Just a (bi)curiosity...

[TigrGrrl5]

When is a person bisexual?
I mean, what makes someone bisexual?
Would a 'straight' woman be considered bisexual by being attracted to one member of the same sex?
Or do the odds have to be even?

What are the criteria?

Discuss.

 

[WetDenise]

I don't think there's any "criteria." Same as there's no criteria for determining if you're in love.
Just my personal opinion though: if you are just attracted to someone of the same sex, no. If you imagine or dream about kissing or touching them, yes. I think simple attraction isn't enough.
But I'm new at this. Anyone else have a better answer?

 

[John Doe]

IMO technically you're only bi-curious until you've had sex with someone of the same gender and want to do it again, but really you can define it any way that's comfortable for you.

 

[gumby123]

So watching girls together turns me on more that watching a man and a woman, but I still like men. I'm not bi untill I actually do anything with a girl.

 

[sdedalus]

i disagree... i think you can be bisexual without ever comitting the act. i mean we say someone is heterosexual even before they have sex, why would it be different. i have yet to have sex with another man, but my fiance and i have simulated the experience. i consider myself bi. it's what's in your head and what you desire sexually. but at the same time i think there are different levels of bisexuality. i for one do not want a relationship with another man, but i want to have sex with one. some people can have relationships with both sexes, there are a lot of different ways of looking at bisexuality.

SD

 

[sdedalus]

i disagree... i think you can be bisexual without ever comitting the act. i mean we say someone is heterosexual even before they have sex, why would it be different. i have yet to have sex with another man, but my fiance and i have simulated the experience. i consider myself bi. it's what's in your head and what you desire sexually. but at the same time i think there are different levels of bisexuality. i for one do not want a relationship with another man, but i want to have sex with one. some people can have relationships with both sexes, there are a lot of different ways of looking at bisexuality.

SD

 

[bottom boy]

i agree with sdedalus. i think bi people are born with a certain something that allows them to be attracted to both sexes. thus, they are bi from birth, even if they have yet to discover or act on the feelings. I think there is a continuum of sexuality and it depends on where you fall, as to how far you would go.


Something like this:


<-----------------------------------------X----------------------------------->
100% gay-------------------------Bi-----------------------100% straight


X=I'm about here

But sometimes that depends on my mood. Sometimes I'm on the other side of the 50% mark.

bb

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

When is a person bisexual?
I mean, what makes someone bisexual?
Would a 'straight' woman be considered bisexual by being attracted to one member of the same sex?
Or do the odds have to be even?

What are the criteria?

Discuss.

Hmm BB and SD both say things that I agree with. Sexuality is something that has different connotations for everyone Case in point: I consider myself lesbian, but I still enjoy playing with submissive males. By other's interpretations that would make me bi, yet I don't feel *bi*.

One can BE bi without ever having a same sex encounter. The question is whether or not being involved in a sexual thing with a member of one's same sex is feasible to one. If it is, then I would consider them bi-sexual. If it's not but one wants to do it just to *Try* it, then I consider it bi-curious.

Later
Luna

 

[zukethecuke]

Up until a hundred years or so ago, nobody thought about sexuality and sexual identity as something you WERE, but as something you DID. I don't think the word 'homosexual' even existed, and 'bisexual' certainly didn't ; a 'sodomite' was someone who practiced sodomy just like a 'shoemaker' was someone who made shoes. Of course people then were like people now, but the words were different and the thinking was different. So today..... bisexual? I think the word should mean what you want, not what you've done. Certainly teens who haven't had sex with anyone yet can't be considered to be asexual....

 

[DirkPryde]

being bisexual, or more to the point "identifying" as being bisexual, is each individuals choice.

Wether it is because you are sexually attracted or emotionally attracted, to me it makes no difference, let each of us decide what we identify as being.

 

[iliktukissitu]

I just want to be able to let it all "hang out". I don't really care about all the science or other hang-ups here. I just wanna have cum...er, I mean fun

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=254083

 

[overthebow]

I think it is about your own internal threshold. Some people identify with 'bi' when they have only had sex with the opposite but want to have it with their own. Others think the threshold is when there has been significant amounts of sexual activity and it is something that the person intends to continue. There are others who prefer to have sex with their own gender but still have sex with the opposite gender sometimes.

Labels are interesting. I read a story on Salon.com about a woman who had identified herself as gay for a long time but started seeing a guy and realized that she was in love with him. It was hard for her to come out of the closet to her gay friends as straight.