It's taken me all day to work up the guts to says this...

[Shelby]

But I'll finally do it.

I've done nothing but watch the horrific news for two days.

I've come on BB for a second or two here and there. I've sobbed over posts, my heart cracked for all of you who were looking for a friend you hadn't heard from.

I was so proud to see the AV's fly the red, white & blue. The flag at half mast (Myst?) broke my heart. The firefighter, the cops, the missing, the tragic. You thought of it all, and flew your hearts on your sleeves.

What I don't understand is those who are taking this moment to flick their AV from T&A shot to T&A shot. In my humble opinion, save the tits and ass for later, it's not really time to partake in a new AV saliva group. Many have kept their AV's the same. That's good. Many have chosen to fly a sign of support. That's good. But what's with the "here's new tits to see" I want to see the tits of every single man and woman in those buildings. Not yours.

Sorry, but that's how I feel.

 

[bluntforcemama]

the half mast wasn't me. I'm on of the T&A people.

 

[Never]

Half mast is April - though I've been told DCL will be showing an av of himself at full mast soon.

 

[SimplySouthern]

I changed mine. Perhaps not to anyone else's liking...but then again, it is MY avatar.

At a time like this, are avatar squibbles really a necessity?

 

[freakygirl]

i like the T & A avs.. now.. later.. whenever.. *shrugs* i guess i'm just a T & A kinda person tho...

 

[freakygirl]

I changed mine. Perhaps not to anyone else's liking...but then again, it is MY avatar.

At a time like this, are avatar squibbles really a necessity?

only thing missing on yours.. is a little T & A..

 

[Kasha]

I changed my av, it is one of the small things I can do to show my support visibly. I hung out my flag, put one on the car and if I can show publicly that I support my country that is what I am going to do. I will eventually change my av when I feel like it.. but right now my heart is too heavy to do anything else.

 

[Shelby]

Myst, T&A or not, that wasn't how I viewed you for a second. Without reviewing the threads you came to mind as flying the colors. You wear your heart on your sleeve, and that's how I thought of you. Red, white & blue.

Freaky..you may like T&A, but those aren't the colors you're flying.

Simply..., at a time like this, AV's are of little concern, but, as I said, they'd been bothering me all day & I posted such. There seem to be a whomping load of new people here in the last while.

 

[lickerish]

What I don't understand is those who are taking this moment to flick their AV from T&A shot to T&A shot.

Sorry.

For all it's worth, I flicked my av from T&A shot to T&A shot BEFORE the crisis occured.

 

[freakygirl]

No, my T & A shot is on hold for a few days.. but that doesn't mean i can't enjoy Mysts or lickerishs T & A's.. i respect your opinion/feelings. But maybe "flicking their AV's" are helping them "overcome" the feelings they are having.. maybe they don't want to "deal" with reality.. isn't this a place for fun and enjoyment?

ok, maybe i'm making no sense.. who cares.. i shouldn't have responded anyway.. tis really none of me business.. now is it?

 

[registered "^^"]

People respond in many

different ways. It is not unusual to see rescuers, police, firemen or who ever tell jokes, laugh, smile at accident scenes.Some even at the most horrendous of scenes, are they cruel unthinking animals? No, their mind is trying to help them survive the horror of the moment. You can't dwell forever on the horrid things in life, your mind knows that, it tries to sheild you. It hurts you deal with it, but you must move on, and at times it is very difficult. You cannot put others down for what you think is frivolity, it is their way of coping with the situation.

 

[Shelby]

lickerish...no problem

Simply, I can't help but think that there are a load of firefighters that should have the opportunity to look at your AV before they go back in.

Those of you I know on this board, I know your hearts are correct.

April, I'm sorry I confused you earlier, you are so special. It was your flag that made me juster the guts to post this. (Probably a bad thing on my part) You Rock.

(Edit was spelling)

 

[SimplySouthern]

I got some moral support for those firemen....and I do love a man in uniform.

The only thing I can think of better than a man in uniform is a man OUT of uniform.

I understood what you meant earlier and I didn't mean to hop into my phonebooth and change into mega-bitch.

As far as my dear Lickety-Split goes...I think she should repost the tatas. It's what keeps me going.

And, I second the emotion that April rocks.

 

[registered "^^"]

Speak your mind anytime Shelby, that's part of being free. Your OK, it helps to talk.

 

[April]

*blushing* Thanks, guys. It's about the only thing I can do. Not allowed to give blood, and I don't have a flag to fly. Can't get one, either. No mail, and the bases are closed. (damn, i need some dr. pepper!) It's best to keep a low profile when overseas anyway.

Shelby, it's okay to think the T&A avs are not okay. Maybe you can just try to overlook them? Everybody deals with things in their own way. Mine is simply to shut down, but that's of no concern. Personally, I like all the variety you see here.

 

[GuyJD]

I see your point, Shelby. I changed my avatar, as I mentioned in my thread, when I heard that statement made by "Crazy Cabbie" on the Howard Stern Show. I realized that every citizen in this country are pulling together because of this horrific incident.

Therefore, while many of the Lit members are showing their support for the beloved tits & ass (and you're free to do so), I prefer to pledge my support to my country and all of the men and women who have volunteered their time to conduct the search for the victims and possible survivors of this tragedy.

 

[luv2tvl69]

Shelby

I can understand your point of view. After my own 2 days intense grief for our country as well as myself, pain, depression, fear...and now anger, disgust--still fear, and relief that my friends and family are alive and well: just feel the need for some lightness of heart in my day. I am sorry and aplologize if any of my postings offend you or anyone....they are not meant to. Just needing a break from the evils and pain surrounding us.

I couldnt function for 2 days, crying uncontrollably, not sleeping, not eating, waiting, still fearful for my loved ones who still have to fly home from where they are stranded. This is very close to home not only in distance, but have alot of close friends in the city (thank god they are all ok), friends that lost friends, co-workers. Sometimes an escape from reality--no matter how silly or small it may seem, helps the mind and heart cope with all the bad stuff around us that we cant control.

I thought I would never stop crying....I still grieve, cry, fear, feel disgust and anger....but it was consuming all of me...if I didnt step back slightly, dont know if I could.

People go thru different phases of grief and the dealings of trauma, especially when things are out of our personal control. The mind is an amazing thing that has its own mechanisms for survival. So if people need to escape a little, if for something so silly as what avatar they want to use, a light antecdote to ease the weight of the pain, just to talk about anything but death and despair for a few moments in their day, then so be it.

It doesnt mean people are heartless....those who laugh and cheer AT the devastation and death are heartless. But those who need a little something to make it thru the fear of the unknown, and the grief, the all consuming heartache are just needing a small reprieve from it all. It may not be everyone's way to deal, but its just dealing with what we cant control or have limits to what we can do.

Please dont hold it against me or others that are just searching for ways to try to stay sane, struggling to understand, to mentally survive & go on living. We all must do what we can to help the victims, the survivors etc., but there really is only so much we can do as individuals...we come together, we physically and emotionally help our "neighbors" cope, we give blood, we financially help, we give our hearts, prayers, our services. But then there is nothling left we can do but remember, try to prevent it from happening again, go on, and live.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Damn double post - how'd that happen?

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Shelby,

As someone who has had to retrieve dead bodies and rescue badly injured people from dangerous situations, I have no problem with whatever AV someone wants to show as long as it is not disrespectful. Different people deal with such situations quite differently - when you've seen some of the things I've seen firsthand you don't necessarily want to dwell on bad happenings every second of the day - you just get too depressed.

I think sex and erotic imagery is a good way to take a person's mind off the crap that has happened. Humor is another partial antidote to horror.

I say bring it on.

STG

 

[Shelby]

It's a new day, my anger has not lessened, but perhaps my understanding has grown.

I apologize for this post. But not for what I felt, and not for the anger I felt toward all the new people who streamed on this site on Tues and Wed with what I saw as the **hey, I found a T&A site, COOL***

My heart still breaks at every flag I see at half mast. I look at all the regulars and their new AV's and I don't even have the words to say how proud I am that we are people, together.

Myst, I hope you realize that I only mentioned your name as you've always been one of the Red, White & Blue (Translation: Goodness) and I saw you as that in my initial post. I should've backtracked before my emotions spilled forth. And I apologize for not giving initial credit to April.

When I look at the response from the concrete of this list,the new AV's that are flying, well, actually, I have no words.

 

[bluntforcemama]

Oh, hon, I don't mind. It happens to me all the time. People mistake me for a nice person. I just stick to my views through thick and thin.

 

[pabloback]

i dont hav a union jack or a st georges cross to fly as an av but i have tried to find a symbol known all over the world as typically american , one of the worlds great trade marks

 

[Shelby]

luv2 & Guy...

I started to, but I'm beyond comprehending a lot of things right now.

You both just floor me with your choice of how to represent yourselves at this time. There have been very few times in my life where people I have never physically met have made me so proud.

 

[Always]

it has been reshuffled now, in honor...

 

[Shelby]

it has been reshuffled now, in honor...

From me to you...thanks.