Is Love Enough?
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Laurel
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No. Love is necessary, but it's not the whole thing. A relationship, like any living thing, takes effort and care and upkeep. Two people can love each other deeply, but if they don't put the necessary "work" in (spending time together, listening to each other, making each other feel loved), then the relationship will die.
Summery
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You know my recent take on love. But seriously, love as important as it is, is NOT enough in my opinion. It takes so much more. Communication is everything. If you can't truly communicate, the relationship will undoubtedly suffer in time.
Can't live on love alone.......
Can't live on love alone.......
For You, Summery:
When you feel alone
And the world has turned its back on you
Give me a moment please to tame your wild wild heart
I know that you feel like the walls are closing in on you
It's hard to find relief and people can be so cold
When darkness is upon your door and you feel like you can't take it anymore
Let me be the one you call
If you jump I'll break your fall
Lift you up and fly away with you into the night
If you need to fall apart
I can mend a broken heart
If you need to crash then crash and burn
You're not alone
When you feel all alone
And a loyal friend is hard to find
You're caught in a one way street
With the monsters in your head
When hopes and dreams are far away and
You feel you can't face the day
Let me be the one you call
If you jump I'll break your fall
Lift you up and fly away with you into the night
If you need to fall apart
I can mend a broken heart
If you need to crash then crash and burn
You're not alone
Because there has always been heartache and pain
And when it's over you'll breathe again
You'll breathe again
When you feel all alone
And the world has turned its back on you
Give me a moment please
To tame your wild wild heart
Let me be the one you call
If you jump I'll break your fall
Lift you up and fly away with you into the night
If you need to fall apart
I can mend a broken heart
If you need to crash then crash and burn
You're not alone
When you feel alone
And the world has turned its back on you
Give me a moment please to tame your wild wild heart
I know that you feel like the walls are closing in on you
It's hard to find relief and people can be so cold
When darkness is upon your door and you feel like you can't take it anymore
Let me be the one you call
If you jump I'll break your fall
Lift you up and fly away with you into the night
If you need to fall apart
I can mend a broken heart
If you need to crash then crash and burn
You're not alone
When you feel all alone
And a loyal friend is hard to find
You're caught in a one way street
With the monsters in your head
When hopes and dreams are far away and
You feel you can't face the day
Let me be the one you call
If you jump I'll break your fall
Lift you up and fly away with you into the night
If you need to fall apart
I can mend a broken heart
If you need to crash then crash and burn
You're not alone
Because there has always been heartache and pain
And when it's over you'll breathe again
You'll breathe again
When you feel all alone
And the world has turned its back on you
Give me a moment please
To tame your wild wild heart
Let me be the one you call
If you jump I'll break your fall
Lift you up and fly away with you into the night
If you need to fall apart
I can mend a broken heart
If you need to crash then crash and burn
You're not alone
Lost Cause
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Love is blind. It blinds you to the imperfections of the other until time passes. Love is lust, lust is love. You get that euphoria of being around someone new, someone you get along with, and someone who wants to fuck as much as you. As time goes on the "love" is replaced by sameness, and repetition. Doing the bills, raising offspring, buying a house. At that point, love is used as a replacement word to keep the other interested. Committment is used to legalize a relationship. It is the ultimate in selfishness, and control.
It is the nature of people to be free with their choices, and their loves. To go to another when one relationship offers nothing else. When that is restricted by words or legality, it leads to resentment, and strifles the other's personal growth.
*Just an observation...not an opinion*
It is the nature of people to be free with their choices, and their loves. To go to another when one relationship offers nothing else. When that is restricted by words or legality, it leads to resentment, and strifles the other's personal growth.
*Just an observation...not an opinion*
Ishmael
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Lust, love and reality
Have to agree with all who'vc posted so far. Love isn't nearly enough.
I've found that the initial part of love is more lust than anything else. Wanting, needing acutually, to be together all the time. That deep ache in your heart when your apart.
Love changes over time. From the strong physical to something a little less frenetic. A feeling that comes over you when he/she walks in the room. Or calls. The feeling of completeness when together. And the way you feel when you are doing something that isn't necessarily something you'd like to do, but are doing it as part of the steps that need to be done as part of a plan that you've made together. The way that you can understand each other without having to say a word.
You can love without commitment but that is generally the 'lust' driven componenet of love. I don't think you can really commit without love though.
Ishmael
Have to agree with all who'vc posted so far. Love isn't nearly enough.
I've found that the initial part of love is more lust than anything else. Wanting, needing acutually, to be together all the time. That deep ache in your heart when your apart.
Love changes over time. From the strong physical to something a little less frenetic. A feeling that comes over you when he/she walks in the room. Or calls. The feeling of completeness when together. And the way you feel when you are doing something that isn't necessarily something you'd like to do, but are doing it as part of the steps that need to be done as part of a plan that you've made together. The way that you can understand each other without having to say a word.
You can love without commitment but that is generally the 'lust' driven componenet of love. I don't think you can really commit without love though.
Ishmael
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"if love were enough, things would be too simple"
-Albert Camus
"Two people can love each other deeply, but if they don't put the necessary "work" in (spending time together, listening to each other, making each other feel loved), then the relationship will die."
-Laurel, Kitty Mama
-Albert Camus
"Two people can love each other deeply, but if they don't put the necessary "work" in (spending time together, listening to each other, making each other feel loved), then the relationship will die."
-Laurel, Kitty Mama
AngelHeart
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What is love?
Fly_On_Wall
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Love ins't the whole relationship, but it is the most important part.
SexySlut2
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I think love and commitment go together, but I don't think that love is enough in a relationship. There are so many more aspects than just love.
Most relationships start out on some level of lust and then some move into love and then there's the commitment, but like others have said, if you don't have trust, respect, communication and the willingness to work together then no matter how much you love someone, it's never going to work.
Most relationships start out on some level of lust and then some move into love and then there's the commitment, but like others have said, if you don't have trust, respect, communication and the willingness to work together then no matter how much you love someone, it's never going to work.
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No. A reltionship needs a lot more then just love.juicylips said:Can love alone make a relationship work?
Do you view love and commitment separately or together?
Cassidy
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DéjàNu said:
That might work better than a realtionship with sex! Nothing to confuse the issue!
SilverVeil
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juicylips said:Can love alone make a relationship work?
Do you view love and commitment separately or together?
Cassidy
Love alone can not make a relationship work out.
There are too many factors involved into life for a relationship to exist only on the basis of love.
As for love and commitment , they usually go together in some way shape or form. If you love someone you are committing yourself in some way to the relationship. Even if it is just friends, or even lovers. There is love and commitment there to the other person.
sexy-girl
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i will be the odd one
i think love is enough ... but i also think love is very rare ... and even more rare for both partners to truly feel it
i have friend who said her bf tells her he love's her but then he does something and treats her like crap ... maybe she loves him but to me you dont love someone if you are treating them badly maybe he even believes he does love her but i dont think he could
i think love when its real it blows away all the other stuff you do everything that is needed in a relationship if you love someone you do it no matter what is needed ... and thats why i think love is enough but both partners need to have it
notice i didnt mention lisa in this post once ... oops i just did
i think love is enough ... but i also think love is very rare ... and even more rare for both partners to truly feel it
i have friend who said her bf tells her he love's her but then he does something and treats her like crap ... maybe she loves him but to me you dont love someone if you are treating them badly maybe he even believes he does love her but i dont think he could
i think love when its real it blows away all the other stuff you do everything that is needed in a relationship if you love someone you do it no matter what is needed ... and thats why i think love is enough but both partners need to have it
notice i didnt mention lisa in this post once ... oops i just did
Rambrat
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Usually relationships are unbalanced...one always loves the other more. This isn't a problem as long as the one less of heart is careful not to take the other for granted. I've loved to the extent of pain...and was rewarded with pain.
Mutual respect goes a long way...
Mutual respect goes a long way...
Nicodemus
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Love is a part of it, not all. Sex is very important, look around lit for evidence, but that can be removed and it still work.
Communication, trust, understanding,......all very important. Realizing love does not mean that person has to conform to your perceptions is one of the hardest parts of it all and requires the other three combined with love to acheive.
Love is both a very giving and selfish emotion, but love alone is not enough.
Nic,
AMENDMENT........
Thank you sexy girl,
Your post made me think and change my mind a bit. Love can be enough, when it is right you get all of the above......so it can be. Finding someone to give you all of that, and being strong enough to give it back is the trick.
Again, thanks to sexy girl from a wayward romantic.
Communication, trust, understanding,......all very important. Realizing love does not mean that person has to conform to your perceptions is one of the hardest parts of it all and requires the other three combined with love to acheive.
Love is both a very giving and selfish emotion, but love alone is not enough.
Nic,
AMENDMENT........
Thank you sexy girl,
Your post made me think and change my mind a bit. Love can be enough, when it is right you get all of the above......so it can be. Finding someone to give you all of that, and being strong enough to give it back is the trick.
Again, thanks to sexy girl from a wayward romantic.
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april-wine
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Luckily I am in a relationship, that has love, communication, alot of work....There are many reasons why we work so hard on our realtionship, not the least of which is love....When you truly care about someone, you do what you can to keep your relationship evolving, growing....
This is a relationship, unlike any other I have had, i cherish every second of it.....
Now back to regularly your scheduled smut......
This is a relationship, unlike any other I have had, i cherish every second of it.....
Now back to regularly your scheduled smut......
Rambrat
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april-wine said:Luckily I am in a relationship, that has love, communication, alot of work....There are many reasons why we work so hard on our realtionship, not the least of which is love....When you truly care about someone, you do what you can to keep your relationship evolving, growing....
This is a relationship, unlike any other I have had, i cherish every second of it.....
Now back to regularly your scheduled smut......
Hey...we're looking for angst here!
Naw...that's nice Aprilcot! Glad to hear it...
