hands!

___Your legs are skinnier than mine.

___You're too short. Any son that we produced would inevitably be beaten up repeatedly at recess.

___You're too tall. I'm developing a chronic neck condition from trying to kiss you.

___I find your inability to fix my car extraordinarily unappealing.

___The fact that your apartment has been condemned reveals an inherent slovenliness that I fear is unbreakable.

___The phrase "My Mother" has popped up far too often in conversation.

___You still live with your parents.

___Although I do enjoy the X-Files, I find your wardrobe of Star Trek uniforms a little disconcerting.

___Your frequent references to your ex-girlfriend lead me to suspect that you are some sort of psychotic stalker.

___Your ability to belch the alphabet is not a trait that I am seeking in a long-term partner.

___Your height is out of proportion to your weight. If you should however, happen to gain the necessary 17 vertical inches, please resubmit your application.

___Somehow I doubt those condoms I found in your overnight bag were really necessary for a successful business trip.

___I am out of your league, set your sights lower next time.

Sincerely,

*ROFLMAO*

DA, that made me laugh so hard after a really, really bad day. Thank you so much.

Btw, I hope you dont mind but I copied, pasted and saved that little tidbit.

 

[nasty]

I don't think it's a bad thing if he's corresponding to another female. Hell, I forget the name's of my co-worker's.

 

[Starfish]

I personally find that a bit generic. I would at least want to be corresponded to with originality, and treated as an individual if it is somewhat intimate, even if there are others.
Otherwise, it isn't anymore significant than a standard plot porn story.

It is one thing to mass mail an announcement, but mass mailing lusty/intamate stories isn't really that special. Use him, abuse him, and find someone else.

 

[Ayaka]

dump him...*****'s 2 short.

 

[LedAstray]

I personally find that a bit generic. I would at least want to be corresponded to with originality, and treated as an individual if it is somewhat intimate, even if there are others.
Otherwise, it isn't anymore significant than a standard plot porn story.

It is one thing to mass mail an announcement, but mass mailing lusty/intamate stories isn't really that special. Use him, abuse him, and find someone else.

I totally agree with this. I wouldn't want to write to someone who can't take the time to send me a personal e-mail, even if it's just a few lines. However, it's not something to be mad about.