Is it possible...

[SheDevilShay]

to switch hit realistically as a dom/sub?

Or is there always specific roles...

I.e. Wife is domme outside of the bedroom and husband is very quiet and submissive...

Behind closed doors, husband becomes Master and Wife becomes submissive....

Or does it have to apply in all area's of life in a traditional role?

Speaking from personal experience, I am naturally very bossy and demanding, but try to do so in a loving and affectionate way... (I am catlike in my need for alone time.) And tend to be "the boss"... even in the bedroom the majority of the time...

However, there's nothing quite like the satisfaction of getting down on my knee's and being ordered around that satisfies me when nothing else will.

Do you think its possible to truely co-exsist as switch hitters in the dom/sub roles between 2 people?

 

[SheDevilShay]

I also want to add that there's nothing quite like having my husband sit submissvely at my feet while I stroke his hair or have him rub my feet while I ignore him.... Its a toss up for me, I love both rolls equally and for different reasons...

 

[BiBunny]

Yes.

B. is, technically, my Owner. I am his pet. This is the way we started out; however, we're both switches. I love playing with him period and feel comfortable in either role. Our dynamic still tends to have him as the dominant one and me as the submissive one, but we do switch things up. I think both roles are valid for the both of us.

 

[SheDevilShay]

That makes sense...

 

[leZilla]

Totally possible. And fun. I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Netzach]

Ideal really, more than possible.
I'm enjoying myself to the hilt. Puns intended.

 

[BiBunny]

Yeah, I agree. It's ideal for me in my relationship(s).

 

[HB1965]

Do you think its possible to truely co-exsist as switch hitters in the dom/sub roles between 2 people?

You've described exactly the relationship two of my friends have. She is the bread winner and the main person making decisions while he's at home looking after the kids and the homelife. In the bedroom, it's a different story. They've been doing this for 10 years so yes I think it's possible.

 

[wouldloveto]

I enjoy both...

 

[ms.read]

I make all of the decisions in my household, I wear the pants so to speak. I am the disciplinarian. and yet.... in the bedroom I want him to just Take me. Make me his. and he does oh so well. Its the only time i have ever seen him so... not his submissive self.

 

[Netzach]

I've known a lot of other Dominant women who liked the bottom position in bed. I'm kind of weird, in that it never did much for me till recently.

Fucking receptively has jack to do with being submissive, I mean animal hot sex bottomness, do me do me NOW bottomness. I've known plenty and I mean plenty of people who require a ball-equipped alpha-y kind of submale who can follow the directive "nail me to the sheets" without feeling all guilty and messed up about it. Or who get their fucking from other D's or in non-power relationships. I've also known Dominant men who like sexual passivity/availability/receptivity whatever you want to call it, at times too, they just tend to be quieter about it as a whole.

My social demeanor is very relaxed, individualistic, flaky, passionate but not wildly consistent. My relationships all have a common denominator - I can flip the sexual dynamic to one I control whenever I want. On a dime. I love it that way. I love that there's someone I submit to in the mix, knowing that I *could* reverse it - submitting takes on an aura of self-discipline and self-restraint and I like that. Most people would hate that, most submissive people would feel destabilized or unable to respect a top they know they could breathe on and flip. I love every minute that I don't want to do that.

 

[ms.read]

I've known a lot of other Dominant women who liked the bottom position in bed. I'm kind of weird, in that it never did much for me till recently.

Fucking receptively has jack to do with being submissive, I mean animal hot sex bottomness, do me do me NOW bottomness. I've known plenty and I mean plenty of people who require a ball-equipped alpha-y kind of submale who can follow the directive "nail me to the sheets" without feeling all guilty and messed up about it. Or who get their fucking from other D's or in non-power relationships. I've also known Dominant men who like sexual passivity/availability/receptivity whatever you want to call it, at times too, they just tend to be quieter about it as a whole.

My social demeanor is very relaxed, individualistic, flaky, passionate but not wildly consistent. My relationships all have a common denominator - I can flip the sexual dynamic to one I control whenever I want. On a dime. I love it that way. I love that there's someone I submit to in the mix, knowing that I *could* reverse it - submitting takes on an aura of self-discipline and self-restraint and I like that. Most people would hate that, most submissive people would feel destabilized or unable to respect a top they know they could breathe on and flip. I love every minute that I don't want to do that.

Now, I see why it says "balancing act" underneath your name... Thats kinda cool.

what I meant in my post before this is, he's rough with me when he takes me and I love that he's the one totally in control.

 

[SheDevilShay]

I make all of the decisions in my household, I wear the pants so to speak. I am the disciplinarian. and yet.... in the bedroom I want him to just Take me. Make me his. and he does oh so well. Its the only time i have ever seen him so... not his submissive self.

thats about how it works in our household as well....

 

[the captians wench]

I've known a lot of other Dominant women who liked the bottom position in bed. I'm kind of weird, in that it never did much for me till recently.

Fucking receptively has jack to do with being submissive, I mean animal hot sex bottomness, do me do me NOW bottomness. I've known plenty and I mean plenty of people who require a ball-equipped alpha-y kind of submale who can follow the directive "nail me to the sheets" without feeling all guilty and messed up about it. Or who get their fucking from other D's or in non-power relationships. I've also known Dominant men who like sexual passivity/availability/receptivity whatever you want to call it, at times too, they just tend to be quieter about it as a whole.

My social demeanor is very relaxed, individualistic, flaky, passionate but not wildly consistent. My relationships all have a common denominator - I can flip the sexual dynamic to one I control whenever I want. On a dime. I love it that way. I love that there's someone I submit to in the mix, knowing that I *could* reverse it - submitting takes on an aura of self-discipline and self-restraint and I like that. Most people would hate that, most submissive people would feel destabilized or unable to respect a top they know they could breathe on and flip. I love every minute that I don't want to do that.

That right there sums it up for me. I can top, and I enjoy it some times more than others, but it really doesn't do all that much for me. But if you are in a dominate position over me 99% of the time we're together, then I won't top you. If I top that person then I feel like I could do it any time I want to, I feel in control of them, like if I choose not to be a good little subby that day and want to tie them down and fuck his brains out, I know what I could do to do it. That's not to say as a subby I don't know what buttons to push to inspire that "I'm so going to bust that ass in more ways than one" mood, but if he chooses not to react to that insperation it is his choice, where as if I know I could roll him over and fuck him silly, that's my choice.

Then there's the pain slut factor. Hi I'm wenchie, I am a HUGE pain slut. If I top you and you can't take at least what I can and then you want to top me, I'm just not going to have the same respect for you. As wrong as that may be, that's just how my mind works.

 

[BiBunny]

My social demeanor is very relaxed, individualistic, flaky, passionate but not wildly consistent. My relationships all have a common denominator - I can flip the sexual dynamic to one I control whenever I want. On a dime. I love it that way. I love that there's someone I submit to in the mix, knowing that I *could* reverse it - submitting takes on an aura of self-discipline and self-restraint and I like that. Most people would hate that, most submissive people would feel destabilized or unable to respect a top they know they could breathe on and flip. I love every minute that I don't want to do that.

Yes, yes, yes! This is so me. I have the utmost respect for someone who can take everything he/she dishes out to me. B.'s not "really" submissive so much as a kinky painslut boy, but the principle's still the same, and I love him all the more for it.

I really don't know how to explain this, but I feel so much more secure with other switches than I do with people who identify as solely Dom or solely sub. It's a hard thing for others to comprehend, though.

 

[Netzach]

Yes, yes, yes! This is so me. I have the utmost respect for someone who can take everything he/she dishes out to me. B.'s not "really" submissive so much as a kinky painslut boy, but the principle's still the same, and I love him all the more for it.

I really don't know how to explain this, but I feel so much more secure with other switches than I do with people who identify as solely Dom or solely sub. It's a hard thing for others to comprehend, though.

Solely sub, fine.

Solely D and I'm sorry, unfair as it may be, I will always suspect there is just some shit you're scared of that I'm not. Which is a buzzkill beyond any other.

 

[BiBunny]

Shit, double post, sorry.

 

[BiBunny]

Solely sub, fine.

Solely D and I'm sorry, unfair as it may be, I will always suspect there is just some shit you're scared of that I'm not. Which is a buzzkill beyond any other.

Yeah, that's what I meant.

I can deal better with solely sub than I can with solely Dom, but I still prefer someone who's BTDT on both sides.