Just a thought... how about a GLBT personals thread?

[pinksateendream]

See, would a special personals thread in this part of the forum make it easier for people to meet likeminded people, or would it hinder all of the people in other areas that might identify as bi-curious but are afraid to come into this forum? Please give me your thoughts. I am kind of leaning towards it being a good idea to start a personals thread here. I love to know if there are people in my area at least... then I don't feel so along out here in California!

 

[mac_crazy]

I'd be all for it... hard to find any similar folk here in michigan, and there are few other websites that offer those kinds of personal ads...

Put me down for a "yes!"

 

[Cigan]

I too would be all for it. To be perfectly honest I've been through the personals board and finding gay subjects on that board is challenging to say the least. Here you wouldn't have to wade through the thousands of straight adds to maybe find an ad from someone witin 5 states of where you live anyway. So yes I would indeed be all for it.

 

[sdedalus]

sure, what the hell...

 

[Queersetti]

Two questions.

1. How poor is the Lit personals section for finding people in GLBT categories? I don't have any experience with it. Is it useless for that purpose?

2. How would we ensure that all personal ads were confined to such a thread and not take over the rest of the board?

I'm open minded on the issue and willing to read what people have to say about it.

 

[MissTaken]

Ummmm if I may interject based on the BDSM forum?

On the BDSM forum, we prohibit personal ads because we dont' want the forum to turn into a pick up joint. We enjoy a mix of fun stuff and serious discussion, but feel that there is a personal board that can be effective.

So, a long time ago, I started threads on the personals forum specifically for BDSMers. That seems to help confine the personal ads while , at the same time, offering the opportunity for likeminded adults to meet one another without having to read bazillions of ads to see if there are common interests.

This seems to have worked well. Especially, since a lot of folks do not post at the BDSM forum, but may be looking on the personals forum.

We linked the BDSM personals in a sticky in the forum.

 

[sdedalus]

yea, but there's just too many threads on the board to keep up with, you kinda have to have a lot of time to be online or you usually stick in a certain section of the boards (like GLBT).... I posted in personals like a couple years ago about a threesome... didn't really hear so much back then... I think it would be a good idea for the forum, and maybe some of these lurkers (like I was for 3 years) will show their face and say something..

 

[bottom boy]

Two questions.

1. How poor is the Lit personals section for finding people in GLBT categories? I don't have any experience with it. Is it useless for that purpose?

I have had a bi-curious personal up for a while, but have gotten very few replies, and a half dozen PMs... it seems tho that I can only get a response when the post is near the top ... so I have to keep bumping it up there ... maybe a separate section where these ads wouldnt get drowned out would be nice.

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[Angel]

Maybe, and I hesitate to suggest it because we have a zillion forums already, but maybe, MAYBE adding 2 subforums to the personals. 1 for BDSM and one for GBLT?

I know there are pro and cons for both, and I don't know if it would be a huge hassle for the Mods of the personals forum, but it might help to have some way to sort through types of personal ads besides thread titles, especially in that large and active of a forum.

 

[pinksateendream]

I think that all of you make really great valid points and I am happy to see so much support for the idea of having some sort of glbt personal thread or forum. I do like the idea of having a subsexxxxtion p ) of the existing personals forum for glbt and bdsm. I find that when I post on the existing personals forums, as a lesbian, 90% of my responses are from straight men asking if they can watch or film my encounters with women. Maybe separating these sections would actually make them easier to surf through, more focused in content and relevant to all of our wants (and needs) and generally make it easier for us all to find like-minded people. However, I do recall a lot of hoopla when Etoile started this glbt forum.. ie people suggesting we were "too good to be a part of the other forums". Though I understand where they are coming from, I don't see this as us not wanting to be a part of something that they have, but not all of us fitting into what they have, so we are just building on it to make niches for all of us in this network. We are all here as a means to fit it, meet people, find a niche, and be ourselves. I say we do all we can to try to do so. I feel like a coach in a locker room giving a pep talk. Rudy! Rudy!

 

[Etoile]

Just speaking up as the other mod, here -

My concerns are the same as Queersetti's, and like him I am open to suggestions regarding this. Thanks to MissT also for the input!

My major concern is that it will expand beyond the designated threads. Personals is nice because it allows each person a thread of their own, whereas here things would get all jumbled up if we tried to keep it in one thread.

I have a huge headache this morning, so that's all I'm going to say right now, but I'm subscribing to this thread so keep talking.

 

[Queersetti]

Ummmm if I may interject based on the BDSM forum?

On the BDSM forum, we prohibit personal ads because we dont' want the forum to turn into a pick up joint. We enjoy a mix of fun stuff and serious discussion, but feel that there is a personal board that can be effective.

So, a long time ago, I started threads on the personals forum specifically for BDSMers. That seems to help confine the personal ads while , at the same time, offering the opportunity for likeminded adults to meet one another without having to read bazillions of ads to see if there are common interests.

This seems to have worked well. Especially, since a lot of folks do not post at the BDSM forum, but may be looking on the personals forum.

We linked the BDSM personals in a sticky in the forum.

Thank you for that very valuable input, MissTaken.

 

[Rhys]

I am against it. Here's why. You want people to come here to talk about Gay issues and whatever is on their mind. Personals have a section on this board already. You do not want this forum to become all personals with little discussion. Personal ads have a way of taking over despite your best attempt. I like MissTaken's idea of linking it to a separate area, that could work. But as far as having a thread going...that would be too difficult to wade through after a while. Consider for every "group" on this board...you would have to have a separate thread for each one Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered. That is already four threads right there that will have to be maintained in some way.
I am just a little skeptical...so those are my thoughts.

 

[69forever]

Two questions.

1. How poor is the Lit personals section for finding people in GLBT categories? I don't have any experience with it. Is it useless for that purpose?

2. How would we ensure that all personal ads were confined to such a thread and not take over the rest of the board?

I'm open minded on the issue and willing to read what people have to say about it.

Checking in on MissT's thoughts on the matter. I think introducing glbt personals to this forum would be a mistake.

Unless it was an entire sub-section like personals/playground, but in the glbt. I have no clue as to the compexity of doing something like that. I do know that my ad in the personals was swallowed up so that I got tired of looking for it and responding to straight married men who wanted a quick blowjob.

I like the idea of a sub-section in glbt. Now how much of a firestorm will that set off?

 

[anonsipen]

I find it hard finding anything in the personals for the UK.

I'm not going to suggest a UK thread because there's only so far you can go with computer space and admin.

But it does seem sensible to sub-categorise for sexual preference - main categories at any rate (as I've just thought of at least six while typing this!).

Aw gawd I think I just argued myself out of it!

 

[Etoile]

Checking in on MissT's thoughts on the matter. I think introducing glbt personals to this forum would be a mistake.

Unless it was an entire sub-section like personals/playground, but in the glbt. I have no clue as to the compexity of doing something like that. I do know that my ad in the personals was swallowed up so that I got tired of looking for it and responding to straight married men who wanted a quick blowjob.

I like the idea of a sub-section in glbt. Now how much of a firestorm will that set off?

I personally would rather not moderate a personals section - I have no experience with it, and no interest in it. For that reason I would rather see it in Personals; the mods there have expressed openness to the idea [Q has been talking to them].

 

[thickspear]

I got...

 

[69forever]

I personally would rather not moderate a personals section - I have no experience with it, and no interest in it. For that reason I would rather see it in Personals; the mods there have expressed openness to the idea [Q has been talking to them].

I posted one ad when I first joined, and am sure it's dead.

Relationships I've developed here on the boards are where a relationship might come, someday.

Wouldn't want the job of moderating that either. For people who want to hook up thru personals, the separation by sexual preference makes sense. lol Setti would make an excellent foreign ambassador for the country....

 

[MissTaken]

Relationships I've developed here on the boards are where a relationship might come, someday.


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Quite true.

I do believe that by and large, it appears that the most successful lit unions and reunions for BDSMers have happened as a result of participation in the community, rather than personal ads.

And certainly, this has proven true for me personally, BDSM, bisexual or not.



In truth, I would love to see the personals forum broken down either by interests or by area.

I doubt we will see that happen, but it is my opinion.

 

[Queersetti]

I have brought this issue up with the Personals moderators, and they are open to the idea of establishing separate sections for alternative lifestyles. My own view is that doing so would be a much better solution than allowing personal ads here, or establishing a subforum to this one to include such ads.

Of course, the decision is ultimately up to Laurel and Manu.

My suggestion would be that those who want such an area established should make the suggestion directly to them.