It's about having fun, not meeting some goal

[taolanes]

I'm starting to view women as a treasure who is allowing me to touch, lick, and enjoy every inch of her. SEX IS NOT ABOUT ATTAINING SOME GOAL IT'S ABOUT ENJOYING THE ENTIRE EXPERIENCE. What are some things that women enjoy other than intercourse?

Licking her bellybutton, sucking her toes, whatever turns you on

 

[Brown-eyed girl]

Absolutely!!

I think the analogy about life being about the journey, not the destination can also relate to sex. Yes, a mind-blowing orgasm is great, but that should not be the end-all, be-all of the act.

An incredibly passionate kiss, a sensual massage, gently running fingertips along my body, actually spending time licking and sucking my nipples and enjoying it - not just as a stop on the way to my pussy....it's all great. Anticipation can be very sexy...I had my toes sucked once and LOVED it!! Gentle touches and whispers in my ear, cuddling..it is all great.

Good for you for recognizing that! Your woman is very lucky.

 

[Norajane]

SEX IS NOT ABOUT ATTAINING SOME GOAL IT'S ABOUT ENJOYING THE ENTIRE EXPERIENCE.

Welcome to the wide world of wonderful sex! Congratulations for realizing something that takes people ages to discover, if they ever do.

Goal-oriented sex turns me off. Guys who fixate on one thing not only turn me off, but piss me off.

Lots of kisses during the day, having nothing to do with leading to sex, are a turn on. Being touched frequently, again, having nothing to do with leading immediately to sex, is a turn on. Massages, showering together and soaping each other up, spooning while tickling and teasing, is all a turn on. Running fingers through my hair, kissing me while drawing my head toward him gently, caressing my face, kissing my neck, hugs, all of those things are huge turn ons.

 

[vanelane]

Plus coming up behind me and putting your arms around me, planting kisses on that sensitive part of the back of my neck, even if there's no chance in hell we'll have time or energy for sex.

 

[Norajane]

Holding hands...that always gets me...rubbing fingers together, a tickle on the palm, a lick on the palm...

 

[TBKahuna123]

SEX IS NOT ABOUT ATTAINING SOME GOAL IT'S ABOUT ENJOYING THE ENTIRE EXPERIENCE.

Boy I couldn't agree with you more!

I'm tellin ya, the one thing I've learned is that a woman's arousal is at least 50% mental. I've gotten more response from non-sexual intimate contact than any sexual technique I've tried to arouse a woman. It's not even where you touch them, but how.

Just like they say that SEXY is more of an attitude than a look, sensual is the same way. Kissing a woman and grabbing a breast isn't as sensual and arousing as coming up behind her, wrapping your arms around her and pulling her to you, then slowly caressing your hands up to her breast while you softly kiss her neck

God I'm glad my wife gets home today!!!!

 

[taolanes]

Great to hear so many people realized the same thing. Or people spend so much time worrying about how hard they are or if they got her to cum yet that they can't just enjoy themelves.

Another thing I looove is erotic massages Slowly watch your S/O strip and then massage every part of them but their sex organs for 20 minutes. And then when they are SCREEEEAMING for it, go to their genitals mmmmmmmmm

 

[taolanes]

I found a good quote from Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. "Orgasms are great - no argument there. But making orgasm the ultimate goal of sex is a guy thing. Most women care more about closeness, acceptance, and mutual pleasure."

I would have to say that men feel the same way. Society puts so much pressure on sex that every person thinks the other person is only concerned about climax. I think once you concentrate on enjoying yourself sex is so much more erotic/enjoyable

 

[vanelane]

I found a good quote from Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. "Orgasms are great - no argument there. But making orgasm the ultimate goal of sex is a guy thing. Most women care more about closeness, acceptance, and mutual pleasure."

I would have to say that men feel the same way. Society puts so much pressure on sex that every person thinks the other person is only concerned about climax. I think once you concentrate on enjoying yourself sex is so much more erotic/enjoyable

Well, but the orgasm is important, it just doesn't need to be the end.

 

[taolanes]

It's when people are so preoccupied with it that it becomes a problem. Sometimes it's such a preoccupation that couples can't enjoy the sex. And of course, once you really enjoy yourself the climax comes very easily

 

[siren319]

My favorite things

A thousand positions crossed my mind (amongst other things) but when I thought about it for a few extra seconds... I thought of the greatest experience ever. It was with a patient partner, who took his time with everything. When he felt himself nearing orgasm, he would break and completely slow everything down, sometimes just taking time to refill my drink or rubbing my neck or feet while he chatted at me, but most times continuing to drive me insane with his tongue. At first I thought, OMFG, this is torture" but when I got there and he got there, it was a mindblowing orgasm and I was totally spent. It made for a fun 4-6 hours and the whole experience was so much more intimate than anything else I have ever experienced. He became the bar everyone else was measured against.

 

[eudaemonia]

I'm starting to view women as a treasure who is allowing me to touch, lick, and enjoy every inch of her.

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Licking her bellybutton, sucking her toes, whatever turns you on

Lucky lady, whoever she is.