Just a question

[Tom00]

Hi all, I've been a long time reader here. I just wanted some advice, and you folks seem pretty well informed. Anyway, I was fooling around with my girlfriend on Friday night, and I was rubbing my penis on her vulva after things got heated. Afterward, my girlfriend expressed concern over getting pregnant, and I've also been worried ever since. I've tried Googling on the topic, but all resources seem to suggest that there is a chance, but I find it hard to believe that pre-cum can travel from the entrance of her vagina to her cervix. What do you guys think? What should I do?

 

[CWatson]

There is indeed a chance. Fluid travels everywhere, and even better, sperm are mobile on their own. And besides, if you think about it, the vagina is designed to conduct various fluids up towards the cervix. It is indeed possible--and it has almost certainly happened--that a woman gets pregnant without being penetrated.

It's not all that likely, but it is possible.

If you want to take all appropriate precautions, start using birth control and maybe get your girlfriend a dose of the morning-after pill (if that is not morally objectionable to her). Are these precautions necessary?--is the chance large enough to warrant them? I wouldn't know. (That's the problem with being a virgin.) But suffice to say, your girlfriend is not incorrect to be concerned, though the amount of concern may be disproportionate.

 

[Tom00]

There is indeed a chance. Fluid travels everywhere, and even better, sperm are mobile on their own. And besides, if you think about it, the vagina is designed to conduct various fluids up towards the cervix. It is indeed possible--and it has almost certainly happened--that a woman gets pregnant without being penetrated.

It's not all that likely, but it is possible.

If you want to take all appropriate precautions, start using birth control and maybe get your girlfriend a dose of the morning-after pill (if that is not morally objectionable to her). Are these precautions necessary?--is the chance large enough to warrant them? I wouldn't know. (That's the problem with being a virgin.) But suffice to say, your girlfriend is not incorrect to be concerned, though the amount of concern may be disproportionate.

Thanks a lot for the input. I think it's too late for Plan B, as it should have been taken 72 hours after the act. Of course we're both paranoid, as we're both usually very careful about things like that. I've done the same before with even more direct contact on her clit/vulva, so I didn't really think much of it the second time around.

 

[newideas]

Thanks a lot for the input. I think it's too late for Plan B, as it should have been taken 72 hours after the act. Of course we're both paranoid, as we're both usually very careful about things like that. I've done the same before with even more direct contact on her clit/vulva, so I didn't really think much of it the second time around.

Might not be the act that concerned her as much as the timing in her cycle. Obgyn uses a date of 2 weeks after the last day of period to predict due date. Thus 2 weeks after flo goes away you are at greatest risk of prgnancy. Read the cycle you can feel safe a day or to even a week after but still best to wrap it up sperm can live days in the vagina and they do travel rather rapidly

Enjoy the next 2 or 3 weeks waiting

We've all been there imsure, esp the married with children crowd

 

[newtoplease]

Anyway, I was fooling around with my girlfriend on Friday night, and I was rubbing my penis on her vulva after things got heated.

for next time

= put your cock ANYWHERE vaguely near her vagina and I'd suggest a condom. (Unless she is on the pill and you are both monogamous and clean of STD/Is.)
Not only could she be pregnant (again though unlikely) no one likes the waiting... and furthermore - you don't want to transmit diseases - hence the condom and not just birth control if that what you both decide to use.

Discuss it with her BEFORE you get heated again, and how you will take things differently - because if you keep going as you are... well you might end up in a situation you don't want! (baby! - well aren't ready for anyway)

 

[newideas]

You can't cure BABY, not if she catholic anyway

 

[hidden_self]

I know someone who got pregnant without penetration.

HOWEVER, in their case it was actual cum, not just precum. My sense is that precum has fewer sperm (if any)... can anyone fill me in (so to speak)?

 

[SpecialKay62]

Just an answer...

stop this behavior immediately. Read all the answers above, consider yourself extremely lucky and STOP putting your unprotected penis near your girlfriend's vagina. Go immediately to the Walmart (I know there's one on every corner) and purchase condoms. Embarassed? Use the self-checkout. And please, stop playing Baby Roulette every weekend. It can only have a bad outcome.

 

[fuckmeat]

Ok, I know this guy's ignorance is worrying but I think the tone of some of the posts here is a bit harsh. At least he's aware he screwed up and is trying to get advice and info. That puts him ahead of most horny teenage boys, in my opinion.

If you came over her pussy, there might be reason for concern but you would have to be very unfortunate. I assume that if this happened she washed herself afterwards? If you've just been rubbing your cockhead on her pussy and maybe depositing a little precum, there's virtually no chance of pregnancy.

If you are both virgins and you're both faithful you don't have to worry about STDs. If either of you have had sexual partners before, even just the same fooling around without penetration, you both need checking for STDs and if one tests positive, you should both have treatment or you'll re-infect each other.

Yes, you should absolutely get her some birth control. There are pills, injections, implants and all manner of other options to choose from. An implant under her skin will protect her for three years. Keep in mind though that hormonal birth control does nothing to prevent the spread of STDs. You should use condoms as well, in case the pill should fail. If she forgets to take one, she's susceptible to pregnancy for the next 7 days. Some other meds like antibiotics make hormonal BC less effective, so keep that in mind too.

There can be a false sense of security in this kind of fooling around but in reality, a bare cock around the entrance to the pussy is probably more of a hazard than a condom-clad cock balls deep inside her. It seems silly to me to do that kind of thing when you could bag it up and have more fun with arguably less risk. Get condom friendly lubricant as well, to make sure everything goes smoothly.

If you're refraining from penetrative sex for religious/moral reasons then you really should not be having sexual contact at all. I can't understand how rolling around naked, heavy petting and feasting on each other's genitals can be morally separated from actual cock-in-pussy sex. I imagine any self respecting deity would have a hard time seeing the distinction there. You might not like it but if you're going to wait till your married or whatever, then that should go for foreplay too. It'll save you both a whole lot of worry and guilt.

I suggest you find a family planning clinic in your area and go together to discuss your options.

 

[ElizabethDarcy]

Just to posit some basic facts in here: it is possible, though the odds are infinitesimal, that precum can impregnate. The fluid is a bit of a pre-wash to cleanse the urethra of urine that might kill the sperm and also acts as a lubricant. Whatever sperm are in precum are generally "leftovers" and are most often not going to cause pregnancy.

That said, sperm have a nearly miraculous ability to find their way to the egg when they are anywhere near a vagina. Always assume that conception is imminent if your jeans are off!

Okay, the biology lesson is done, we are now returning you to your previously scheduled posts.

 

[LaRocha]

All these people r wrong. U can only get pregnant from tongue kissing.

 

[fuckmeat]

All these people r wrong. U can only get pregnant from tongue kissing.

Really? Shit.

 

[trojan_man_co]

You can't cure BABY, not if she catholic anyway

like my tag line suggests life is an STD...


as for the cum precum... yes you can get pregnant that way. Is there less of a chance with pre cum than cum, yes. Is there less chance than actually Cumming in her... yes. But regardless you can still become pregnant. i know a girl who was convinced she was a virgin as long as she only had anal sex, and that she was safe... well she got pregnant for a guy Cumming in her ass and it dripping out when she was sleeping. she ended up giving birth and the doctor had to break her hymen for her.

 

[infinity706]

like my tag line suggests life is an STD...


as for the cum precum... yes you can get pregnant that way. Is there less of a chance with pre cum than cum, yes. Is there less chance than actually Cumming in her... yes. But regardless you can still become pregnant. i know a girl who was convinced she was a virgin as long as she only had anal sex, and that she was safe... well she got pregnant for a guy Cumming in her ass and it dripping out when she was sleeping. she ended up giving birth and the doctor had to break her hymen for her.

Now, that's an extreme level of unlikely to the point I've never even heard of it. I guess it's possible if she went to sleep shortly after sex and slept on her belly, though.

 

[timy756]

r u 4?
8?
6?

 

[Tom00]

Thanks for the comments about my age... it's very mature to ridicule me for trying to seek answers in order to lead a safer sex life. I'm sure that we were all born with this knowledge, so I have to apologize in advance -- I must have been shortchanged.

I assure you, all advice is definitely going to be taken into account, and I'm going to make sure we're both going to take STD tests. But there haven't been any signs with me, and I've been her only partner.

 

[cop1047]

Just because you aren't showing signs doesn't mean you shouldn't be testing yourself for std's. Even if you were a virgin planning to have your first sexual encounter you should have yourself tested. Even though they are called Sexually Transmitted Diseases, they aren't only passed by sex. Probably the most heard of one is AIDS being spread by blood transfusion back in the 70's and 80's.

Until you have yourself tested, how could you ever properly and honestly answer a partner that you are clear of any kind of disease?

 

[bailadora]

OP:

you are aware that STIs can also be passed through oral sex, aren't you? Both of you need to get to a clinic and get tested ASAP.

 

[kredo]

hello

Thanks for information...