Is there a step by step "what is next" ?

[BlueSugar]

So my SO and I are going to spend about $400 together this christmas when we see each other ordering things off of bdsm websites to really get our collections rolling... this includes proper ties, ropes, collar etc... We're making "the step" we got up to whips, paddles and the like sections and were totally dumbfounded.

Spanking and toys etc...

I love it, I love them ... I've already said to myself, I want one of everything regardless if I use it or not.

But is there an easy progression?
spanking with his hand I love because it brings us closer, and there is alot of control and many things he is able to do.

But on halloween, I borrowed a friend's pingpong paddle, it had rubber on both sides (I was someone from the Beauty books) and we ended up using that. It was nice... did the rubber make any difference on it at all, or could I just buy a wooden one/rubber/plastic ...

Is there a progression I can follow into the spanking portion of bdsm... from hand to paddle, then this... then that... ?

I know they all hurt differently, paddles, floggers, whips, cats, quirts etc... but what is the degree order from 1 (not so bad) to 10 (lots of pain)

AND I know everyone is different ... oi, did I just answer my own question? ::sigh::

Or maybe I'm asking what kind of slap/sting comes from each?

I'm sure I'll be back at this tread as I move up or down in the levels of submission.

Thank you all for your time, I would be truly lost if I didn't join the boards and meet all of you.

 

[catalina_francisco]

As you already know each of us experience the sensations differently, and have varying preferences for different reasons. That being said, I would suggest ensuring you are aware of the safety of each tool before use, as in how to use safely etc., and test them gently at first with safe words established, progressing to harder and prolonged as you become familiar with each, and develop a knowledge of what feels good for you. I love bullwhips, but often find canes unbearable......others would think that was crazy, so experiment and enjoy above all.

Catalina http://www.smilies4you.de/content/liebe/b18.gif

 

[WriterDom]

There is more than one varable that you are dealing with. A single tail has very little mass, but is traveling at a high velocity. A birch paddle has nice mass to it, and can bring tears also, but a much much slower speed. Same with the cane Vs the tawse. Some toys, like a quirt or crop might be somewhere in the middle.

I think toys each have their own flavor of pain, but the level depends more on the force applied from the other end.

 

[BlueSugar]

I enjoy the 'smack' very much .. and i wanted to experiment. thank you for your comments on safty and the reminders about speed and surface area... I just don't want to end up spending most of the money on things we wont use ... hopefully they'll have some kind of return policy... i mean, they're not going inside ::shrug::

and catalina, I don't think I can read another one of your posts without complimenting you on your usage of animated smilys !! they're awesome !!

 

[Desdemona]

Can you go to a toy shop and try some out? Go to a tack shop and try out the crops. Slap your arm with them to see what the sensation is like. That's how we choose what to buy.

 

[WriterDom]

Can you go to a toy shop and try some out? Go to a tack shop and try out the crops. Slap your arm with them to see what the sensation is like. That's how we choose what to buy.

I've done that in places like walmart and home depot. I wonder if the security people see a lot of that

 

[Mistress K]

Latex

My friend borrowed her Dom's latex whip and brought it home to show my girlfriend and I. She slapped me real hard with it and I felt nothing but a tingling sensation. Even after a few hard whips I still only felt the tingling. It was the nicest whip i've ever seen, soft and gentle but makes the mood because it makes the loudest crack when it slaps the skin.

Something to try if you prefer the noise for the mood rather than the sting of the whip

 

[bunny bondage]

But on halloween, I borrowed a friend's pingpong paddle, it had rubber on both sides (I was someone from the Beauty books) and we ended up using that. It was nice... did the rubber make any difference on it at all, or could I just buy a wooden one/rubber/plastic ...

i know this isn't the part of your post which asks your main question, but i'll answer it anyway! from what i've found, the only difference that rubber on a ping-pong paddle makes is WAY more bruising. the feel is pretty much the same, but if you take the rubber off then you bruise less.

 

[Desdemona]

I've done that in places like walmart and home depot. I wonder if the security people see a lot of that

You KNOW they do. LOL I see pervertables everywhere I go.

 

[BlueSugar]

Re: Re: Is there a step by step "what is next" ?

i know this isn't the part of your post which asks your main question, but i'll answer it anyway! from what i've found, the only difference that rubber on a ping-pong paddle makes is WAY more bruising. the feel is pretty much the same, but if you take the rubber off then you bruise less.

actually, that helps alot... I was going to buy a set just to add because they're cheap, now I have something to concider.

yeaah, we were thinking of just trying them out so to say in the stores... but we dont' have much of a selection in VT ... so the internet has been our best friend. I'm compairing prices now and trying to get him on the phone so we can wire the money and make the purchases. when we figure out for sure, i'll post the links

thank you all !!

 

[MissTaken]

There is so much to consider when buying toys.

Try a craft store for paddles and things of that nature. You can buy some very inexpensively to try them out before deciding,

Also, a leather belt will give you an idea whether or not you want to find leather straps etc.

But, as for usage, even those toys he doesn't care for, get used. By varying intensity, a riding crop may become very erotic and desirable even to someone who doesn't like the sharp repeated sting!

Some toys are in my bag just for mind fuck value and occasional use.

So experiment at your local Walmart and then venture out into the high end, pricey world of sex toys!

 

[herecomestherain]

Blue Sugar for what it's worth given that this advice comes from a complete novice...over at Blowfish.com they have 2 sections (amongst many others) you may find of interest. The 1st is their Buying Guide - Bondage/SM Products and the 2nd is in the Toys section- Things That Go "Whap"-Paddles and Slappers/Whips and Floggers. They do excellent descriptions of the kind of sensation you can expect to feel from each toy/tool. Their "Recommended" list is worth a read too. I should say that I'm in no way affiliated with the site, I just think they do a good job and the info could be helpful to you. Have fun.

 

[lark sparrow]

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