It's finally happened...

[Sammyjo]

...I have a date for tomorrow night (Friday)
He's taking me to a hockey game...I haven't been to one yet this year, and neither has he, so it should be fun.

It's hard being back on the "scene" after so many years. I feel like I should just give up sometimes. But, like I told a good friend...I realize that I don't NEED a man, but it would be nice to have one around once in a while.

My little girl was crying when she found out I was going out. I didn't say "date", just out...and I feel a little guilty. Someone please talk me out of that...I know I need some time away once in a while...but seeing her cry really hurts

Just thought I'd share my joy and sadness with all of you.

 

[Rosebud]

do something with her in the morn or on Saturday and go out and have a good time

 

[teresafannin]

Hi Sammyjo, Rosebud's advice is the same as mine. It is so hard for children to understand that adults need to have some time with other adults. I went through the same thing with Justin when I started dating his step-dad. Relax & have a great time, you deserve it. You are a great mom!!!

 

[TonyG]

Sammyjo

Have her help you pick out your outfit and get ready (as best she can). That way you have her a part of your "date" and she might not feel you are giving all your attention to someone else.

 

[Ezzy]

Just wondering ...

Have you somewhere you could take her first, and maybe a sleep over she may enjoy? To take her mind off the fact that you are not there.



EZ http://cwm.ragesofsanity.com/s/cwm2/sleep.gif

 

[Whispersecret]

I'd be wary of starting a "tradition" in which she gets something (be it something tangible or some other special outing) whenever you go out on a date. Children need to understand that their parents will at times do things with other adults that don't include kids. You can explain to her that she does things with her friends without you. Also, I don't see any reason why you should avoid the word "date." (Unless you're married, of course, and your date isn't with your husband.) <winks>

 

[Sammyjo]

Thanks everyone!

I promised her a special day on Saturday...which will probably include a million rounds of Disney Trivia...I know I'm setting myself up to get my ass kicked on that one, but that's ok...I also explained to her that after so many years of it being just me and her, I think I deserve a nice night out...I think she's just mad because she doesn't get to see the hockey game.

WS~you know I'm not married I think I am now avoiding the word date altogether...it seems so...ummm...weird. Or like I actually have a chance of making this work. I'm trying to be positive, but now I'm getting nervous.

 

[Merelan]

You realize we expect you home by midnight, and here reporting don't ya?
Who is he? Does he have a decent job? What is his background? Is he financially stable? Who are his parents? Where is the number we can reach you? Does he have a decent car?
Come on. You aren't going anywhere till you answer these questions young lady.
And you are not wearing "that" bra.

 

[Sammyjo]

LOL...Merelan I don't know if you are serious or not...but I think I can answer most of those questions...

His background is in Engineering, so he does have a decent job and is also financially stable. His car just turned a year old last week, so I'm assuming that it's decent. His parents are in another state.

I will have the cell phone with me, but I'm not going to publish the number. I'll be at the hockey arena for most of the night...and then, who knows?

My daddy said as long as I'm home before sunrise, it's ok with him.

And, I'm actually thinking of not wearing a bra. I know, I know...these breasts need some support, but I've been in the damn thing for almost 12 hours now...I'm sick of it!!! Only trouble is, if he puts his arm around me or by chance gives me a neck or shoulder rub...he'll notice...I don't want him thinking I'm easy...hahaha...of course, mentioning that to him, has probably only made him curious...I guess he's in for a big surprise.

Ok, I met him online...we haven't met in person yet...he is picking me up at home...we have exchanged pics, so there will be no surprises there. He has a very sexy voice. When he calls I get a little tingle up and down my spine...as well as other places. We spoke on the phone for 3 hours on Monday night. We spoke yesterday for a while, too...he was working...and apparently, a little uncomfortable in the pants area...I, of course, tried to take advantage of that.

We have chatted ABOUT sex, but not actually done any cyber or phone sex stuff...yet...I'm really going to work on that...depending upon how the evening goes.

He is 8 years older than me, which is a change, all my men have been younger than me...ok...gotta go shower...heehee

 

[Mackdaddy_74]

Good luck Sammy!

We want details tomorrow.

 

[Merelan]

Okay, young lady. But you must wear a bra, just not that slutty one.
I am not happy with you staying out all night. But I guess I have no choice, you are a grown girl now and know how to protect herself. And speaking of protection....
you are prepared aren't you? Just in case?
He sounds great, I hope it all goes smashingly. Have fun, relax and enjoy.
Of course, we do want details afterwards.

Was that a good Mommy speach? I don't have any practise at it, but thought I did fairly well.

 

[TN_Vixen]

grinning... have fun!

I hope you have the night of your life.

 

[Sammyjo]

Yes, you did very good at the mommy speech...fine, I'll wear the damn bra...but not the red one, will the white one be ok?

As for preparation...I doubt that I'll need that...it's our FIRST date...I'm afraid that either way, it will be the last. grrrrrrrr....someone talk me out of this negativity...

 

[Merelan]

You watch your mouth young lady or there won't be any damn date. You will spend the evening in your room. The white bra is fine. Nice girls wear them, and we want him to think we are a nice girl don't we?


At least for a little while.

 

[Ambrosious]

It's gonna be OK!

Besides, you are a babe. Now quit being nervous and negative and go splash on some perfume. Have fun, kid.

 

[Guest]

Nah, you're a bitch. I'm sure he'll realize that. Have fun scaring him away!!

Ever think there's a reason you haven't dated since dinosaurs roamed the earth?

 

[Sammyjo]

Does this mean I have my own troll now? Woo-hoo!!!

If I have ever been a bitch to you, you probably deserved it. I don't waste my bitchiness on those that are decent. Thanks for stopping by though.

As for why I haven't dated, it could be that I've been spending my last 7 years raising a child by myself. I think she's a little more important than dating. Although, someone like you might not realize that. Again, nice try, but I'm not offended by your juvenile lack of guts. I'm sure you are afraid of what your followers would say if they knew it was you...as Cheyenne has said (paraphrased of course)...always watch your back people...you never know who your troll is, it could be the one you hold most dear.

Oh, and always remember, those that have to insult others in order to feel better about themselves are nothing but insecure idiots.

Thank you and have a nice day.

 

[Siren]

Well said Sammi Jo.

 

[Siren]

 

[Siren]

Oooops

 

[teresafannin]

Hey Sammyjo, have a great time, you deserve it. I do want details, especially since my sweetie has to work late & I am home alone. I will have to live vicariously through you tonight.

 

[jcgirl]

Sammy, since tonites your date nite. Good Luck!

 

[Guest]

Woah, a bitch and a liar. We have a winner here. Yeah, Sammy, what happened to that little rugrat? *cough* simpathy plea *cough* And weren't you dying a few months ago too?

 

[Sammyjo]

Siren~yes, I did have a miscarriage in July. I didn't consider it dating though...it was the Toronto dude. Quite possibly, some people could see it as dating, but I didn't. It is hard to "date" someone from 700+ miles away. Sorry for the confusion. I also don't consider sex between two consenting individuals a date...if that is all there is. So, if you've heard me mention a guy I screwed in June, it wasn't a date, it was sex...

Ummm..I guess this idiot troll doesn't pay attention...but let me set you straight anyway...a lot of people date, not just healthy people...possibly even losers like you. Besides, if I am going to die, I might as well have a good father to raise my daughter Again, thanks for playing along...but, it looks like you are playing with yourself. What a shocker that is!!!

 

[Sammyjo]

As for the date...

...I thought it deserved it's own post...and I'm sorry Siren, that I responded to you in the same post as that scum, but it just sort of came out, you deserved your own post too.

Things went very well. The only problem, is that he's not a hockey junkie like I am, so I think he was getting bored toward the end of it. We had a great time, talking and getting to know each other. That's it. I think we may even do it again.