I've been outed. Partially.

[Guest]

My stupid sister and her husband have informed on me to my parents.

I've practiced at writing for years, grad school especially forces scholarly articles from you, but my parents knew I hadn't been seriously writing for a long time. I know they've been waiting for me to get back into it (they also want me to go back to church but that isn't likely for awhile - anyway).

I know I shouldn't have said anything to my sister but I was just so happy to get a story finished and actually submitted into a contest. Damn it.

Luckily no one knows the name under which I write, or Literotica, or even names of any of the stories I've done. Nothing. Just that I do write naughty tales and have been having some success with it.

But at the family gathering this past weekend, there was a moment when discussing stories and writing that things got very quiet and I realized my parents had this very odd look on their faces. I turned to look at sister and her hubby and they had enough class to look embarrassed. Drop subject matter, on to something else.

If I had wanted my mother and father to know that I wrote erotica, I would have let them know about it myself.

So what - I'm a pervert now? Sis and her hubby couldn't be big enough jerks that they had to spoil this aspect of my life, too?

Damn it.

 

[cloudy]

My stupid sister and her husband have informed on me to my parents.

I've practiced at writing for years, grad school especially forces scholarly articles from you, but my parents knew I hadn't been seriously writing for a long time. I know they've been waiting for me to get back into it (they also want me to go back to church but that isn't likely for awhile - anyway).

I know I shouldn't have said anything to my sister but I was just so happy to get a story finished and actually submitted into a contest. Damn it.

Luckily no one knows the name under which I write, or Literotica, or even names of any of the stories I've done. Nothing. Just that I do write naughty tales and have been having some success with it.

But at the family gathering this past weekend, there was a moment when discussing stories and writing that things got very quiet and I realized my parents had this very odd look on their faces. I turned to look at sister and her hubby and they had enough class to look embarrassed. Drop subject matter, on to something else.

If I had wanted my mother and father to know that I wrote erotica, I would have let them know about it myself.

So what - I'm a pervert now? Sis and her hubby couldn't be big enough jerks that they had to spoil this aspect of my life, too?

Damn it.

I'm sorry, babe, but one positive thing: it's out there now, so no need to worry about it anymore, yes?

Tell her she's a bitch, and that karma won't smile on her - from me.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

My stupid sister and her husband have informed on me to my parents.

I've practiced at writing for years, grad school especially forces scholarly articles from you, but my parents knew I hadn't been seriously writing for a long time. I know they've been waiting for me to get back into it (they also want me to go back to church but that isn't likely for awhile - anyway).

I know I shouldn't have said anything to my sister but I was just so happy to get a story finished and actually submitted into a contest. Damn it.

Luckily no one knows the name under which I write, or Literotica, or even names of any of the stories I've done. Nothing. Just that I do write naughty tales and have been having some success with it.

But at the family gathering this past weekend, there was a moment when discussing stories and writing that things got very quiet and I realized my parents had this very odd look on their faces. I turned to look at sister and her hubby and they had enough class to look embarrassed. Drop subject matter, on to something else.

If I had wanted my mother and father to know that I wrote erotica, I would have let them know about it myself.

So what - I'm a pervert now? Sis and her hubby couldn't be big enough jerks that they had to spoil this aspect of my life, too?

Damn it.

Aw, that stinks. I still love you ...filthy pervert.

 

[Guest]

I'm sorry, babe, but one positive thing: it's out there now, so no need to worry about it anymore, yes?

Tell her she's a bitch, and that karma won't smile on her - from me.

It makes me feel uncomfortable, like they are looking over my shoulder or something.

I didn't confront her about it - yet.

 

[Guest]

Aw, that stinks. I still love you ...filthy pervert.

OH, good.

The Perverts Anonymous Meeting is this afternoon.

Oh - I guess it isn't anonymous anymore, is it?????

 

[ABSTRUSE]

OH, good.

The Perverts Anonymous Meeting is this afternoon.

Oh - I guess it isn't anonymous anymore, is it?????

Partially, don't sweat it, you're a big girl with your own life who is a talented writer regardless.

Tell your sister you flirt with women while your at it, maybe she'll break out in hives.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

This is why I haven't told ANY of my relatives that I do these stories! I feel for you, lady. And MY dad is a preacher, so you could IMAGINE his reaction if he ever found out!

 

[rikaaim]

I always felt that if the ones that say they are close to me can't accept me fully as I am, then I don't need them. But, that's just my upbringing. I'm really sorry this happened to you. I know you are confident in what you do, and more than talented. I hope that things work out for you. You have my warmest thoughts and wishes.

 

[hugo_sam]

My stupid sister and her husband have informed on me to my parents.
If I had wanted my mother and father to know that I wrote erotica, I would have let them know about it myself.

So what - I'm a pervert now? Sis and her hubby couldn't be big enough jerks that they had to spoil this aspect of my life, too?

Damn it.

We still love you SSS
Family often do stupid things.

 

[MissBri]

 

[McKenna]

Sorry to hear you were outed so unfairly. The up side of this may be that this is the opening you need to be more fully "yourself" around your family. As Rika said, if they aren't willing to accept you without limitations, perhaps it's time to re-think their place in your life. Tough to do with family, but you'll have your AH family here to support you no matter what.

 

[Belegon]

Yes, lean on us...we're here for ya babe!

 

[Guest]

Sarahh, whatever it might mean to your family that you write erotica, in the 'bigger picture' of family life and relations I would hope your parents might recognize the meaning of the betrayal by your sister. More importantly that your sister will understand it, and eventually apologize.

Still, you have my sympathy and best wishes,

Perdita

 

[Colleen Thomas]

Sarah,

Have you considered whipping up a little non erotic work and posting it? There are half a gazillion forums, rangeing from kids books to serious scholarly articles. I'm considering it.

My mom & dad know what I write. Have even read some of my work. And mom mentioned in passing at a church function I was a writer. And several of the ladies wanted to see my work. I don't personally care, but it has put my mom in something of an awkward spot. So I may post something historical on another forum, so mom can show them.

 

[Guest]

Sarahh, whatever it might mean to your family that you write erotica, in the 'bigger picture' of family life and relations I would hope your parents might recognize the meaning of the betrayal by your sister. More importantly that your sister will understand it, and eventually apologize.

Still, you have my sympathy and best wishes,

Perdita

You've clarified my thoughts exactly. Yes.

It is a betrayal, and as my sister and I have been on uncertain footing for a time this certainly appears to be a way for her to one-up me in our parents' eyes.

My parents will be fine with this in the long term, I truly believe. I can even imagine my mother (eventually) joking with her sisters that her oldest daughter writes porn. My dad will just be uncomfortable with the whole thing, however, and that's what I really wished to avoid.

Thank you, everyone, for your thoughts and best wishes. My parents will be fine and I'll get over it.

But this further deepens the gulf between sis and myself.

 

[Guest]

Sarah,

Have you considered whipping up a little non erotic work and posting it? There are half a gazillion forums, rangeing from kids books to serious scholarly articles. I'm considering it.

My mom & dad know what I write. Have even read some of my work. And mom mentioned in passing at a church function I was a writer. And several of the ladies wanted to see my work. I don't personally care, but it has put my mom in something of an awkward spot. So I may post something historical on another forum, so mom can show them.

That is a wonderful idea.

Journal articles aren't the same as short stories, and an interesting tale that my parents could actually circulate among family and friends might just be the ticket.

(But can I actually write something that is non-erotic???)

 

[Norajane]

If I had wanted my mother and father to know that I wrote erotica, I would have let them know about it myself.

So what - I'm a pervert now? Sis and her hubby couldn't be big enough jerks that they had to spoil this aspect of my life, too?

Damn it.

Bad sis, and bad brother-in-law!

There's nothing wrong with writing erotica, pervy though it might be, but there's no need for anyone to know something which isn't any of their business and affects them in no way whatsoever...especially when it's parents and sex.

I'm sorry this happened, sweets, but the parents will get over it. I'm sure they've heard/been through worse than this!

 

[cloudy]

That is a wonderful idea.

Journal articles aren't the same as short stories, and an interesting tale that my parents could actually circulate among family and friends might just be the ticket.

(But can I actually write something that is non-erotic???)

You can borrow something of mine, if you like. I have four essays, and one non-erotic story.

 

[Belegon]

TripleS, I totally understand...I have some duality among those who know I write...in my home and among friends, I am "out" for the most part...but I have professional reasons to be discreet...

the circumstances there are sometimes interesting...

definitely put up some little quickies somewhere...I have my sportswriting to save me, but anything will work...

 

[Kev H]

I completely empathize with you, and I pity your petty sister - if she ever becomes mature enough to look at your relationship in the mirror, she will have a hard time of it.

Take good care of yourself.

Kev

You've clarified my thoughts exactly. Yes.

It is a betrayal, and as my sister and I have been on uncertain footing for a time this certainly appears to be a way for her to one-up me in our parents' eyes.

My parents will be fine with this in the long term, I truly believe. I can even imagine my mother (eventually) joking with her sisters that her oldest daughter writes porn. My dad will just be uncomfortable with the whole thing, however, and that's what I really wished to avoid.

Thank you, everyone, for your thoughts and best wishes. My parents will be fine and I'll get over it.

But this further deepens the gulf between sis and myself.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I tell people I write on a Literary forum.

 

[Guest]

I tell people I write on a Literary forum.

So did I. (Except for one other person - evil sister, wicked witch of the west.)

Fat lot of good it did me, hmmm?

 

[ABSTRUSE]

So did I. (Except for one other person - evil sister, wicked witch of the west.)

Fat lot of good it did me, hmmm?

Send me her address and gas money.

 

[Kev H]

I say we all contribute an idea or a paragraph toward the "Help Sarah Fool her Friends" fund.

Once you have the "clean" stories in place, you can show them and comment "you failed my test, Sister. I lied to you to see if you were a decent person yet or not. Guess we all found out the answer."

Oh, and be sure to tell her that in front of the parents.

 

[Guest]

I say we all contribute an idea or a paragraph toward the "Help Sarah Fool her Friends" fund.

What a lovely thought! What a great idea!

This could be an experiement in writing a Non-Erotic chain story.

Personally, I'm not certain I have it in me!