I've decided abstinence is a really bad idea.

[human_male]

I'm not getting any sex, and I stopped masturbating for about three weeks. Mostly because I wanted to induce a wet dream (didn't work), and also because it made me feel sexy and turned on most of the time. I'm not very highly sexed (my libido has been starved into dormancy) but I'm still really interested in sex as a subject. Depriving myself made me feel turned on all the time and I liked it.

The drawback is I started to get really funny ideas, like "I know, I'll by this huge, $100 dildo with which to fuck myself!" Great idea! But I get it out of the box and I think "God, what am I going to do with this huge thing? It's not going anywhere near my poor ass that's for sure. And they won't take it back of course, so I'm out a hundred bucks!

And that's why abstinence is bad.

 

[george51]

I think you might be playing with us? Not a high libido? On this site? Mine must be coming out of my ears.

I can't remember the last time I went three weeks. One week and I am looking at anything a hole in it as an object of desire. Donut..to small, toilet roll..ditto, milk bottle..too small and dangerous. Don't try that one at home.

But I understand your folly. Obviously you should have emptied your balls of this delicious cum, prior to going in search of your new rubber penis. I have done the same thing. I said to the man at the shop that I wanted it for my wife. He said "your wife..?" with that sort of pause which let me know he saw straight through me.

I was very excited about the foot long number myself. But after seeing the price of it, thankfully I decided to decline. My wife has one like that. I'm not sure if she has used it on herself. Got it as a gift, but not from me. I know it won't fit my delicate almost virginal mouth and ass, because, alas, I have tried and it was far too big...

Anyway, I fully intend to try my new porn shop for a suitable sized dildo. Obviously I have a new favourite shop, after the rudeness of the guy at the last one. I'm not sure what suitable size actually is though. I wonder if you can try before you buy? I think though my wife's smaller vibrator, white plastic variety, just looks a little boring. I want a cock that looks like a cock.

So yes, I agree, abstinence is not a good idea. In spite of how good it feels to have your balls full, be aching with desire and at least half erect most of the time.

You women out there reading this don't know what your missing. At least I hope you are out there reading this?

 

[human_male]

I think you might be playing with us? Not a high libido? On this site? Mine must be coming out of my ears.

I can't remember the last time I went three weeks. One week and I am looking at anything a hole in it as an object of desire. Donut..to small, toilet roll..ditto, milk bottle..too small and dangerous. Don't try that one at home.

But I understand your folly. Obviously you should have emptied your balls of this delicious cum, prior to going in search of your new rubber penis. I have done the same thing. I said to the man at the shop that I wanted it for my wife. He said "your wife..?" with that sort of pause which let me know he saw straight through me.

I was very excited about the foot long number myself. But after seeing the price of it, thankfully I decided to decline. My wife has one like that. I'm not sure if she has used it on herself. Got it as a gift, but not from me. I know it won't fit my delicate almost virginal mouth and ass, because, alas, I have tried and it was far too big...

Anyway, I fully intend to try my new porn shop for a suitable sized dildo. Obviously I have a new favourite shop, after the rudeness of the guy at the last one. I'm not sure what suitable size actually is though. I wonder if you can try before you buy? I think though my wife's smaller vibrator, white plastic variety, just looks a little boring. I want a cock that looks like a cock.

So yes, I agree, abstinence is not a good idea. In spite of how good it feels to have your balls full, be aching with desire and at least half erect most of the time.

You women out there reading this don't know what your missing. At least I hope you are out there reading this?

My god, somebody responded! Goody, goody! *jumps up and down and claps hands excitedly*

It's true, I'm not very highly sexed in a physical way. I don't feel physically horny but I do have sex on the brain.

I would recommend starting small with your toys and working up. Not the other way around like I did. Also, going into the shop to examine them yourself is a great idea. Take them out of the box if you can. Heft them in your hand and you'll get a better idea than buying them off the net. And I hear silicone is smoother than that horrible rubber stuff that most of them are made from and that's better because you don't want to keep stopping every two minutes to apply more lube, and you don't want the darn thing getting stuck.

I too enjoyed the aching, but pleasantly full sensation one gets in one's nuts when one hasn't popped one off in a while.

 

[george51]

Thank you for your advice. I hope to choose wisely.

That feeling of desire, balls aching, dick tingling, is hard to beat. To be combined with a nice shaped and textured dildo can surely only make it better? I had no idea about the different materials of dildos. If my local porn peddlar wasn't such a scary type I would ask him for advice. Might get a bit nasty about that one..

I have used my wife's plastic vibrator number, in front of her as well, but somehow it is not really the same thing as a nice realisticlly shaped cock. No doubt a real cock would be better still, but right at the moment I may have to make do.

I suppose womens cunts just get wetter, when they abstain? I wonder if they get that aching feeling, when their desire gets so great?

 

[none2_none2]

I remember once in my late 30's when I abstained for 5 days. It was so weird. I wanted to hump any man that showed the bit amount of being hairy -- regardless if they were gay/bi or str8. I was dying to have my f-buddy come visit me. I somehow thought that abstinence would some how be a spiritual ritual that would cleans my mind of impure thoughts for a few days. All it did was the opposite. If before I had thought about sex frequenty, once I didn't do it, I thought about it without ceasing. I have no idea how guys live a life of celibacy, I'd be climbing the walls.

 

[ShaunaM]

As a female, I do not understand the whole "balls aching, dick tingling" concept. But I can guarantee you that I (I can only speak for myself, not for the rest of the ladies) do get the "oh my god, my clit is aching, I need to cum" feeling.

And I don't particularly like the idea of abstinence either. It's been almost 3 months since being with a partner (someone help me please?!) and I cannot imagine what I would do without masturbation. I grew up in church and was always taught that masturbation was wrong, so I tried it years ago (abstaining that is), with no such luck. It seemed that I was nothing but pent up sexual energy. As soon as I began to touch, I couldn't stop. And I would pretty much hump anything in sight after that. I can't say that I ever went out and bought a foot long dildo or anything like that (maybe because the closest "sex shop" is 6 hours away), but, hopping on top of your best friend since kindergarten could be considered a "foot long" mistake, no?

Anyhow, abstaining could be a good idea if trying to attain the "hump anything in sight" and "not being able to stop" dilema. Other than that, I'm sure I would die before ever achieving abstinence.

And, George, I can't attest for the others, but I can tell you that my cunt did get extremely wet (even more than normal! ) when "trying" to abstain. Probably even "too" wet.

 

[none2_none2]

...I cannot imagine what I would do without masturbation. I grew up in church and was always taught that masturbation was wrong, so I tried it years ago (abstaining that is), with no such luck..."

My only knowledge about female masturbation came from some old medical book I read before I was 20 when I worked at a hospital. They made it sound like it was a really bad thing for females. (They didn't discuss male masturbation.) In short they said that you can clinically spot a female who masturbates because such a female's labia become "leathery" from masturbation abuse. Some of the pictures were pretty bad, so I was just happy that guys didn't have to worry about the leathery phenomena.

 

[human_male]

My only knowledge about female masturbation came from some old medical book I read before I was 20 when I worked at a hospital. They made it sound like it was a really bad thing for females. (They didn't discuss male masturbation.) In short they said that you can clinically spot a female who masturbates because such a female's labia become "leathery" from masturbation abuse. Some of the pictures were pretty bad, so I was just happy that guys didn't have to worry about the leathery phenomena.

Was that in the '50s?

 

[infinity706]

Was that in the '50s?

In the 50s, it could even make you go blind. Circumcision was the magic answer.

 

[none2_none2]

Was that in the '50s?

I don't know when the book was published. I read it in 1979.

 

[none2_none2]

In the 50s, it could even make you go blind. Circumcision was the magic answer.

No wonder so many people have to wear glasses. Now I understand.

Circumcision does cure Parmesan Wiener Syndrome.