Is there any sacrifice you *wouldn't* make for love?

[Shy Tall Guy]

A spin-off of thumbs2_ca thread on "love or money":

Is there any sacrifice you wouldn't make for love? I am not talking about doing anything for love (murder, stealing, cheating, etc.), I am talking about what you would give up for love; money, job, geographical location, being close to family either geographically or emotionally (say your family cut you off), etc.

You can feel free to separate this out between what you would sacrifice for a love you already had, and what you would sacrifice for the chance of love, or for starting a new relationship, which makes a big diff for me.

For a the chance of love up to and maybe including a new relationship, I would probably not give up a job, career, money or geographical location preferences. I certainly wouldn't give up my family any more than I already have (I love my parents, but I do not let them run my life, and they can get along without me for the most part - but my daughter needs me, and I need to be relatively close to her).

If I was deeply in love, in a strong and lasting relationship, I would give up just about anything for love except maybe my daughter (she is an adult, but is going through some rough times, and will be probably for her whole adult life). I wouldn't be very happy about giving up a geographical location preference, as that has a significant effect on my happiness, but I could.

What are your limits?

 

[lickerish]

If I absolutely had to give up my location, or employment.. it wouldn't kill me... but on the same token, I really wouldn't want to be too far away from my immediate family and the guy had better be able to support us all.

I absolutely would not sacrifice my children, or my relationship with them, for any man... if that was an issue with him, then the guy isn't my true love.

 

[Summery]

My child. I wouldn't sacrifice my child, for anyone or anything! But, like lickerish already said, anyone that would ask me to sacrifice my child...isn't really worthy anyway.

 

[J.B.]

My kids....

if I had any.
But then again that's another type of love isn't it.

 

[cutie pie]

My child. I wouldn't sacrifice my child, for anyone or anything! But, like lickerish already said, anyone that would ask me to sacrifice my child...isn't really worthy anyway.

what she said Otherwise, I'm willing to live on the edge.

 

[Bluesboy2]

My guitars

Without them I would be miserable not matter how much I was loved. I gave them up for a woman once. Thats a large part of why she is my ex

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: My guitars

Without them I would be miserable not matter how much I was loved. I gave them up for a woman once. Thats a large part of why she is my ex

I might give up my bikes, especially in 10-20 years when it won't make sense for me to be riding anymore, but if it was just because she asked me to, and not because the situation made it impossible (say we were living somewhere that they just couldn't be ridden), then I would have to wonder if she truly understood or loved me. My firearm collection would be along those same lines.

Even more so would be sex - how many people would give up sex for love? There are a number of reasons why this might happen. I probably would not seek a relationship with a woman for whom this was true, whether it was just an emotional problem she had, or a physical one. After all, this is one of the main reasons why I would seek the relationship. OTOH, if I was already in a deep love relationship, and sex suddenly became physically impossible or incredibly risky, then I would give up sex with her and still love/stay with her. Hell, that is a thread all on its own!

 

[Bluesboy2]

Yes it is STG

You should change your name to Shy Tall Dude so I can call you STD.
I couldnt be celibate no matter how much I loved someone. I am faithful by nature. Never cheated on a commitment. But I have to get laid. I would eventually be unfaithful. Im scum, what can I say?

 

[Private Vasquez]

Friends, family, certain intrests, pets, etc. Though, if anyone ever asked me to sacrifice any of these things, he's not the one for me, anyway.

 

[enjoyingitall]

I gave up a good job that I loved, moved myself and two of my children(my oldest son is in college) from one coast of the US to the other away from my family for love.
It wasn't that he expected me to move. We discussed who would move where and it was mutually determined that I would be the one who moved. I don't think of it as a sacrifice though. He wouldn't ask me to anything I didn't want to do. That's part of the beauty of an unselfish love.

Would I do it again? You bet. What do I have now? Another job that I love, a beautiful ocean just a few miles away and a marriage that I always dreamed I would have. In the name of love, it's worth it.

 

[RavensWolf7177]

If i had kids that would be the one exception that would NEVER tear me away from any or anything. But being that i don't have any, i would sacrifice anything and everything for the love we once had. To feel that special one in my arms again. And she knows who she is.

 

[Guest]

I probably wouldn't kill someone over love. Or, I don't think I'd die for someone.

 

[MissTaken]

I would sacrifice many things for love and in fact, have done so for what seemed to be love.

Now, I pay the consequences.
However, I can't say I wouldn't do it again, if I knew that love was real.

My children's needs are paramount, but as long as my sacrifices don't impact them in a negative manner, I would do it.

Stopping short of causing harm to someone else, anything goes.

I am not happy about that. I wish I weren't as I am, but I am who I am.

 

[Rubyfruit]

My children, obviously. Also my pets. When I was single with two dogs, it was love me, love my dogs. I probably wouldn't be compatible with a non-dog person anyway.

I did move away from my family, to the opposite coast with my husband. I was miserable there and looked for any opportunity to get back out west. He is now talking about taking another job out there, and I told him I couldn't go back. I wouldn't end our marriage over it, but I will put up with seeing him less for a while.

 

[Demian]

hi Ruby

just trying to rebuild a Bridge that i never really Burned

 

[JazzManJim]

Sad though it may be I wouldn't give up anything right now. I was once in a position where I would have given up everything, and gladly volunterred to do so. That went just swimmingly, so this time I going to try the other side of things. I'm playing it quite selfishly.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Hello Damian. *smiles* You are persistent, I'll give you that.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I would never sacrifice my children, their safety or my own. No matter how good a lover he might be. Not worth it in my eyes. I have to be able to hold my head high and feel good about myself.



dixicritter

 

[CoolidgEffect]

Question for pet lovers.

What if you love was allergic?

What if you children were allergic?

 

[weed]

My children.

 

[AzureAngel]

I would not chop off any part of my body for love. That would be a damn strange request, though.

What wouldn't I sacrifice to have love? Myself. Roar. I'm such an idealist.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Allergies

I suppose with a new relationship, the allergies would be an issue from the start and it probably wouldn't get off the ground.

With my kids, yes, I'd sacrafice my dog if I had to. But first, I'd try to keep my child's room a safe haven - no carpet, drapes or stuffed animals and no dogs in there ever. If that didn't help, I'd probably confine my dog to my bedroom and not let the child in there.

Usually, allergies are more of an annoyance than life threatening. I have severe allergies and manage to live a normal life, with the help of Allegra.

 

[MissTaken]

Sad though it may be I wouldn't give up anything right now. I was once in a position where I would have given up everything, and gladly volunterred to do so. That went just swimmingly, so this time I going to try the other side of things. I'm playing it quite selfishly.

I am glad to see someone learns from their past mistakes.

I just wish I could.

Just once!


Ahhhh MissT is having a pretty horrific day of it. Sorry all!

 

[JazzManJim]

I am glad to see someone learns from their past mistakes.

I just wish I could.

It's easy. Just get all cynical about love like I have!

 

[bluemuse]

I wouldn't give up my child or my self-respect. Of course.....I couldn't be in love with someone who would want me to give up either....

bluemuse