Is this a scam?

[HomerSimpson123]

I had a guy contact me at a m2m site. He wrote in (mostly) good English that he wanted me to be his slave. When I said I was willing, he directed me to profess our relationship at:

www.mybdsmdatelink.com/Register.aspx?...

I didn't, since it sounded fishy.

Anyone know anything?

 

[Blue]

Looks like a devious marketing ploy for this guy/this guys' boss' new dating website.

 

[krissive69]

Looks like a devious marketing ploy for this guy/this guys' boss' new dating website.

concur!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I would have to agree. If it's not a scam, it sure is spammy.

Hope you're walking away unscathed.

 

[MeekMe]

It's safe to assume that anyone wanting you to make an account on a separate site is scamming you upon first contact. If you are alread communicating here, there's not really a reason to sign up there. If they need credit card info, get out. It's a common scam for men.

The scam for female subs is to have them "train" on cam for another in preparation for the person they've been chatting with. They record the cam show and sell it or use it on a website for money.

For men it's usually to sign up for a site and pay. Sometimes it's a cam show that is recorded and then used as blackmail for money.

The lesson: get to know the people before you jump into showing them your bits or giving a show on cam.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I don't mean to necromance a thread like this, but I do have a relevant question if I may ask here.

I have chatted with a dominant woman online who posted in an online ad. She wants a $200 gift card sent to her PRIOR to a face to face meeting "to show you are serious." She is local, or at least claims to be. There are not many professional dominant types in my area. We have a lot of the same interests (fetish wise) in common. Is this a common practice? Should I continue to persue her?

I understand her point of view to weed out time wasters, flakes, and fakes. But from my point of view, I want to protect myself, and meet face to face before hand to build up and ensure trust. Or at least, avoid the possible scenario of sending the money and never hearing from her again. As a submissive seeking online, I feel very vulnerable, and I suspect that is the case with anyone seeking people online.

My one experience with a professional domme (in another city five hours away) I was very comfortable before meeting her, and met her face to face before the session (and was absolutely in love with her after it!!http://forum.literotica.com/images/icons/icon12.gif) but again- there are not so many local options, this was a long drive.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Are you planning to meet with her in a professional context, paying for domme services? Even with that, I have major red flag alarms going off regarding the upfront gift card. I personally would not consider doing this.

 

[cookiecat]

@Pax - I call scam. I have several Domme friends who would never ever ask for money like this.

In a professional situation, it's usually as you first experienced. You pay people AFTER a service is rendered or half up front, half after.

In a non-pro situation, it's just meeting like you would anyone else... perhaps a service is discussed (ie, foot worship) but no money changes hands.

Good luck

 

[PaxNurgle]

Yes, she advertises as a professional- I am looking for a pro domme right now (although a lasting relationship with a woman of that persuasion would be nice, if I could fine one.) I do not mind paying for professional female domination, I have done so in the past. And of course there is nothing wrong with buying a woman gifts whom you admire. I believe this is important a vanilla relationship as well.
But the concept of financial domination- spend money on a girl simply because you get your kicks spending money on someone, for little interaction in return beyond that- I'm not really into that; I may as well go to a strip club (sorry if that sounds sexist I don't mean it to.)

This woman does not have a website or any internet presence either. Not that it isn't a red flag; the last woman I sessioned with was really low key as far as online advertising, and it worked out well and was an awesome scene (just, she lives too far away as mentioned.) But yeah, I'm getting a little suspicious. I would have no problem paying a pro domme upfront before a session- that's the way it should work, but only after a first meeting face to face. Anyway, thanks for advice. I do appreciate you guys, and this website as a resource.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

It's safe to assume that anyone wanting you to make an account on a separate site is scamming you upon first contact. If you are alread communicating here, there's not really a reason to sign up there. If they need credit card info, get out. It's a common scam for men.

The scam for female subs is to have them "train" on cam for another in preparation for the person they've been chatting with. They record the cam show and sell it or use it on a website for money.

For men it's usually to sign up for a site and pay. Sometimes it's a cam show that is recorded and then used as blackmail for money.

The lesson: get to know the people before you jump into showing them your bits or giving a show on cam.

Wow!!! But it shouldn't really surprise me xx

 

[shavenukguy]

Trust your instincts, if you think it's a scam then it probably is.

 

[DivingJoy]

@@!!##

 

[DVS]

I had a guy contact me at a m2m site. He wrote in (mostly) good English that he wanted me to be his slave. When I said I was willing, he directed me to profess our relationship at:

www.mybdsmdatelink.com/Register.aspx?...

I didn't, since it sounded fishy.

Anyone know anything?

Hell yes, it's a scam. Like others said, it also seemed like he wanted you to join a certain web site. Maybe that's his favorite site and he wanted his slave to join, too, or he just wanted more email addresses to send spam to.

Anybody who says they take you as a slave without finding out what your limits are, what you like and dislike and all of that is either a scammer or a poser, or just another one of those creeps who lurk in the dark looking for newbies who don't know what to look out for.

You did good, so you have learned a little about the creeps out there. Unless someone wants to take the time to know you, they aren't worth your time. Sadly, even if they take the time to get to know you, that doesn't mean they won't change their whole personality sometime down the road and become a selfish sociopath and try to limit your connection to the outside world to just him. That's another sign that he's a low life creep, but unfortunately, it takes a little longer for that kind to show their true colors.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I did a little more research on this woman and her posts, using Google, and noticed that she had posted two very similar ads on Backpage back in late July, on the same date!. One of her ads was in a Backpage site in Virginia, the other one in south Texas. And the ad placed in my city, from September, is nowhere within 1000 miles of either city. I know that some pro dommes do travel between different cities for clients, but to me this is smelling more and more shady all the time. It was the final straw, in other words, so I am not going to respond. Thanks for your advice.

 

[DVS]

I don't mean to necromance a thread like this, but I do have a relevant question if I may ask here.

I have chatted with a dominant woman online who posted in an online ad. She wants a $200 gift card sent to her PRIOR to a face to face meeting "to show you are serious." She is local, or at least claims to be. There are not many professional dominant types in my area. We have a lot of the same interests (fetish wise) in common. Is this a common practice? Should I continue to persue her?

I understand her point of view to weed out time wasters, flakes, and fakes. But from my point of view, I want to protect myself, and meet face to face before hand to build up and ensure trust. Or at least, avoid the possible scenario of sending the money and never hearing from her again. As a submissive seeking online, I feel very vulnerable, and I suspect that is the case with anyone seeking people online.

My one experience with a professional domme (in another city five hours away) I was very comfortable before meeting her, and met her face to face before the session (and was absolutely in love with her after it!!http://forum.literotica.com/images/icons/icon12.gif) but again- there are not so many local options, this was a long drive.

I've never really understood this kind of thing, but I'm hetero and a dom, so I'm kind of out of the loop. But, I've seen how some submissive men want to be humiliated and being forced to pay this "servitude tax" or "financial domination" doesn't bother them.

Personally, I don't think I'd like it, if I was submissive, because it's only employed by pro dommes that have no emotional connection to their submissives and sometimes this financial support can be rather expensive. They can even say, "send me something that shows you are devoted to me as your domme" which leaves it up to the submissive to show how much he is devoted to her.

And many times, the more cash she requires, the more humiliated the submissive feels, and if that's what he's looking for, she's more than willing to give him exactly what he wants.

When the domme sees what he has sent, she can calculate him into a cheapo, who isn't worth messing with or a cash cow, who has money to spend and worth her time. Of course, down the road, more and more financial challenges are brought forward, and I see them as just ways to get more money. the submissives sometimes just see it as time to express his devotion to his domme again and are more than willing to give her what sheh wants.

 

[Primalex]

But, I've seen how some submissive men want to be humiliated and being forced to pay this "servitude tax" or "financial domination" doesn't bother them.

a) "Forced" is the wrong term.

b) This is not only true for submissive men. It's tied to humiliation, not sex. There are at least two female submissive regulars here who enjoys this, too.

because it's only employed by pro dommes

No.

They can even say, "send me something that shows you are devoted to me as your domme" which leaves it up to the submissive to show how much he is devoted to her.

This is not humiliation though.

And many times, the more cash she requires, the more humiliated the submissive feels

That's not the way it works. The numerical value itself does not really contribute to the humiliation, it merely decides when someone drops out.

When the domme sees what he has sent, she can calculate him into a cheapo, who isn't worth messing with or a cash cow, who has money to spend and worth her time. Of course, down the road, more and more financial challenges are brought forward, and I see them as just ways to get more money. the submissives sometimes just see it as time to express his devotion to his domme again and are more than willing to give her what sheh wants.

That's a paragraph I can agree with.