Just for the ladies!

[ThePhoenixMan]

Not sure if this should be here .. but here it goes!

I've got a story idea I'm trying to develop, but I'd like to get some honest input ... so here it goes:

If you caught your hubby or significant other cheating on you ... would you ...?

-1- Do nothing?
-2- Revenge is sweet -- Cheat on him?
-3- Find some big burly guy and cuckold him?
-4- Dump him and move on?
-5- Kill him?
-6- Kill her?
-7- Work it out?
-8- Something else?

Like I said ... I'm trying to get a woman's perspective, so feel free to comment all you want!

 

[emap]

I'd dump him because honestly if he was looking elsewhere for sexual gratification I already found at least one other person to do me.

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

*bump*
Has anyone read James Patterson's "The Quickie" ... I wanna see how real those emotions could be!

 

[cloudy]

Dump him.

Life's too short...really.

 

[Carnevil9]

I won't vote, not being a lady, but I'll relate a real-life story.

A friend of a friend is engaged. A month before the wedding, she caught her fiancé cheating on her... with one of her co-workers! To my surprise, she was peeved at her fiancé, but ENRAGED with the co-worker! She seemed to take the co-worker's behavior as scurrilous treachery, but the fiancé’s dalliance as no more than mild misbehavior by a wayward pet who didn't know any better.

I don't know if that helps you, but it's one perspective......Carney

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

I won't vote, not being a lady, but I'll relate a real-life story.

A friend of a friend is engaged. A month before the wedding, she caught her fiancé cheating on her... with one of her co-workers! To my surprise, she was peeved at her fiancé, but ENRAGED with the co-worker! She seemed to take the co-worker's behavior as scurrilous treachery, but the fiancé’s dalliance as no more than mild misbehavior by a wayward pet who didn't know any better.

I don't know if that helps you, but it's one perspective......Carney

Exactly my point! Almost as if it's expected that he's gonna do it, but not with a friend or a co-worker ... the friend or co-worker should know better ... right?

 

[emap]

Ummmmm no. What you have right there is a classic example of one of two things. Either she has settled and does not think she can find better. Or she thinks she can change him into what she wants him to be.

Well OK there is a third possibility, though I don't think it applies to that case because she got mad. Anyway the third possibility is she wants to do an open relationship/marriage type thing.

Possible it is what you got there, but not likely since most open relationship people have no qualms about telling anyone and everyone. Not to many people who are into an open are going to try and keep it quiet simply because it's impossible to do so since they will do people they know and a friend of a friend is a friend.

 

[cloudy]

Exactly my point! Almost as if it's expected that he's gonna do it, but not with a friend or a co-worker ... the friend or co-worker should know better ... right?

If my SO cheated with a friend or co-worker, I'd be pissed at them both, more so if it was a friend, of course. If the woman he cheated with was someone unknown to me, and she had no idea what she was getting herself into - which does happen - then, its not her fault, no hard feelings.

 

[Lady Reiha]

I'm pretty evil when it comes to cheating. take my ex for example. When he cheated on me, I did the worst thing prolly imaginable. I went out, gave one of my ex-boyfriends a bj, "pretended" I spat it out in his bathroom ( instead I spat it into a bottle I brought along with me). When I went home later that day, I made a spaghetti dinner for me and my (now ex) boyfriend. I mixed my ex-bf's cum into the sauce. ^________^!


then of course- I broke up with the fucker. He never knew!

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

I'm pretty evil when it comes to cheating. take my ex for example. When he cheated on me, I did the worst thing prolly imaginable. I went out, gave one of my ex-boyfriends a bj, "pretended" I spat it out in his bathroom ( instead I spat it into a bottle I brought along with me). When I went home later that day, I made a spaghetti dinner for me and my (now ex) boyfriend. I mixed my ex-bf's cum into the sauce. ^________^!


then of course- I broke up with the fucker. He never knew!

Oh my! Remind me never to cross you!

Did he say it was the best sauce he had?

 

[starrkers]

I know several girls who have broken up with boyfriends who cheated and openly despise the new girl - the ex-bf is almost blameless, it's the girl who "took him from me" that's in their sights.
Never understood that attitude myself. If she wants the cheating arsehole she's welcome to him.
As to what I would do in that situation? It would depend on the circumstances. Back when I was single and childless I'd drop the jerk and move on.
If my husband did it? The father of our three kids? I'd probably castrate him first, make his life unbearably miserable. Make sure he was heavily insured. Then dump him. Down a mineshaft. An old deep mineshaft with a lot of water in the bottom. And I'd definitely break his arms first, just to make sure he didn't climb out.

 

[cloudy]

I'm pretty evil when it comes to cheating. take my ex for example. When he cheated on me, I did the worst thing prolly imaginable. I went out, gave one of my ex-boyfriends a bj, "pretended" I spat it out in his bathroom ( instead I spat it into a bottle I brought along with me). When I went home later that day, I made a spaghetti dinner for me and my (now ex) boyfriend. I mixed my ex-bf's cum into the sauce. ^________^!


then of course- I broke up with the fucker. He never knew!

I prefer my revenge to be known about. Although you got some enjoyment out of it (good on you!), he never knew.

I want them to know who, where, when, what & why.

'course, I still think the best revenge is getting on with your life and being happy - without them.

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

If my husband did it? The father of our three kids? I'd probably castrate him first, make his life unbearably miserable. Make sure he was heavily insured. Then dump him. Down a mineshaft. An old deep mineshaft with a lot of water in the bottom. And I'd definitely break his arms first, just to make sure he didn't climb out.

I can empathize with that logic. Though since he's the father of your three kids, would you ever consider keeping him around, and cuckolding him, turning him into a sniveling wimp to service you, and any lover(s) you decided to take on? At least your kids would still have their father around! Just curious.

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And by the wy, has anyone read "The Quickee" (James Patterson) ?? The reviews of the book say that the woman's reactions and actions are totally unrealistic and unbelievable, which is what prompted this thread!

 

[starrkers]

I can empathize with that logic. Though since he's the father of your three kids, would you ever consider keeping him around, and cuckolding him, turning him into a sniveling wimp to service you, and any lover(s) you decided to take on? At least your kids would still have their father around! Just curious.

No. As far as I'm concerned, he wouldn't just be cheating on me, he'd be cheating on his children too. And I wouldn't want that kind of weasel anywhere near them.
And the kids don't need that kind of role model (snivelling wimp or domineering wife).

 

[sunandshadow]

I suppose the obvious something else would be a threesome. But it would be painful and infuriating to catch a spouse cheating, a threesome is more likely to happen through discussion or maybe the wife notices the husband has a thing for a particular other guy and thinks about it for a while before deciding that could be hot...

 

[redbottom]

I would have hot sweaty sex with his best friend that I have secretly lusted after, but kept my lusts in check because I was with him and not his friend. And then I would tell him all about it and then dump him. Unless of course he was hung really well and was great in the sack, I'd probably keep him as a fuck buddy then.

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

*bump*
... looking for some more poll votes, and some more insight into how women *think* in such a situation

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

We finally had our first pollster for "killing him!" Maybe I should've reworded "kill" to something just as evil, but less intense ... maybe "beat the crap out of him / her"

 

[JRaven]

You left out: Join them!

My husband and I are secure enough in our relationship that it really doesn't matter who he fucks. He always comes home to me. There's a lot more to marriage than monogamous sex.

Jenny

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

You left out: Join them!

My husband and I are secure enough in our relationship that it really doesn't matter who he fucks. He always comes home to me. There's a lot more to marriage than monogamous sex.

Jenny

Hehe, I guess I did leave that out ... It could fall into "Something Else!"

Is yours what some would call an "open" relationship? Do each of you tell of each others dalliances, or is it better left unsaid?

I agree that such uptight mores have caused too many heartaches. I believe there is a difference between sex and love (hmmm, maybe another poll?). Too many people bring their emotions into sex, rather than just enjoying the sex itself!

JRaven ... did you vote?

 

[ThePhoenixMan]

*bump*

We've got 24 voters ... hoping to get at least 50 for a solid survey!

 

[Kiele]

Cheat on him, of course! It would be easy, I'd just start returning Clive Owen's phone calls.