Is it reasonable to assume ...

[impressive]

... that because one writes erotica, one is looking for sexual liaisons?

I have been getting a slew of propositions via IM lately. Not sure why, all of a sudden, this is happening. My profile says, and has always just said, "Friends."

Do y'all get this? Lots?

 

[lil_elvis]

... that because one writes erotica, one is looking for sexual liaisons?

I have been getting a slew of propositions via IM lately. Not sure why, all of a sudden, this is happening. My profile says, and has always just said, "Friends."

Do y'all get this? Lots?

Nope, neither the one I'd want nor unwelcome kind either.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I don't post my IM, but I get propositions through e-mail and PM. It happens. You turn 'em on and rev 'em up with your words - they just can't help wanting to connect with the woman who inspires their lust.

It's flattering...means you've elicited a reaction.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

... that because one writes erotica, one is looking for sexual liaisons?

No. And it's their problem if they're reading too much into your stories or profile.

So there.

 

[impressive]

It's flattering...means you've elicited a reaction.

Guess that's the whole point of writing it, eh? Still, it's a bit disconcerting at times.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Assuming anything is a rather stupid way to go about things, as I've found out again and again. I've had propositions from women and men (used to surprise me because all my stories are lesbian) but I never have taken any of them seriously. Of course, I never did subscribe to beginning a conversation with, "Wanna fuck?"

Well, that's not entirely true, but c'mon...we're getting married, after all.

~lucky

 

[Liar]

Nope, neither the one I'd want nor unwelcome kind either.

Me niether. We're guys.

 

[impressive]

Of course, I never did subscribe to beginning a conversation with, "Wanna fuck?"

Depends on who I'm talkin' to.

 

[cloudy]

Assuming anything is a rather stupid way to go about things, as I've found out again and again. I've had propositions from women and men (used to surprise me because all my stories are lesbian) but I never have taken any of them seriously. Of course, I never did subscribe to beginning a conversation with, "Wanna fuck?"

Well, that's not entirely true, but c'mon...we're getting married, after all.

~lucky

My favorite is the "a/s/l?" that comes out of nowhere.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

Depends on who I'm talkin' to.

Eggszachary!

I guess when you think about it, though, why wouldn't people proposition an author? I mean, when I came here to read stories it was because I wasn't getting laid. I don't imagine it's that much of a stretch for them to think that since you've got the time and inclination to write about sex that you might not be getting any either. In which case, why not hook up and gratify...?

~lucky

 

[lucky-E-leven]

My favorite is the "a/s/l?" that comes out of nowhere.

I think there should be a school for beginning IM correspondence. I had one just a few days ago that read, "Hey. I saw your profile on Lit."

WTF?

The only IM's I've ever answered from strangers were the ones that bothered to attempt conversation about something of particular interest and not just that vague bullshit that indicates I'll be the one doing all the work in guiding a conversation I didn't even initiate.



~lucky

 

[English Lady]

I get some interesting PMs and feedback *chuckles* I don't take it seriously, and it's one of the reasons I don't make my IM things known in my profile


a/s/l bugs the hell out of me too, arrrgghh!

 

[Guest]

Eggszachary!

I guess when you think about it, though, why wouldn't people proposition an author? I mean, when I came here to read stories it was because I wasn't getting laid. I don't imagine it's that much of a stretch for them to think that since you've got the time and inclination to write about sex that you might not be getting any either. In which case, why not hook up and gratify...?

~lucky

Good thoughts, and probably accurate.

But have any male authors been propositioned by female readers? I haven't. Have others.

I did touch a nerve with one story and in a good way.

 

[impressive]

My favorite is the "a/s/l?" that comes out of nowhere.

Yeah, what a pick up line! Oh, baby! Let's go fuck. Geez!

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Good thoughts, and probably accurate.

But have any male authors been propositioned by female readers? I haven't. Have others.

I did touch a nerve with one story and in a good way.

The first story I posted to Lit was written from a female's point of view. At the time I had not posted anything in my profile, so as far as the readers were concerned, they thought I was female, or the whole thing was ambiguous.

I was hit on by one guy via IM. Even if I were female, he was too creepy.

 

[rgraham666]

... that because one writes erotica, one is looking for sexual liaisons?

I have been getting a slew of propositions via IM lately. Not sure why, all of a sudden, this is happening. My profile says, and has always just said, "Friends."

Do y'all get this? Lots?

Nope.

But let's face it. We're still 19th Century for the most part when it comes to sex.

And women aren't supposed to proposition men. That's a guy prerogative.

But have any male authors been propositioned by female readers? I haven't. Have others.

Not yet.

 

[lil_elvis]

a/s/l...?????

Pretty obvious no propostions coming my way.

 

[Belegon]

Never been propositioned in that way. Had a couple of things grow into playtime on the boards here, but I honestly look at those more as flirtation and fun with fellow authors. Although I do not deny that the women involved certainly got my attention.

I would be uncomfortable replying to anyone who first contacted me in such a manner. I think I would take the initial contact as a compliment though. But again, there is the male/female thing. In my experience, most women are much more subtle.

 

[LadyJeanne]

a/s/l...?????

Pretty obvious no propostions coming my way.

age/sex/location

Probably the lamest come-on since time began.

 

[impressive]

Never been propositioned in that way. Had a couple of things grow into playtime on the boards here, but I honestly look at those more as flirtation and fun with fellow authors. Although I do not deny that the women involved certainly got my attention.

I would be uncomfortable replying to anyone who first contacted me in such a manner. I think I would take the initial contact as a compliment though. But again, there is the male/female thing. In my experience, most women are much more subtle.

Most have started with something innocuous, like: I like your erotica.

Now, ya kinda gotta at least say, "Thank you."

I gotta lurnt me some of that thar TACT stuff, ayup!

 

[English Lady]

a/s/l...?????

Pretty obvious no propostions coming my way.

age/sex/location


it was used alot on chat rooms when i started out on the net..hated it then for it's impersonal feel and hate it now for the same reason *L*


I don't mind tactful, especially if it comes with lots of ego stroking when they start mythering for pics of my pussy or something else as intimate, I stop replying

 

[Belegon]

I sometimes wonder if I have too much tact on occassion. I often "missed" chances for encounters when I was single due to it.

For example, despite having certain aggressive patterns once involved in a relationship, it was always awkward for me in the period of a relationship growing to include progressive sexual levels. FIrst kiss, etc. Once the door has been opened and I am assured of her desire and consent, my boundaries are rare indeed. Once the consent is established, I will grab ya and pull you into a corner in public, play almost any sex "game" at any opportunity. Not shy at all then.

I also have run into these issues if consent is "withdrawn", like breaking up but still knowing the person. But then my problem is more opposite. It is like, "hey, I'm allowed to do that though..." and they are like, "not anymore..."

You have to really, really, really upset me for the respect to leave my attitudes or conversation. But I do think that if someone "a/s/l" 'd me, my response would most likely be "you'll never know". Because I would consider it rude, not hot, and that is a very bad way to start things with me.

 

[AppleBiter]

... that because one writes erotica, one is looking for sexual liaisons?

I have been getting a slew of propositions via IM lately. Not sure why, all of a sudden, this is happening. My profile says, and has always just said, "Friends."

Do y'all get this? Lots?

Occasionally, I get these e-mails. Sometimes they bother me, too, but I just don't answer them. Better safe than sorry. As far as the a/s/l thing, that is one of my personal pet peeves!!! My favorite way to answer is: Old enough, the same sex I was when I was born, earth.

 

[impressive]

I sometimes wonder if I have too much tact on occassion. I often "missed" chances for encounters when I was single due to it.

No guts, no glory?

I often wonder how much of my life is passing me by for that reason. *sigh*

Okay, I'll stop hijacking my own thread now.

 

[impressive]

My favorite way to answer is: Old enough, the same sex I was when I was born, earth.

If I respond at all, it's:

experienced/as often as possible/here