Is there a woman out their I CAN trust?

[nasty1]

Ok, last week, as many of you know, I asked a woman out from work. She said, "Kinda. Although, I'm not very interested in him. I'm not really looking right now." Today, as I was on break, a friend of hers was catching up on her life, and she asked, "Seeing anyone?" She said, "For a month." Wait a minute...stop the presses. She told me last week that, even though she was seeing someone, she wasn't interested in a relationship. Now, she's saying she's been dating someone for a MONTH! Sounds to me like she IS interested in him. Fuck, that's IT! I'm going all the way gay.

 

[Backyard sweaty]

Fuck, that's IT! I'm going all the way gay.

Have fun.

 

[lilminx]

Nope, you can't trust ANY of us. We're all heartless, evil and cruel. We deliberately lie to guys to hurt their feelings and make them feel bad. We enjoy stomping on hearts and making men cry. Stay away from us.

 

[JazzManJim]

nasty, my friend, I honestly don't think there is a woman on thie planet you can trust. I wish I were being sarcastic about that.

 

[Guest]

hmppph!

 

[LukkyKnight]

And I think just the opposite... of course there is, there are several, probably many, possibly billions.

Finding one who is in the mood to trust you at the same time, and building on the trust, these are the challenges of adulthood.

 

[Backyard sweaty]

And I think just the opposite... of course there is, there are several, probably many, possibly billions.

Finding one who is in the mood to trust you at the same time, and building on the trust, these are the challenges of adulthood.

Well maybe not "billions" but there certainly is a huge number. If I were you, when you not being gay that is, PM lilminx. She is very trustworthy and she can direct you in the ways of the heart.

Honest.

 

[lilminx]

Ok, last week, as many of you know, I asked a woman out from work. She said, "Kinda. Although, I'm not very interested in him. I'm not really looking right now." Today, as I was on break, a friend of hers was catching up on her life, and she asked, "Seeing anyone?" She said, "For a month." Wait a minute...stop the presses. She told me last week that, even though she was seeing someone, she wasn't interested in a relationship. Now, she's saying she's been dating someone for a MONTH! Sounds to me like she IS interested in him. Fuck, that's IT! I'm going all the way gay.

Seriously though, have you ever thought that maybe her idea of being interested in and seeing someone is different than your idea of it? You haven't had much experience with dating and women.

If I've been seeing someone for a month, that can mean any number of things. It can mean that I'm not really looking for anyone, but I'm hanging out with one (or two or three) person (people) simply to have someone to hang out with, and for sex. It can mean that I like the person, but I'm not ready to get serious and I'm dating other people as well. It can mean that I'm crazy about the person, but I don't want to rush things.

Just because someone is seeing someone does NOT mean that it's serious.

A month is not a long time to date someone.

 

[Guest]

Nope, you can't trust ANY of us. We're all heartless, evil and cruel. We deliberately lie to guys to hurt their feelings and make them feel bad. We enjoy stomping on hearts and making men cry. Stay away from us.

.... and I was gonna nominate you...

 

[Backyard sweaty]

Re: Re: Is there a woman out their I CAN trust?

Seriously though, have you ever thought that maybe her idea of being interested in and seeing someone is different than your idea of it? You haven't had much experience with dating and women.

If I've been seeing someone for a month, that can mean any number of things. It can mean that I'm not really looking for anyone, but I'm hanging out with one (or two or three) person (people) simply to have someone to hang out with, and for sex. It can mean that I like the person, but I'm not ready to get serious and I'm dating other people as well. It can mean that I'm crazy about the person, but I don't want to rush things.

Just because someone is seeing someone does NOT mean that it's serious.

A month is not a long time to date someone.

I told ya...

It really is simple Nasty, ya go for the ones with lots of fur and sharp claws. Now ya see, you've been going about this all wrong.

 

[capricious_chic]

Well.. odds are if someone says.. believe me.. you can trust me..
then NO.. you can trust me on that .

CC

 

[Suzi]

Ok, last week, as many of you know, I asked a woman out from work. She said, "Kinda. Although, I'm not very interested in him. I'm not really looking right now." Today, as I was on break, a friend of hers was catching up on her life, and she asked, "Seeing anyone?" She said, "For a month." Wait a minute...stop the presses. She told me last week that, even though she was seeing someone, she wasn't interested in a relationship. Now, she's saying she's been dating someone for a MONTH! Sounds to me like she IS interested in him. Fuck, that's IT! I'm going all the way gay.

Just think nasty....some men do the very same thing that this woman did!

 

[lickerish]

just wait a cotton pickin' minute...

nasty, my friend, I honestly don't think there is a woman on the planet you can trust. I wish I were being sarcastic about that.

Hello?

 

[lilminx]

Re: Re: Re: Is there a woman out their I CAN trust?

I told ya...

It really is simple Nasty, ya go for the ones with lots of fur and sharp claws. Now ya see, you've been going about this all wrong.

Are you saying I have fur and sharp claws?

 

[Ukin]

Nope, you can't trust ANY of us. We're all heartless, evil and cruel. We deliberately lie to guys to hurt their feelings and make them feel bad. We enjoy stomping on hearts and making men cry. Stay away from us.

Minxie? Fancy meeting?

 

[lilminx]

Minxie? Fancy meeting?

Lol- you like women who are cruel and evil?

 

[penguindance]

 

[fanzee1]

Nope, you can't trust ANY of us. We're all heartless, evil and cruel. We deliberately lie to guys to hurt their feelings and make them feel bad. We enjoy stomping on hearts and making men cry. Stay away from us.

finally, one of 'em admits it. now why can't i just go gay like nasty? drat.

 

[Guest]

OMG, she's been dating him FER A WHOLE FREAKIN' MONTH! Must be LOOOOOVE.

Sorry, but I'm with Minx on this one (nice claws you have there, Minxie )

A month could be maybe.....only 4 dates if it's only once a week..... or could be a couple of times a week.....that's 8 times.

Regardless of the math, a month means she doesn't know him very well, and from the sounds of her conversation, it's not too serious.

I just met a guy about three weeks ago.....or has it been 4? Point is, I like him.....but not very well. I've seen him exactly 4 times. The night we met, a few days after that, and twice last weekend. I might see him this weekend. I've been very clear to him I'm not interested in persuing any romantic interests with him, and that I'm moving out of state soon. As long as he's willing to spend time as STRICKTLY friends, I guess officially, I'm "dating" him.

If I met someone that was interested in going out with me, and posed the question of "Are you seeing anyone?" I'd probably tell him about this person out of honesty.

If I were sneaking around a lovers back, I wouldn't tell him I'm seeing anyone. That's what I've been told by a few unfaithful men in the past.

I hope you see my point.

Moon

 

[fanzee1]

OMG, she's been dating him FER A WHOLE FREAKIN' MONTH! Must be LOOOOOVE.

Sorry, but I'm with Minx on this one (nice claws you have there, Minxie )

A month could be maybe.....only 4 dates if it's only once a week..... or could be a couple of times a week.....that's 8 times.

Regardless of the math, a month means she doesn't know him very well, and from the sounds of her conversation, it's not too serious.

I just met a guy about three weeks ago.....or has it been 4? Point is, I like him.....but not very well. I've seen him exactly 4 times. The night we met, a few days after that, and twice last weekend. I might see him this weekend. I've been very clear to him I'm not interested in persuing any romantic interests with him, and that I'm moving out of state soon. As long as he's willing to spend time as STRICKTLY friends, I guess officially, I'm "dating" him.

If I met someone that was interested in going out with me, and posed the question of "Are you seeing anyone?" I'd probably tell him about this person out of honesty.

If I were sneaking around a lovers back, I wouldn't tell him I'm seeing anyone. That's what I've been told by a few unfaithful men in the past.

I hope you see my point.

Moon

i'm with you and whoever else said that a month isn't enough time for it to be too serious yet. she can't possibly know him that well, although i do know of a former co-worker who married her husband of 6 years now -- and father of her 2 children -- after 2 1/2 weeks. That stuff is rare. Typically, if she's been seeing him a month, that relationship is now big deal.

IMO, however, that doesn't mean he has no cause for concern. My main question would be "why did she characterize that relationship so differently to me than she did her friend."

There may be benign answer to that question but it's one that would bother me and keep from completely trusting (gasp!) the woman.


One other thing, moonwolf, you're going out with a guy repeatedly, just the two of you, and you're even calling it "dating" and you're telling him that you're interested strictly in being friends? Whew, somebody's going to get their feelings hurt there, not that it will be your fault because it sounds like you're being up front with him.

 

[Guest]

One other thing, moonwolf, you're going out with a guy repeatedly, just the two of you, and you're even calling it "dating" and you're telling him that you're interested strictly in being friends? Whew, somebody's going to get their feelings hurt there, not that it will be your fault because it sounds like you're being up front with him.

I didn't call it "dating" I said "officially" that's dating, meaning that's the term that's socially acceptable.

And you're right about the 'somebody's going to get their feelings hurt' comment, which is why I'm not sure I will see him this weekend. I think he may have more feelings for me than I do for him. I hate that when that happens.

But I will be honest. I have found that to be best for myself, as well as the other party involved.

Moon

 

[red_rose]

hmppph!

I second that.

 

[red_rose]

I'd also like to say that it is more often PEOPLE that you cannot trust, and not a certain gender. I've been lied to by so many people on both sides of the fence that it is no longer a gender issue for me.

However, if you close yourself off after being lied to (which - as minxie and MW said - I don't think this chick was lying, anyhow), you're never going to get anywhere.

 

[fanzee1]

I didn't call it "dating" I said "officially" that's dating, meaning that's the term that's socially acceptable.

And you're right about the 'somebody's going to get their feelings hurt' comment, which is why I'm not sure I will see him this weekend. I think he may have more feelings for me than I do for him. I hate that when that happens.

But I will be honest. I have found that to be best for myself, as well as the other party involved.

Moon

I agree with you. I think honesty is absolutely the best. Better to hurt someone by being a little blunt in a timely fashion, than to really create a situation by trying to "let them down easy" after things have drifted on too long.

I won't split hairs on the "dating" thing. I fully understand now what you meant, thanks for clearing that up.

 

[Guest]

I agree with you. I think honesty is absolutely the best. Better to hurt someone by being a little blunt in a timely fashion, than to really create a situation by trying to "let them down easy" after things have drifted on too long.

I won't split hairs on the "dating" thing. I fully understand now what you meant, thanks for clearing that up.

I had an experience once when a 'friend' fell in love with me when I wasn't paying attention. I'd recently divorced, and this friend was hanging around and helping with things like fixing things in my house. We'd been friends for at least 6 or 7 years, and I didn't have a clue how he felt about me.

Luckily we got through it, and he's still my friend. I've now known him almost 25 years. I pay closer attention now when I'm seeing someone.

Moon