Is this possible?

[frankdank]

I am a longtime lurker. You guys and gals are very knowledgeable in the ways of the body. I am a 35 year old male. I lost my virginity when I was 15 and had been masturbating since I was like 12. Would it be possible to reset my dick? What I mean is, it takes a lot of fast friction for me to cum. I have never been able to cum from a blowjob. If I took a month or 2 off from all stimulation to my penis would it become easier to cum? Is it possible to retrain a penis?

 

[emap]

You don't need to abstain for that long, if your going out on a date or she's coming over for sex, or vice versa don't play with yourself.

Though it would be best if you instead of stopping instead took your time and enjoy the journey instead of going fast as possible to orgasm, that's your problem with actual sex, your just rushing yourself so anything less is not enjoyable to you.

 

[SweetErika]

Yes, it's very possible.

While some people simply need more stimulation than others, reducing your masturbation frequency and/or masturbating in different ways (e.g. a softer touch, slower, using lots of lube, fantasizing vs. looking at porn) may very well "resensitize" you to lighter stimulation and help you get off more readily when you're with your partner.

I doubt you need to hold off for a month or two, but you might look at your current routine, stop masturbating for a week or two (the amount will depend on your starting point; do you currently jack off one or multiple times a day, several times a week, or what?), then slowly add a different type of stimulation back in. You might also consider stimulating yourself lightly without getting off before you're with your partner, so you're ready to go when you get together. It'll probably take some time and commitment to sensitize yourself to less stimulation, but it sounds like you're already prepared for that.

 

[frankdank]

Yes, it's very possible.

While some people simply need more stimulation than others, reducing your masturbation frequency and/or masturbating in different ways (e.g. a softer touch, slower, using lots of lube, fantasizing vs. looking at porn) may very well "resensitize" you to lighter stimulation and help you get off more readily when you're with your partner.

I doubt you need to hold off for a month or two, but you might look at your current routine, stop masturbating for a week or two (the amount will depend on your starting point; do you currently jack off one or multiple times a day, several times a week, or what?), then slowly add a different type of stimulation back in. You might also consider stimulating yourself lightly without getting off before you're with your partner, so you're ready to go when you get together. It'll probably take some time and commitment to sensitize yourself to less stimulation, but it sounds like you're already prepared for that.

Thanks for that well thought out answer. I don't masturbate but a couple times a week. My wife and I have sex 4 or 5 times a week. That probably explains our 4 kids. I think I will take a couple weeks off from all of it and see if it requires less stimulation to get me off. My wife usually has 3 or 4 orgasms a session, and it takes me forever to cum it seems, but I have always needed lots of friction to get off. Hopefully I can make it change and actually be able to cum from a blow job. That is my ultimate goal. My wife has tried everything to get me to but it hasn't worked. Wish me luck.

 

[tonightsthenigh]

Hopefully I can make it change and actually be able to cum from a blow job. That is my ultimate goal. My wife has tried everything to get me to but it hasn't worked. Wish me luck.

Has wifey ever gone to any unexplored areas while giving you a BJ?

External stimulation of the prostate via rubbing the area between the sack and the anus provides excellent added shivers.

But external doesn't compare to internal rubbing of the prostate. The prostate is like the "war room" of male sexual pleasure.

Use plenty of lube. Anal play can be painful especially for virgin butts, if done properly it will be pure pleasure. Pain anywhere in the body is a sign that something is wrong, same with the anal area. There is an abundance of nerve endings in the anal area that can produce enormous pain if mistreated, or extraordinary enjoyment if done properly.

 

[manofsteel52]

I am a longtime lurker. You guys and gals are very knowledgeable in the ways of the body. I am a 35 year old male. I lost my virginity when I was 15 and had been masturbating since I was like 12. Would it be possible to reset my dick? What I mean is, it takes a lot of fast friction for me to cum. I have never been able to cum from a blowjob. If I took a month or 2 off from all stimulation to my penis would it become easier to cum? Is it possible to retrain a penis?

It's impossible for anyone to tell you what you can or can't do, especially with only a half dozen short sentences worth of information to go on.
The physical sensations you experience are very important to achieve orgasm, but that's only a part of it. Equally, or even more important, is what's going on in your mind, as well as the mind of your partner.
I can't begin to say that I have the answer for you, but I'll tell you about what sometimes happens to me.
I've been with my partner for 36 years, and we've had a lot of sexual experience together. Even with that, there are times now & again when she's doing me a favor & giving a very nice blow job, (which is one of my favorite things) even though she's not particularly into anything sexual at all.
I can usually cum, even knowing that she's not going to receive satisfaction, because I know she's doing it as a gift to me, and I allow myself to be selfish & just get lost in the sensations.
However, there are times, that we should know better, and just take a raincheck. But we don't. She tries, but it's not quite up to par. I try to get more into it and just cum to get it over with. She senses this and tries harder. I sense her working it harder & try harder to get off. It becomes a vicious circle of each of us trying harder to please/relieve the other, which just makes it worse. Often, no one gets off.

My point is, this may have nothing to do with what you're going through, bu8t could it be as simple as you not relaxing, and/or your partner trying to hard?
Cuz there's nothing in this world like a woman who truly is into it, making love to your cock with her mouth, slow & sensual....