Just need a little help...

[fatrb38]

I am 18 and will admit that I'm a bit of an amateur when it comes to sex (actually I'm still a virgin). One problem I had the other day was being able to unsnap a bra when a.) you only have one hand available, b.) you don't really have that much room, and c.) you can't see the actually bra snap (I'm usually kissing the girl at this point).

I understand that unsnapping a bra is probably incredibly easy but...it's something that I am new to. I'd like to be able to just check out some of my mom's bras and their snaps, but I'm currently living with my father in a no-woman house.

 

[dollface007]

I can't unhook my bra with one hand, so i would never expect you to be able to do it. Sounds like you were in some tight quarters or an unusual situation. Trying to look super smoothe during such moments by doing things like unhooking a bra w/one hand will ultimately make you look silly. Next time just say, "Can I get some help here?"

 

[AvaAdore]

my boyfriend has somehow mastered the one handed unhooking of the bra.

i cant do it

 

[fgarvb1]

Practice!

If the bra is in good shape(no pun intended) they can be unsnapped with one hand.

The method I use is something like a running pinching movement,

More like a gathering up of the material on each side of the clasp.

Add to this a rubbing motion with thumb and forefinger.

This will get eighty percent of them open.

This of coarse is tried with her upper body in an upright position with you directly in front, or slightly to one side.

Those four and five hook bras should be outlawed!

Give it up and use both hands!

 

[I_Edwards]

*blushes*

I... uh... hrghm... I can't do it with two hands.

Well I can, it just takes ages.

*hides*

 

[Weird Harold]

I understand that unsnapping a bra is probably incredibly easy but...it's something that I am new to. I'd like to be able to just check out some of my mom's bras and their snaps, but I'm currently living with my father in a no-woman house.

Un-snapping a bra is not now, and never has been "incredibly easy" -- at least, not as a general rule. Some Bras are easy, and some require power tools; It all depends on the condition of the hooks and eyes and the amount of tension the connection is under.

The increasing popularity of front-closing bras adds an additional element of uncertainty and frustration. Developments in fastener technology can also add some additional challenges to the process.

By far, the best option is to ask the woman who put it on to help remove it.

 

[fatrb38]

But you would agree...

that most bras just use the hook as a clasp?

 

[English Lady]

bra's are a nightmare!*L* I'm a woman and more often thn not i end up scootching my bra round so the clasp is at the front so I can undo it!


there is no shame in asking for a bit of a hand...if i was faced with a bra...I know i'd have problems myself*L*

 

[Bobmi357]

The secret of the bra....

Was taught in phys-ed 200!!! I'm surprised at you folks!

Its long been known that the bra clasp was original designed as a safety/anti-theft device by the famous Otto Von Titslinger in the late 1700s. Simple in design and utterly daunting to males everywhere, its become the basis for several eastern religions as well as two yoga movements, a marching band and an intelligence test.

The late mystic Rajh Nobrasaproblem is known to have said "Be one with the bra!".

Women from all corners of the globe snicker at us men, having grown up with this little clasp, they can routinely undo it with a couple fingers, their eyes closed, in the dark, and drunk! While they may envy our ability to write our names in the snow, they routinely gather in clutches for bra opening snicker sessions where they detail the most intimate details about their boyfriends/husbands attempt to remove that gravity defying garment!

Yes men, its a world wide conspiracy! Whether you're dealing with a "light" two clasp version, the "medium" three clasper or the dreaded "super heavyweight" four clasp version, there are women laughing at you. They laugh because you struggle with it, make a big deal out of trying to show how smooth you are, until finally in desperation she reaches around and POP! You're in heaven and once again the woman has convinced herself that "Yes, men truly are an inferior species that need protecting".

The bra is a test boyos. Its one of the final tests you need to pass before you become eligible to get laid. Are you dextrous enough to defeat this awesome device that stands between you and the goal of your lusts? Of course you aren't! You've spent years in shop class working with BIG TOOLS, you're used to using brute strength and heavy blunt instruments (POWER TOOLS!!! GRUNT GRUNT GRUNT HOOO RAH!!!).

Now listen up guys! Later on in life you might master the one handed open sesame, but for now, you need to be sneaky. Misdirect your enemy while you reach for the goal with BOTH hands. Hug her and while she's enjoying that hug, use both your hands to open the clasp! Commando tactics work well here, kiss her deeply, leave her breathless and dizzy and then pounce!

POP!

Its open!! THEY ARE FREE!!! Have fun.

And SHOULD YOU SUCCEED, here are a few things that you should never say after removing the bra....

1) "I really want to thank you for this."
2) "Dammit! I thought they were bigger."
3) "Lopsided?"
4) "Hey! One winked at me!"

Edited to add

Not bad for my 900th post

 

[CelticFrog]

I can't help but remember Bette Midler in Beaches singing that ode to the bra... Otto Titslinger was in that one too.


Seriously, though, my husband is adept at single handed bra removal... as long as the thing clasps in front. I don't have any more of those currently. Not enough support. However, he usually doesn't have to try to remove my bra because by the time we get to that point, clothes are flying anyways. In public? I hit him enough times he got the hint to QUIT DOING THAT in a mall.
Lots of fun, boy do I miss the courtship and awfully humorous times when a stroller wasn't in the picture all the time. Someday we'll get a babysitter and ... uh... yeah.

Ang

 

[Tazidevil]

don't be embarassed. I posted the the question of how do you get the pants off a girl question awhile back. The people here wont rib ya too much but they do help. Anyway, practice makes perfect. If you have time try to feel how the bra is attached (I mean where the claps are and all). What has worked for me is the squeeze and shift (if clasp squeeze together [releasing the clasp] and shift the clasp ends so they don't reattach when you let go.) Good luck to you. Nothing wrong about being a virgin at 18.

 

[Weird Harold]

What has worked for me is the squeeze and shift (if clasp squeeze together [releasing the clasp] and shift the clasp ends so they don't reattach when you let go.)

Many, many moons ago, I tried a one-handed squeeze and shift on my first wife's bra.

It not only didn't work, it wa a complete disaster!

In sqeezing the fastening to release the little metal hooks from the littl metal loops, I inadvertantly squashed one of the hooks flat. It eventually took both of us working together and a nail file to pry the hook back open and free her from her bra.

The moral is: don't try to be too fancy until you've mastered the basic two-handed, in plain sight function of a bra closure.

 

[Tazidevil]

Hmm I guess all the dexterity from playing the piano has helped me in the one hand department. Help me in another department as well but that is for a different thread.

 

[midwestyankee]

Re: The secret of the bra....

Was taught in phys-ed 200!!! I'm surprised at you folks!

Its long been known that the bra clasp was original designed as a safety/anti-theft device by the famous Otto Von Titslinger in the late 1700s. Simple in design and utterly daunting to males everywhere, its become the basis for several eastern religions as well as two yoga movements, a marching band and an intelligence test.

<snip>

And SHOULD YOU SUCCEED, here are a few things that you should never say after removing the bra....

1) "I really want to thank you for this."
2) "Dammit! I thought they were bigger."
3) "Lopsided?"
4) "Hey! One winked at me!"

Edited to add

Not bad for my 900th post

Bobmi, you have way too much time on your hands. This gets my nomination as the funniest post of the day.

 

[Guest]

bra's are a nightmare!*L* I'm a woman and more often thn not i end up scootching my bra round so the clasp is at the front so I can undo it!

LOL, me too. I always unhook my bras that way... well, unless I get my hubby to do it for me .

 

[fatrb38]

Alright

Thanks for the help, I think I'll just have to start off non fancy.
When it happens, I'll tell you guys how it goes...

 

[fatrb38]

Update

Alright, so we're both laying in my bed, and we're both on our sides facing each other. I have my hand screwing around back there just trying to find out exactly where the clasps are but can't really find them (I've never actually sat down and looked at the back of a bra). So anyways there's no point in using two hands if I don't know exactly where the clasps are. So anyways she gets the point and tries to one hand it herself...ha! she couldn't do it. So I tell her that I'm flipping over to the other side of her, and she stays where she is and I lift up her shirt and finally get a good glimpse and the back of the bra and the clasps.

Turns out there's nothing really special about the claps...just janky hooks. Of course while looking and with two hands it takes less than a second for me to unclasp them and bam... I was off to the races; boy do I love boobies. =)

Anyways the important thing is that I finally got a good look at what the clasps look like, though I suppose not all clasps are the same, these ones were pretty simple and I am looking forward to seeing them in the future (hahahah) and eventually I'm sure the one handed unclasp will eventually occur. (I'll keep you updated though at this point it's probably getting pretty boring for you guys.)

 

[ReadyOne]

don't be embarassed. I posted the the question of how do you get the pants off a girl question awhile back. The people here wont rib ya too much but they do help. Anyway, practice makes perfect. If you have time try to feel how the bra is attached (I mean where the claps are and all). What has worked for me is the squeeze and shift (if clasp squeeze together [releasing the clasp] and shift the clasp ends so they don't reattach when you let go.) Good luck to you. Nothing wrong about being a virgin at 18.

And I hold one set of metal tabs under my finger nails so that side stays put while I squeeze and slide. Plus it give more control to make sure the conectors aren't in alignment when I let go. And on many bras there is doubled/folded up cloth to make a better platfom for sewing on the connectors. That seam maargin is easy to catch with the side of the thumb.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I say date girls who don't wear bras! (geesh I miss the 70's!)

 

[Bobmi357]

Re: Update

(I'll keep you updated though at this point it's probably getting pretty boring for you guys.)

Its not boring in the least.


Especially if you keep us updated with photos, digital video etc...

 

[beadsforthebear]

Get your girl to wear front hook bras then you can see what you are doing. I did this and after the intial confusing of where is the bra hook in the back my boyfriend had an easier time of getting my bra off.

 

[Pinmonkey]

No to brag, but I've been known to be able to not only unhook a bra, but to do it stealthily over the tee shirt, in the middle of a dept store, and the "victim" (my wife) not realizing for a good 10 seconds or more. It requires having nimble fingers, a distraction of some sort, (In the home, or where otherwise appropriate a good tongue down her throat will work), and a fair amount of courage and self confidence. And practice, practice, practice. Use the "pinch and rub" method as described above and you will soon become a bra-undoing-jedi also.


don't ask me to help get one of those things back on though. that's freaking impossible.

 

[MagicFingers]

Way to go, fatrb38

It really helps to see how they are made. Nothing worse than trying the old squezzing fingers and thumb together only to find that it has slide up/down hooks. Or, she says, "Umm, it's in the front!"
When I was in high school, my friends made a game of trying to unhook girls bras in one quick pat/squeeze motion, through their clothes. It was fun. The good looking guys got lots of rewards that way. The not-so-good-looking guys got slapped or worse.

Last woman I was cuddling with, I was just rubbing her back and poof, the bra opened all by itself! Really, of course, I have.....Magic Fingers.
Guess it's experience.

 

[ReadyOne]

BTW, once you get the bra unhooked underneath the top, you know the way to take it off without removing the top, right?

You reach up the sleeve and pull the shoulder strap out the sleeve hole, down the arm, and then over the hand. Then reach in the other sleeve and pull the shoulder strap out and the whole bra comes with it.

 

[DuckLover]

don't ask me to help get one of those things back on though. that's freaking impossible.

And the reason you would want to do so is...?