Is it possible to fall in love in an online relationship?

[collegeteenm19]

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

 

[Stryderthorongil]

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

Collegeteenm19, nice to meet you. Your question is very good and well thought out. I can't give you an answer I am afraid, just one or two cents. I think personality matches can happen online. Similarities appear, likes, dislikes and it is very easy to get closely connected with a person. However, true love has to include all your senses, hearing, touching, tasting, smelling, seeing. You eventually have to experience all of these with someone before true love can happen. I have known people to fall in love with the idea of a person through chats online and then meet and realize it was not true love. However, I am sure there have been people who have met and, boom, everything fell into place. Personally, I don't think I could fall in love online. I am an eye person, and truly believe your eyes tell a lot about you as a person. The whole "mirror to the soul" thing. So being with someone, physically in the same place, would be essential for me. However, that does not mean you should not meet the other person if the chance arises. Just make sure it is a place you are both comfortable with, public, yet quiet, where you can talk, and keep your expectations under control. If not true love, the person may still be a very good and dependable friend. Good luck.

 

[collegeteenm19]

thanks for your reply, i talk to her with webcam, so do you think that it adds another level of depth?

 

[sexyspiders]

yes...it can work...but be careful........it can be disastrous as well.

I'm now married to my online love affair!! we met in a popular chatroom and hit it off as friends, we confided in eachother about everything and quickly became best friends. we also spoke on the fone and ther wer never any embarrassing silences so we took that as a good sign.

we agreed to meet up, we wer supposed to meet half-way but i backed out as i didnt want to travel so far on my own and possibly meet a psycho....so he quickly agreed to do all the travelling (Passed Test 1) and my friends went with me to meet him.

before we met we both thought we would be more than friends but agreed to wait and see wat would happen.......we met up, he stayed with me for a week and it broke my heart to see him go. we travelled back and forth to visit eachother.

the relationship was really hard. there were nights when i would lie just wanting to feel him beside me. there were times when i had had a hard day at college and just needed a hug.

but we got through that stage and when i finished college i moved over to be with him. we lived with his parents for a year (in this part of the country it is really hard to find decent affordable property). it was hard work as there were 6 of us in the house and 2 dogs so we got out as soon as we found somewer.

we rented a place for a year which was one of the hardest years in our life. the house was horrible, everything that was going to go wrong did, i wasnt close to my family at this time as i had "abandoned" them and "run off", and i was organising our wedding.

the wedding went swimmingly so wen that was over with we started house hunting again. we are now renting a flat (which is bigger than the house we were in) and we have a pet bunny (jasper) my hubby really enjoys his work and i have recently been promoted.

so apart from a few hiccups at the beginning of this year (not detailed here)things are looking up. im really close with my family again as i make an effort to go see them every couple of months and iv made some really close friends...though l;ost some along the way aswell.

in conclusion.....***** has its highs and its lows...its up to you how you wants to ride them. Alot of dedication and commitment was needed from the word go, but we knew it would be worth all the hard work.

All the best in whatever you decide. i do suggest you play it like we did in the beginning though....stay just friends and dont make any promises/ commitments until you have spent some substantial time in eachothers company, one on one.

luv spiders x x x

 

[collegeteenm19]

wow thanks very much for your advice, i'll be sure to consider it!

 

[collegeteenm19]

no one else has any opinion or thoughts on online relationships??

 

[charmed1]

Lots of people meet their spouses/lovers/best friends online. If you think she is the one for you, what does it matter where you met her? Go for it and enjoy.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I am now engaged to, and living with, a wonderful 'Man. We met here in the chat area of LIT, and are now approaching our 3rd anniversary of living together, day to day.

At the very beginning, I began a thread here asking others about their experiences. I found it hard to believe LOVE could come through a computer!

Here's the link:

Long distance relationships


It grew to be a very extensive thread, and I was amazed at how many people connected online.

I would recommend reading a few of the beginning pages. I received a lot of very helpful advice from those who had both good and bad experiences.

As another LIT friend advised me, I suggest you two meet face-to-face before you commit to an ongoing togetherness.

Wishing you lots of luck!

 

[collegeteenm19]

thanks so much for that suggestion jenny, I really appreciate it, you're right that thread of yours is very interesting and helpful as well

 

[collegeteenm19]

anyone else have something to add?