Is this sick or just kinky?

[Little Bird]

Some weeks some friends and I had a really uninhibited discussion that led to the descison, that I'm prude. As the only open non-heterosexual I couldn't accept that and we competed who had the most kinky fantasies.

I imagined something that would strech one of my four rules I'd set for myself regarding sex and after telling my friends there was never again said something about me being prude. It's not really something about D/s but includes restaining and VERY much trust, so I think it's not that wrong here:

Okay: At first you tie you SO (I think it's only interesting with women, it doesn't work with men) spread eagled to the bed. Than put a living spider on her stomach, sit back, and enjoy watching. If you want you can go to the kitchen and get something to drink, too, or anything else.

My best friend (a woman, that is not the least into bdsm, at least as I know) said that this would be something too cruel for most women and not fun at all. Mostly it depends on the women: If she has really no fear of spiders it's just funny, if she almost faints from seeing a spider it's nothing one should even joke about.
But what do you think? Would this be to hard for you or your sub or would you think of it as something to test how much you're able to endure by the biding of your Dom?
(The last sentences took my several minutes to write, but I think you get what I want to say. )

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have heard of this being done to a sub. Don't see it as sick or overly perverted and can have some positive outcomes if handles well. LOL, maybe it is a sign you have a little sadist inside you...now that could blow your friends' minds some!!

Catalina

 

[Chicklet]

Sounds like a lot of fun, imho, hehe... perhaps a little bit evil as well as sadistic if the bound female in question is scared of spiders. Might be fun to blindfold, and then put the spider on, to see how they'd react before they knew what exactly was causing those tickly sensations.

 

[Bandit58]

NO NO NO NO NO!!! VERY HARD LIMIT!!!

I tell ya, I have a spider/bug phobia. I would be a quivering pile of absolute terror if anyone did that to me.

 

[FurryFury]

This might freak me out some but I could endure it if the person who did this didn't leave !

Fury

 

[brioche]

For me it would depend very much what type of spider.
I react very badly to wolf spiders, plus they freak me out.

 

[h_i_s]

i'd become very relaxed, especially if we are talking taurantula. They are very hairy. Their fur can feel almost tickly as they creep and crawl over bare skin.

If the spider stayed on my body, rather than crawling away, it would probably end with me falling into a very relaxed slumber, if i were left alone that way long enough.

Yeah, i've become one of those women who really no longer has any fear of spiders, but i'd not find it humorous, more likely i'd find it to be as relaxing as having my hair played with, or my feet massaged ...etc.

And, i can see how this could seem to be a very frightening experience for some, and/or a very sadistic thing to do to anyone who is freaked out by spiders.

 

[brioche]

i'd become very relaxed, especially if we are talking taurantula. They are very hairy. Their fur can feel almost tickly as they creep and crawl over bare skin.

If the spider stayed on my body, rather than crawling away, it would probably end with me falling into a very relaxed slumber, if i were left alone that way long enough.

Yeah, i've become one of those women who really no longer has any fear of spiders, but i'd not find it humorous, more likely i'd find it to be as relaxing as having my hair played with, or my feet massaged ...etc.

And, i can see how this could seem to be a very frightening experience for some, and/or a very sadistic thing to do to anyone who is freaked out by spiders.

You know, I think I'd rather have Rosie on there than a wolf spider. they just freak me out, especially when they jump. Yuck.

 

[Kierae]

Have to go with Bandit here - definitely a limit. Just have finally reached a point where I can handle me and the spider being in the same room without insisting it departs immediately. Wolf spiders - double ugh!!

 

[h_i_s]

You know, I think I'd rather have Rosie on there than a wolf spider. they just freak me out, especially when they jump. Yuck.

Yep, Rosie is pretty cute. She's barely even half the size of the first spider we had.

Wolf spiders are just bigger, & i'm at a point now where a spider is a spider, to me. While i have never held a wolf spider or seen one in person, it's likely that i would want to work up the nerve to handle one. Spiders intrigue me. i'd guess that any spider can jump if they are compelled to, from what i understand (i could be wrong on this, but i've seen many a common household spider jump .... especially daddy long legged spiders).

Most people are scared of a number of harmless animals and insects mainly due to what they do not understand and have little to no experience with regarding the creatures.

First things i asked before holding a taurantula for the first time:
Can it bite me? (answer was yes)
Has it ever bitten anyone? (answer was no)
Is it poisonous? (answer was no ... and that it can cause an allergic reaction to those who are prone to such reactions from bee stings and the likes)

Those answers set my mind at ease and helps me get my fears under control. i love spiders now.

 

[brioche]

Yep, Rosie is pretty cute. She's barely even half the size of the first spider we had.

Wolf spiders are just bigger, & i'm at a point now where a spider is a spider, to me. While i have never held a wolf spider or seen one in person, it's likely that i would want to work up the nerve to handle one. Spiders intrigue me. i'd guess that any spider can jump if they are compelled to, from what i understand (i could be wrong on this, but i've seen many a common household spider jump .... especially daddy long legged spiders).

Most people are scared of a number of harmless animals and insects mainly due to what they do not understand and have little to no experience with regarding the creatures.

First things i asked before holding a taurantula for the first time:
Can it bite me? (answer was yes)
Has it ever bitten anyone? (answer was no)
Is it poisonous? (answer was no ... and that it can cause an allergic reaction to those who are prone to such reactions from bee stings and the likes)

Those answers set my mind at ease and helps me get my fears under control. i love spiders now.

Wolf spiders look ugly. They hav big mandibles. They hunt other things actively rather than having a web. These two things I could probably rationalize, but I have been bitten by wolf spiders and I don't react well. There is itching, there is swelling, there is even what appeared to be a rash last time. I try to avoid them for this reason.
I am a tolerant person as regards spiders. they can even be in my room as long as they don't make webs directly above my bed. I like spiders in general. That being said, I would stomp on any wolf spider I saw in the house. Outside, I would avoid it.

 

[Bandit58]

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Most people are scared of a number of harmless animals and insects mainly due to what they do not understand and have little to no experience with regarding the creatures.

I do not know why I have this fear, but have had it all my life. Anything with more than 4 legs and bigger than a fingernail will set my heart racing and my palms sweating. I have even had nightmares about being in a room with spiders and bugs and not being able to get out - I wake up in a total panic.

Funnily enough, I am not afraid of snakes. Last speedway season a couple of wildlife rangers brought a couple of snakes and a small crocodile to the park. I was brave enough to touch one, the first time I have been close to one (NZ does not have snakes at all).

 

[amasterfound]

wont go there!!!!!!!!! NO WAY! I HATE BUGS ON ME OF ANY KIND!

 

[marieR19]

No. no no no no no. no. No way. Definately no. Did I mention no??
Spiders, bugs, insects, any creepy-crawlies are serious limits for me. Phobias. Icky.


Heather

 

[Little Bird]

I really can't understand why people fear spiders but I think I DO understand whatthey feel.
Sounds silly but I'm really scared of fishes of all kind...

As a child I had not any fear of fishes but at the age from about 6 I was really scared of them. I had to force my eyes to not look in the direction of the aquarium at the dentist and nearly jumped from my chair when flipping a page of a magazine and there was a picture of a fish on the next page. I think I don't have to speak of my attempt to dive in italy. My worst nightmares where of beeing in a room full of aquariums and I had both transparent eyelids and hands.
(I think there must have been something happened in the basement of that house with the many aquariums we visited every summmer holliday back than, but I really have no memory of it. The one room with the moon fishes. *shivers*)
When I was 16 I finaly managed to look at the fishes at the aquariums at the zoo and I can look at them as long as they don't come near to me but if the fear some people have of spiders is only slightly equal to what I feel about thinking having a dead 3-inch-gold fish lied on my stomach I do totaly understand that that's something they'd NEVER do.

 

[h_i_s]

I have even had nightmares about being in a room with spiders and bugs and not being able to get out - I wake up in a total panic.

my nightmares contain rats. They jump at my throat in an attempt to bite me. The only way i escape them: twisting their necks until they break .... had that dream over and over, sometimes the rats are replaced with very vicous cats.

While i am not easily intimidated by snakes, or spiders ... i am terrified of bees, hornets and wasps. Strangley enough, it's fairly cold here in December, and we had a warm spell hit us last week. It must have waken some of the bees from their early winter slumber .... 3 got in the house. One got stuck in a huge scarf type curtain over the sliding doors that lead to the balcony. It took 10 minutes with a fly swatter and a heavy metal kitchen spatula ... but i had to kill him. Doing so wasn't an easy task because killing it meant getting within 2 feet of where it was sitting. i've good reason to believe that my fear of bees, hornets, and wasps is due to having been attacked by an entire swarm of yellow jacket bees when i was about 5 years old. The memory still makes me cringe.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Some weeks some friends and I had a really uninhibited discussion that led to the descison, that I'm prude. As the only open non-heterosexual I couldn't accept that and we competed who had the most kinky fantasies.

I imagined something that would strech one of my four rules I'd set for myself regarding sex and after telling my friends there was never again said something about me being prude. It's not really something about D/s but includes restaining and VERY much trust, so I think it's not that wrong here:

Okay: At first you tie you SO (I think it's only interesting with women, it doesn't work with men) spread eagled to the bed. Than put a living spider on her stomach, sit back, and enjoy watching. If you want you can go to the kitchen and get something to drink, too, or anything else.

My best friend (a woman, that is not the least into bdsm, at least as I know) said that this would be something too cruel for most women and not fun at all. Mostly it depends on the women: If she has really no fear of spiders it's just funny, if she almost faints from seeing a spider it's nothing one should even joke about.
But what do you think? Would this be to hard for you or your sub or would you think of it as something to test how much you're able to endure by the biding of your Dom?
(The last sentences took my several minutes to write, but I think you get what I want to say. )

Whoa, not sure about this one.Possibly to forfill 'kink' it needs to be arousing for you on some level is it ? 'Sick' might be the answer if your just sitting back feeling nothing at all .

I'll kill a spider ,hunt it down, smash it(please keep in mind being Australian our incy wincys are letheal) before it gets any where near my child on the other hand if testosterone is in the room I am so not going anywhere near the damn things. However this reminds me of a torture I saw at the Wax Museum when I was about 10 years old. It had like a guy chained to a slab of stone (faux probably) with a cage on his stomach. The cage was strapped down fast and had several rats in it. With the delightful naivety of a child I am thinking "tickling" , though my father explained it was a torture where the rats would starve and start eating the guys intestines etc while he was alive and still imbolised. I wonder why thats the only thing I remember from that visit. Go figure.........smilessss

 

[His_pita]

NO way Jose!! That would have to go on my hard limit list. I hate bugs especially spiders and those freaky roaches we have here in Florida. And ants, lizards, prehistoric grasshoppers, fleas, dust mites, ect!!

 

[INSIDEYOURMIND]

How about one of these crawling on ya?

I am pretty much not afraid of any animal, but this intimidates me a bit!

 

[Bandit58]

How about one of these crawling on ya?

I am pretty much not afraid of any animal, but this intimidates me a bit!

That is my worst nightmare come true

 

[Kind der Nacht]

Spider torture

See now what you do is lead your girl into a dimly lit room and tie her up as Little Bird said and take the biggest uglyest spider(or other creepy crawly your girl is afrade of) and place it on her then walk behind her were she can't see you and flip a light switch to turn the lights in the tanks all around her filled with more spiders(or whatever). Leave the lights on for a about 30 seconds then turn all the lights off. Leaving her in the dark with her fears.

I would never really do this I i just think it would be funny.

 

[brioche]

See now what you do is lead your girl into a dimly lit room and tie her up as Little Bird said and take the biggest uglyest spider(or other creepy crawly your girl is afrade of) and place it on her then walk behind her were she can't see you and flip a light switch to turn the lights in the tanks all around her filled with more spiders(or whatever). Leave the lights on for a about 30 seconds then turn all the lights off. Leaving her in the dark with her fears.

I would never really do this I i just think it would be funny.

Uh huh. Well going on the title of this thread, I'm going to have to say that's sick. And finding it amusing is even sicker. As someone who has a phobia, though it's not of spiders, I know the kind of terror people can experience, and I find this idea utterly reprehensible.

 

[INSIDEYOURMIND]

Uh huh. Well going on the title of this thread, I'm going to have to say that's sick. And finding it amusing is even sicker. As someone who has a phobia, though it's not of spiders, I know the kind of terror people can experience, and I find this idea utterly reprehensible.

I agree compleely, I do snake education, and the best part of it is getting someone past their fear, but I would never push, or force a person to do something they are afraid of.
They say kinky is using a feather, perverted is using the whole chicken, terrifying someone for your own pleasure is sick.

 

[landcruisergal]

My pup has a huge fear of tortoises..sounds silly but he got bitten as a kid moving one off a road.They bite hard and the local ones grow quite large and nasty.
Before he told me I tied him up, put him in my huge toolbox and blindfolded him.
I then took my tortoise who is about 7 inches diameter, and placed it on his belly. His look was one of puzzlement at the weight, then Chips moved in that robotic way that they do, and pup broke out in a cold sweat. He didnt safecall, nor thrash as he knew it was my pet. He simply froze.The panic was so obvious I only let Chips take another step before I immediately put him back in his tank. I felt really rotten when pup confessed his very "unmanly" phobia. He had been here a few times and never mentioned it before. Now tortoises are a hard limit. Haven't seen that in a checklist.
So I would never put a live creature on a sub ever again.
I wouldn't have a problem with anything except for eels maybe. I even think that slug thing that was in another thread would be tolerable.