Issue I am having

[Ravin the Poet]

Ok the issue is not with me, it is with my girlfriend and I thought I would ask to see if anyone else can help.

My girlfriend is late on her period almost a week. She is 18, and we have been having sex. We have been very careful, used protection and changed condoms often to avoid spilling or any kind of problem. We looked on google and at sites to see why she could be late. We did a pregnancy test today, and did another a like 2 weeks ago and both showed negative. I have advised her to go see the doctor just to make sure, and she is making an appointment tomorow.

One of the things I found was stress caused late periods, and she has been under enormous amounts of stress from school, her dorm roommate, her family and lots of things. (thankfull not me) Could that be the cause of it? We try to be very safe, because its better to be safe then sorry. The ironic thing is, we were waiting for this period to come so we could get her on the pill and be more protected. Right now we use condom's with spermicide, and we haven't noticed any breaking in the condoms.

Any advice, or should I wait and see what the doctor says?

Thanks for the help.

Ravin

 

[amasterfound]

Wait until she sees the Doctor. Could be nothing at all. Don't stress about it until she sees the doctor. If you used protection like you said you did she should be fine.

 

[Amonara]

It looks like you're doing all the right things. Like the person above me said, don't worry too much about it. Once she sees the Dr. I sure things will clear up.

I remember before I was on B/C that I often had problems with late periods. Any action at all "down there," even fingers, could cause me to be up to three weeks late. So I learned not to stress too much about it. Once I was on B/C that problem cleared right up. That may not be completely relavent, but it might help ease your mind some.

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Sadly enough, it is me who has the most clear mind in all of this. She seems to be the one going a little crazy which is to be expected. I am older, I think more responsible then she is. I have told her time and time again "We have done the responsoble thing and used protection. Don't get worked up, it could all be stress"


Ravin

 

[montrealgirl]

Late periods sure can be frightening. I was late by about a week and half after just recently kick-starting my sex life after a 5-year jaunt of celibacy.

I was pretty freaked, so first thing I did was get a test (negative). It finally arrived Thursday night (yes, I cheered). I spoke with my doctor about it on Monday at my annual physical. She said it was probably a combination of things: stress from school, change in regular routine, change in sex drive, stress about upcoming holidays, etc.

A pregnancy test is 99% accurate so that should curb fear until she sees the doctor.

Good luck.

 

[Ravin the Poet]

I think it is a combination of everything you said. Her sex drive has changed huge, she is stressed from school and the upcoming holidays, and all the other stress a young girl gets. The test said negative, and she is seeing the doctor. This stories of people being late have really helped me, and I hope they will help her. I have told her that it is normal (as normal can be) for a women to have a late period now and then because of outside factors, just like when you get stressed, your body can have side effects.


Ravin

 

[TBKahuna123]

I have a friend in a similar situation. They just had their second child a few months ago and now she's late again. Tests are all negative but she's freaking out. It could be dozens of things, but you're doing the right thing in getting her to a doctor.

Tell her not to worry so much, that's probably making the situation worse, truth be told.

 

[david_42]

There's dozens of things that can cause a one week delay and only a pregnancy test (or her period starting) will give peace of mind.

 

[SweetErika]

Another thing, Ravin, is that many times women are irregular for years after they start menstruation, simply due to hormonal fluctuations. At 18, she's definitely in that phase. Also, the stress she's having over a possible pregnancy is likely just delaying it more. I've been in this situation many times (even when I was on the Pill), and know the "what ifs" snowball easily.

You're doing exactly the right thing by researching, being a voice of reason, not freaking out, and providing lots of reassurance. I especially like how you told her you've been very careful and responsible every single time. As you know, you assume the risk of pregnancy and other things when you have sex; it's just part of the deal. You can only take precautions and be responsible...if you've done that, and something still happens, you'll just deal with it at the time, right?

Using another reliable form of BC like the Pill is a great idea, and maybe she can talk to her doctor Monday about the real odds of pregnancy with correct/careful use of condoms, the Pill, and also the likelihood of irregularity and causes of being late at this point. One time my doctor explained the actual odds of pregnancy...it has to be just the right time, and there are a lot of things working against it...that gave me a lot of peace of mind. If she's comfortable and you're available, it might even be good to go to the appointment with her...hold her hand, and talk to the doc together.

 

[blondi84]

I think it is a combination of everything you said. Her sex drive has changed huge, she is stressed from school and the upcoming holidays, and all the other stress a young girl gets. The test said negative, and she is seeing the doctor. This stories of people being late have really helped me, and I hope they will help her. I have told her that it is normal (as normal can be) for a women to have a late period now and then because of outside factors, just like when you get stressed, your body can have side effects.


Ravin

One thing you should consider is that cycles are not always regular. I figured this out when I was trying to get pregnant. I would be a week or two late, but have neg. pregnancy tests. Drove me nuts. So unless she is like tracking her periond with a calander over a period of a year or two, she might just be irregular and bot have noticed, like me.

 

[~ Kit ~]

I can attest to stress messing with cycles.

 

[Eilan]

One thing you should consider is that cycles are not always regular. I figured this out when I was trying to get pregnant. I would be a week or two late, but have neg. pregnancy tests. Drove me nuts. So unless she is like tracking her periond with a calander over a period of a year or two, she might just be irregular and bot have noticed, like me.

Yup. My husband's ex was pretty irregular, and stress made it much worse. Like you, they figured this out when they were trying to have a baby.

There's a site called cyclespage.com that's good for both keeping track of periods and fertility tracking. Even though I no longer have to worry about pregnancy (knock on wood), I still use it to keep track of my periods.

 

[fr34k_n45ty]

I remember when I was waiting to get on my pills and I was afraid I was pregger. It seemed like soon as I got to the doc I got it the next day. I was just so stressed over a new job, going to the doc, and all that good stuff. Maybe when you go see the doc ask for a plan B pack. I've been going to plan parent hood and they gave me for those just in case the condum breaks or you miss on the bc. It kind of gives you that back up and it's right there so you don't need to get an appt with the doc to get it. I hope everything goes well. I also wanted to mention if ur girl hasn't looked into the ring I would recommend it because there is less to forget then taking the pill everyday at the same time everyday so theres less stress there.

Melissa

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Just an update:


All is well. She had her period the day after we took the test. So her mind is at ease, We are starting the pill Sunday, in fact we have them already, and were just waiting for this period to come to start.

Thanks everyone once again for coming through.

Ravin

 

[M's girl]

Just an update:


All is well. She had her period the day after we took the test. So her mind is at ease, We are starting the pill Sunday, in fact we have them already, and were just waiting for this period to come to start.

Thanks everyone once again for coming through.

Ravin

Glad for you and your GF. You can enter the weekend without worries about this. Have a nice one!