Jailbait, were you ever?

[Betticus]

Fallout from another thread..

Someone mentioned being jailbait when she was in a relationship at a more tender age. I'm assuming that in that particular relationship there was a local statute being broken by the guy for being with her when she was too young.

We've all seen the crazy episodes on talk shows where they talk to "out of control" teens who are sexually active, etc... ad nauseum..

Those are extreme cases of course. What they say though is that that relationship damages the girl somehow and I can see the wisdom in that, you wouldn't want your 15 year old daughter sneaking out to frat parties.

With the women here who were in technically illegal relationships in regards to age differences how do you feel about your youthful relationships and how do you think it's affected who you are now? Would you have been in that relationship if you knew back then what you know now? Do you think the laws are off base when it comes to setting ages where a younger person can decide to be in some kind of relationship.

What about ageplay also?

I know that if I had a daughter I would be one of those daddies that is way overprotective.

Throw in your own thoughts and opinions here, I'm not an expert in this area.

 

[FurryFury]

If you mean intercourse, no I wasn't.

If you mean dating men at least twice my age and doing things that weren't penetrative then yes I was.

 

[Betticus]

If you mean intercourse, no I wasn't.

If you mean dating men at least twice my age and doing things that weren't penetrative then yes I was.

But how do you think the whole experience affected your emotional development?

 

[Homburg]

I know that if I had a daughter I would be one of those daddies that is way overprotective.

I have two daughters. I am good-sized fellow, and have been described as somewhat intimidating. I'm fairly certain that both of my daughters will just begin hiding their prospective beaus from me when they get to dating age.

I just need to make sure that whenever any of them come over, I'm either out in the garage lifting, or at my desk cleaning a gun or sharpening a knife. It'll be classic.

"So, how old were you again?"

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Hmmm

I was engaged in a jail bait relationship, but it was my guy who was underage, not me. That being said, 14 years (off and on) 2 children and finally, we are talking about marriage. I don't think I corrupted him...but who knows.

 

[Betticus]

I honestly don't find myself having any sympathy for that 14 year old boy in Florida that was sleeping with his hot blonde teacher.

When I was 14 I'd have been sexing that girl up every chance I got.

 

[midwestyankee]

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I just need to make that whenever any of them come over, I'm either out in the garage lifting, or at my desk cleaning a gun or sharpening a knife. It'll be classic.

"So, how old were you again?"

I still remember the first time I met one girlfriend's father (she was 16 and I was 18 at the time). Not long after the introductions, the mother and daughter repaired to the kitchen to work on supper preparations while I was taken up to dad's office to see his collection of shotguns. He made his point quite eloquently, I'd say.

 

[FurryFury]

But how do you think the whole experience affected your emotional development?

I think it didn't hurt me in the slightest. Now that I look back on it, I can see that I was calling all the shots. Which may have been good due to the fear I had surrounding sexuality. Sexuality was the only thing close to what I wanted and didn't believe in, love, but it was also forbidden for the most part due to religion. The men were very respectful of my boundaries. They were in many ways gentlemen. If I could find them, I'd thank them today.

I should have stuck with those types because boys my own age were not respectful of my boundaries and that fucked me up for quite a while.

 

[Homburg]

I still remember the first time I met one girlfriend's father (she was 16 and I was 18 at the time). Not long after the introductions, the mother and daughter repaired to the kitchen to work on supper preparations while I was taken up to dad's office to see his collection of shotguns. He made his point quite eloquently, I'd say.

I personally never got that sort of treatment. Every father I met took a liking to me, and half of them wound up asking me for help fixing something. I apparently had a sign round my neck that read "I fix broken things, and can thus be trusted with your daughter".

 

[FurryFury]

I never brought a guy around that I wasn't already sure would pass muster.

In direct violation of "the rule." The rule was that I had to bring them to meet the 'rents before I went out with them. Riiiiight. Like that's going to happen.

 

[lushlucid]

It pisses me off the double standards that many fathers have for their daughters when it comes to dating. The son is a champ if he sleeps with as many women as possible but any boy who tries getting into his daughters pants WATCH OUT.

pffft

 

[bustyblondebombshell]

My first sexual relationship began when I was 15....... he was 24, and intercourse seemed so natural.

I've never regretted it, and I don't think it affected me in any way.

 

[lushlucid]

My first sexual relationship began when I was 15....... he was 24, and intercourse seemed so natural.

I've never regretted it, and I don't think it affected me in any way.

That's just not cool in my opinion. My bf is turning 25 and I'm 20 if we were to break up and he was to go out with a 15 yr old i'd be really disturbed.

 

[Homburg]

It pisses me off the double standards that many fathers have for their daughters when it comes to dating. The son is a champ if he sleeps with as many women as possible but any boy who tries getting into his daughters pants WATCH OUT.

pffft

Double standard? Meh, it's just no fun to intimidate any girls brought in by my sons. Hell, boys expect rough treatment from the fathers of girls they ask out. It's part of the ritual of dating.

My own sons will get The Talk from me about the girls they date. Too many jackasses out there being awful women, and I won't allow my boys to add to that misery.

 

[bustyblondebombshell]

That's just not cool in my opinion. My bf is turning 25 and I'm 20 if we were to break up and he was to go out with a 15 yr old i'd be really disturbed.

At 15, most guys thought I was a lot older than I was. I had left school once I sat my exams to go to college. The culture in the UK is maybe a little different to the US.

At 15 I looked old enough to get into night clubs etc, and I was regularly meeting guys who thought I was 18 or 19.

When he finally asked my age and I told him, he ran a mile. Which wasn't the most pleasant of things to happen, but thats life. I learned from it, moved on and grew up a little more.

 

[lushlucid]

At 15, most guys thought I was a lot older than I was. I had left school once I sat my exams to go to college. The culture in the UK is maybe a little different to the US.

At 15 I looked old enough to get into night clubs etc, and I was regularly meeting guys who thought I was 18 or 19.

When he finally asked my age and I told him, he ran a mile. Which wasn't the most pleasant of things to happen, but thats life. I learned from it, moved on and grew up a little more.

I'm not in the US. So you didn't tell him your age before you had sex?

 

[bustyblondebombshell]

I'm not in the US. So you didn't tell him your age before you had sex?

Fair enough. My bad on that assumption.

No I didn't, it wasn't an issue that ever came up. We dated for a month or so, then the first night I stayed over at his house was when it happened.

 

[myinnerslut]

i was 17 when i first had sex which, while still a minor, is the age of consent in NY

and its not my father, but my younger brother (who is a foot taller then me, very in shape, a lifeguard, and can be intimidating) who makes a point of sharpening his knives while meeting my boyfriends.

 

[lushlucid]

Fair enough. My bad on that assumption.

No I didn't, it wasn't an issue that ever came up. We dated for a month or so, then the first night I stayed over at his house was when it happened.

You dated for a month and the subject of age never came up?
I don't think you should have sex with someone if you're underage without telling them.

 

[bustyblondebombshell]

You dated for a month and the subject of age never came up?
I don't think you should have sex with someone if you're underage without telling them.

maybe, but I was 15.... its well over 10 years later now and if I were to go back in time I would have done it differently. But I don't regret it. Not a single thing. And as I said, I was an old 15 .

HOWEVER... as i said, I would do things differently now. And if I think about a 24 year old with a 15 year old, I find it mildly wrong.

 

[lushlucid]

maybe, but I was 15.... its well over 10 years later now and if I were to go back in time I would have done it differently. But I don't regret it. Not a single thing. And as I said, I was an old 15 .

HOWEVER... as i said, I would do things differently now. And if I think about a 24 year old with a 15 year old, I find it mildly wrong.

Fair enough, each to his own.

 

[Betticus]

Ten years apart isn't so much depending on the age of the youngest one in the relationship. 50 year old woman with a 60 year old man isn't blinked at but an 18 year old girl with a 28 year old guy may get looks.

 

[Betticus]

maybe, but I was 15.... its well over 10 years later now and if I were to go back in time I would have done it differently. But I don't regret it. Not a single thing. And as I said, I was an old 15 .

HOWEVER... as i said, I would do things differently now. And if I think about a 24 year old with a 15 year old, I find it mildly wrong.

I made the mistake of going to the shopping mall on a Saturday to go to the bookstore a few months ago. I knew that the instant I walked in I was in trouble. The teen girls around here are pretty mature looking. They are also dressed to advertise what they've got. Seems like they are trying really hard to grow up fast.

 

[bustyblondebombshell]

Ten years apart isn't so much depending on the age of the youngest one in the relationship. 50 year old woman with a 60 year old man isn't blinked at but an 18 year old girl with a 28 year old guy may get looks.

I think age differences have never really bothered me because of my upbringing.

When my Mum split up with my father I was 3.... then she met the man I call my Dad. He's 19 years her senior. This year he was 69, and my Mum will soon be 50.

So I just never saw age as an issue.

 

[ownedsubgal]

my first consensual sexual relationship was with a 24 yr old man when i was 13...there was definitely nothing abusive, manipulative or damaging about it. in fact i'll agree with Fury in that i kinda called the shots (tho i didn't want to), which is often the case in teen girl/older man relationships, something a lot of people don't realize. the guy will basically do anything to keep this hot, young willing thing receptive to him, so in many cases the young girl is actually the one in control. there are some teen girls who play this game with older men in some very nasty, cruel ways and are manipulators of the worst kind.

but speaking for myself i was never attracted to boys my own age, perhaps because i missed my father so much or because i was always so attracted to authority figures, or some combination. the youngest sexual partner i have ever had was a 19 yr old guy when i was 16. when i was in college i had a sexual relationship with my academic advisor, and when i was 17 i was seriously involved with a man 31 yrs my senior...by the time i was born, he'd fought in vietnam, married and divorced, had 3 kids. all valuable life experiences imo, nothing negative.