Just asking
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Vixandra
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What exactly are you looking to explore, Jerry?jerryid said:Some of the exchanges on this board are just wonderful...I find myself deeply envious of those of you who have explored your sexual nature so openly. For example I just read a few posts about "the leash" - soooo erotic ! It's fantastic.
I'm just wondering if there are married women out there, who like me, would like to explore BDSM with a trusted "other".
I know it makes me a terrible person to even suggest such a thing.... maybe that's what makes me crave punishment in the first place.
And by "trusted 'other'" do you mean spouse or someone outside your marriage?
I'm a married to a guy who, while he enjoys some of it, does not enjoy the majority of my "kink" or interests into BDSM. But he listens to me, trys to understand me, supports me in whatever I do. Finds it amusing/arousing when I'm flirting online. Specially if its with a woman he agrees with me is hot.
I understand that its not his thing- he has no desire to make someone stuggle to remain still as they're spanked or hit with a lash or crop. He'd happily watch me with a female sub though. I know this because we've talked it over, discussed it at length.
If you don't talk with your spouse, you'll never know what they will or won't do or allow. Communication is so important exspecially in something like this. You never know what can happen untill you try.
So try. Worst that happens he shoots you down, says 'hell no!'- all you lost was a bit of time. Best case- a whole new world opens up to you with him.
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Jerry, you do need to talk to you partner. You do need to at least try to be honest.
consider the scenario where you try it with a 'trusted' other, really really like it, so much that ordinary sex just doesnt do it for you anymore, as that's a possibility.
There are a few of us here, who've stumbled late in life to this thang. Having found it, we then have to convince our partners that they wish to try it too. With some success and some failures.
But most are willing to be a little kinky, if thats what gets you off.
Good luck.
consider the scenario where you try it with a 'trusted' other, really really like it, so much that ordinary sex just doesnt do it for you anymore, as that's a possibility.
There are a few of us here, who've stumbled late in life to this thang. Having found it, we then have to convince our partners that they wish to try it too. With some success and some failures.
But most are willing to be a little kinky, if thats what gets you off.
Good luck.
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jerryid said:Some of the exchanges on this board are just wonderful...I find myself deeply envious of those of you who have explored your sexual nature so openly. For example I just read a few posts about "the leash" - soooo erotic ! It's fantastic.
I'm just wondering if there are married women out there, who like me, would like to explore BDSM with a trusted "other".
I know it makes me a terrible person to even suggest such a thing.... maybe that's what makes me crave punishment in the first place.
There are lots of interesting angles to this post... mainly because it is quite obtuse.
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Re: Re: Just asking
sounds like a personals ad to meA Desert Rose said:
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Re: Re: Re: Just asking
Did you PM the moderator?
Kajira Callista said:sounds like a personals ad to me
Did you PM the moderator?
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Just asking
no...did you?A Desert Rose said:
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Just asking
No. I have selfish motives to keep this thread here. ;-) I enjoy watching men on the make... even or especially married ones.
LOL
Kajira Callista said:
No. I have selfish motives to keep this thread here. ;-) I enjoy watching men on the make... even or especially married ones.
LOL
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Re: OH no ! Not that !
Me? PM a moderator and take away the fun?
Not on your life.
jerryid said:Noooooo ...not that ...pleaaaaaaase !
Please don't PM the moderator ! ! !
I'll do anything you ask ! But for God's sakes don't PM the moderator !
Me? PM a moderator and take away the fun?
Not on your life.
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heh
sits back and puts my feet up...shares my hersheys symphony bar with ADR
sits back and puts my feet up...shares my hersheys symphony bar with ADR
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Kajira Callista said:heh
sits back and puts my feet up...shares my hersheys symphony bar with ADR
Oh God!!! I love chocolate and almonds!!!! almost as much as peanut butter cups.
I guess I may have to run out to the store now... YOU
YOU!See what you started? LOL
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i just came back from the storeA Desert Rose said:Oh God!!! I love chocolate and almonds!!!! almost as much as peanut butter cups.
I guess I may have to run out to the store now... YOU
See what you started? LOL
im betting your store isnt a half an hour away though.
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A Desert Rose said:Oh God!!! I love chocolate and almonds!!!! almost as much as peanut butter cups.
I guess I may have to run out to the store now... YOU
See what you started? LOL
The two of you are sooooo baaaaaddddddd.
Now i'm laughing AND craving chocolate.
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passes the chocolate to the left
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morninggirl5 said:
I'm gonna get a reputation for hijacking threads and then everyone will hate me more than they already do and I won't be welcome in any threads and it's all KC's fault.
Yea...
LOL
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Yeah...its my fault (i get spanked now right?)A Desert Rose said:
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Re: AV's
Communication is a good thing- like air.
On the Av front- you need 100 posts before you can put up an AV.
To create an AV I'd need a source pic(s) and what you want exactly (or roughly, whichever).
Personally- I prefer manga/anime type pictures instead of real photos. They're easier for me to manipulate, especially since I refuse to use photoshop and use a program called Dogwaffle instead.
jerryid said:Vixandra,
You're right about communication ...good call.
On AV's - I don't know how to get them or use them, but I'm wondering if you could make me one of a beautiful woman with a guy on a leash ? <me>
Just wondering
Communication is a good thing- like air.
On the Av front- you need 100 posts before you can put up an AV.
To create an AV I'd need a source pic(s) and what you want exactly (or roughly, whichever).
Personally- I prefer manga/anime type pictures instead of real photos. They're easier for me to manipulate, especially since I refuse to use photoshop and use a program called Dogwaffle instead.
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Oh god, now you lot have me salivating for a Reese's Big Cup! (I like them better than the little kind because you can have a whole bite that's just the PB. Reese's PB is my favorite, though I just brought home a jar of Dark Chocolate Dreams from the people who run ILovePeanutButter.com).
