Is this forgivable?

[superlittlegirl]

Hypothetical scenario.

Girl meets boy. They establish a nice rapport, and their friendship develops into something more. Girl asks boy about his STD status, and he assures her he's clean. They have sex. Some months later, he tells her that he's got herpes, and has known about it for a couple of years. She is upset, but stays cool. She gets tested, she's healthy, and all is well.

But is it forgivable?

What would you do if you were in her position?

What would you do if you were in his?

 

[Thrillhouse]

Everything is forgiveable. As they say, hatred is like an acid that does the most damage to its container.

 

[Jim_Henson]

Forgiven, not forgotten

Girl, be pissed off

Boy, feel fucking horrible for lying so blatantly

 

[Pagliacci]

If he isn't truthful when it comes to a direct question like that and then gets cold feet because he knows he has fucked up and tries to smooth it over he's not worth the time,nor is he worthy of forgiving.

He got his chance,he blew it.Just because everything turned out fine doesn't diminsih the fact that he lied.
It also begs the question:
"What else is he wont to lie about ?"

In this hypotethical scenario I'd have broken contact.

With that I'm off to bed.

Nights.

 

[Summery]

I wouldn't be forgiving of someone who put my health at any kind of risk. I don't hate, but I don't have to forgive. Based solely on the fact that this person was fully aware of the STD he had, and chose not to say anything. I think that is pretty damn selfish. I think that person owes it to be responsible. I've never been in those positions from either side, so it is hard to say honestly what I would do. I would be pissed off, that much I can imagine.

 

[april-wine]

Forgivable......UMMMMMMMMM not in my books....


Girl: Be VERY pissed off, and concerned about what else he has that he might decide to tell her about later.....

Boy: Needs an old fashioned shit kickin'........And a good dose of human decency......

 

[lickerish]

Unforgiveable, if it were that great of a relationship, he would have told her the truth from the getgo.

Her: sue his crusty ass for blatantly lying to get her to sleep with him (there is a legal term for that, I just fergot )

Him: Break up with her, for being a bastard. She deserves better.

AND, just because she's clean now, doesn't mean she won't be 3, 6, 9 months down the road.

 

[Guest]

Unforgivable.

He exposed her willingly to an STD that has no cure, even after she asked.
Says a lot about his character.

 

[penguindance]

 

[kidthor]

Kick him in the balls...he will not do it again...

 

[glamorilla]

unfortunately he probably will do it again.

not forgiven.

 

[Jim_Henson]

Maybe I'm the only one... but one of the questions would be would you fuck him again?

My answer is not with a 10 foot pole.

 

[RastaPope]

[No message]

 

[april-wine]

Maybe I'm the only one... but one of the questions would be would you fuck him again?

My answer is not with a 10 foot pole.

HOLY COW Cheffie has a 10 foot pole???????

 

[Killswitch]

Not only should he not be forgiven....she should find someone to cut his dick off.

What an asshole.

 

[Summery]

I'm with Glam, that someone that can do it once, will likely do it again to someone else.

10 foot pole

*stalks april*

 

[Jim_Henson]

HOLY COW Cheffie has a 10 foot pole???????

April, 8 and you dont need to worry

 

[Lost Cause]

God Forgives, I Don't...

Tantamount to bio-assault. Would you forgive somebody with Tuberculosis? Fucking low of the low, I would dedicate a website to them, and put a virus in their computer sending the STD info to everyone on their email list.

*Other than that, I'm a pretty forgiving guy!

 

[Guest]

Forgiven, not forgotten

Girl, be pissed off

Boy, feel fucking horrible for lying so blatantly

I agree. But maybe this guy is lying about more than that. Keep an eye on that turd.

 

[Mistress]

Hypothetical scenario.

Girl meets boy. They establish a nice rapport, and their friendship develops into something more. Girl asks boy about his STD status, and he assures her he's clean. They have sex. Some months later, he tells her that he's got herpes, and has known about it for a couple of years. She is upset, but stays cool. She gets tested, she's healthy, and all is well.

But is it forgivable?

What would you do if you were in her position?

What would you do if you were in his?

Not forgivable, not only did he lie to her about it, he also risked her health.

 

[RomanHans]

Maybe I'm the only one... but one of the questions would be would you fuck him again?

My answer is not with a 10 foot pole.

My answer would be, stick the 10-foot pole up his ass, unless he's already got one there for being a thoughtless prick.

In a nice way.

Roman

 

[teddybear4play]

If he didn't know he had herpes, but lied about his cleanliness to have sex, that would be almost forgivable.

This is not.

TB4p

 

[HeavyStick]

No, she can sue.

Some states would consider this a form of assault. It is premeditated. I hope the lady in question can find a (hypothetical) crew of bikers with a welding torch and crow bar.

 

[Guest]

 

[427cobra]

It's not forgiveable, but let's come at it from another angle. What if he's a decent guy, mostly, but did it so said girl would not hit the roof and not even want to be in the same room with him. There is a measure of personality evaluation to be done here. What has yon, young, idiot boy been like to be around in the mean time? It could be a situation where the omission has grown to substantial and now dangerous proportions to the point where guilt for putting somebody's life at risk who he cares about has driven to finally say somthing. Was it wrong? Yes. Was a person's health and well being at risk? Yes. Can you ever trust that person again? No. But, all the factors must be weighed.