Just to piss cym off...

[KillerMuffin]

I still don't get this whole Sub/dom thing. I mean, how do you decide who whips who? And why? Do you get to whack him if he doesn't take out the trash? And whats with all the bootlicking? Wouldn't it be easier to buy shoe polish? And better? Saliva breaks down leather after time.

Freaks.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Never]

Hmmm.. whipping because the trash wasn't taken out. This may have possibilities.

 

[cymbidia]

I still don't get this whole Sub/dom thing. I mean, how do you decide who whips who? And why? Do you get to whack him if he doesn't take out the trash? And whats with all the bootlicking? Wouldn't it be easier to buy shoe polish? And better? Saliva breaks down leather after time.

Freaks.

SHHHHHHHHHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!

You're a lunatic to fuck with me right now, girlie.

 

[Saturn Return]

I have a question..

cym..He is the Dom..but you get pissed off at him like in any 'nilla relationship, right?

You know..like not speak to Him and what not?

 

[OUTSIDER]

found this and for some reason I thought of you KM...?!?

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Never]

Ten bucks says she posts a certain link and tells you to put the question there.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Hmmm.. whipping because the trash wasn't taken out. This may have possibilities.

Let me guess, you aint taking the trash out this week.

 

[cymbidia]

Shit.
Y'all are going to force me into rationality, aren't you?
I was so enjoying my little Day 'O Tantrums, too.

Okay.

1. Before it's BDSM between us, it's a relationship like any relationship.

2. Of course we get pissed off and annoyed and mad and sad and all that stuff toward and at each other.

3. I owe him my obedience and my loyalty and i *try* to uphold that, too, but i don't always succeed, just as he doesn't always succeed at being, oh, let's say entirely even-handed with respect to his moods to me.

In other words, we take our frustrations out on each other just like anyone in a very close and bonded relationship does after awhile.

Sometimes i don't want to talk to him. I'm pissed off anf grumpy and bitchy and i don't fucking care who it is in front of me, i don't fucking want to deal with anyone's bullshit at all. He can tell. He knows me.

He might leave me alone, let me have the space i need, or he might not. His choice.

We argue and fight and hang up on each other and sulk and bitch and whine, just like any couple.

However, if he uses a particular tone with me or talks to me in a manner that i'm pretty much unable to put into words, then my senses snap to attention and my heart beats differently, and even if i'm way off in pissedville, i am His at that moment - and we both know it. It's the call of a mated pair, the joining of two halves, the resonance of Dom and sub. It's as vibrantly real between us as is anything else we feel toward each other.

Then my attention and emotions are focused on him and i listen to him. He listens to me. We work it out. (Sometimes takes awhile to get tothis place though - like days.)

Did i answer your questions thoroughly?

 

[cymbidia]

HA!
Never loses ten bucks!


And CB? I love to snuggle and cuddle and hold hands and all that stuff. He does too. We're both romantics. We're lovers and friends and spend a lot of time playing board games, for instance, and taking long drives just talking. We're definitely cuddlers.

Not intrusive at all, btw.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Saturn Return]

Thank you for your candor and insight.
~smiles~


It was something that I've often wondered about.
Ya know.

I see that it's not just a role you two fill for each other..but a deeper bond that you have that fits perfectly together like Yin and Yang.

And that is such a beautiful thing..

Again..thank you for sharing your life with others.

 

[Never]

cymbidia:
"HA!
Never loses ten bucks!"

HA!

I don't have ten bucks to lose!

 

[LukkyKnight]

Cuddling rocks

HA!
Never loses ten bucks!


And CB? I love to snuggle and cuddle and hold hands and all that stuff. He does too. We're both romantics. We're lovers and friends and spend a lot of time playing board games, for instance, and taking long drives just talking. We're definitely cuddlers.

Not intrusive at all, btw.

~still looking for troublemakers~

No, Muff, you don't qualify.

 

[SpectreT]

Depending on who you talk to, I'm a "newbie", A "wanna-be", or a short list of other less than flattering names for somebody with a whole lot of advice, book-learnin', and his own desires, without much real experience, to guide him in regards to this BDSM thingie. And I think it is a matter of desires, plain and simple. We who feel this sort of thing seem to negotiate it, like any couple decides which side of the bed is "theirs". It's a facet of a relationship, as well as a descriptor of roles in that relationship, and sure there can be other problems that can even break up a relationship. Heck, the fact that I'm single is living proof that the roles aren't the whole relationship.

And I've never tasted anyone's shoe.

In my case, I'm a switch, so it's even more complex, moving with my moods and needs, as well as the person I'm in a relationship with. I'm more likely to tie a girl down and tease her with whatever she considers to be foreplay than I am to whale the tar out of her bum (unless that's her kind of thing ). I'm also more likely to want to be immobilized and teased sensually. (although I do enjoy being spanked and flogged. )

And for anyone who still doesn't "get it", don't worry.

Being 'nilla happens to lots of people.

<kidding.>

 

[KillerMuffin]

Soooooooooooooooo, cym. One last question. How many swats do you get each time you refer to yourself in the superior with a capital letter? *chortles*

 

[cymbidia]

Fuck you AND that pink gun you wave around, girlie.

With?

 

[SpectreT]

Soooooooooooooooo, cym. One last question. How many swats do you get each time you refer to yourself in the superior with a capital letter? *chortles*

I'm not 100% sure, but it looks like those capitals were all at the start of a sentence, where it becomes tricky for a sub. A good lawyer should be able to get the sentence commuted to one per, just for giggles.