Is it normal or am I completely effed up?

[Willy_Wanker]

Same situation here and same feelings, I’ve come to believe it’s just a natural part of male companionship that we’ve kind of forgotten. The ancient Greeks and Romans understood it!

 

[PL629]

Fantasizing is normal.

I believe many have the same fantasies and wud never admit it because they fear the stigma or judgement of others. Its no ones business what u think about to get ur rocks off. Ur not crazy, ur not gay. Ur probably bi but its totally common.

 

[RacyWilde]

Straight happily married male here. I fantasise about sucking on another man's cock and being fucked in the ass...with one maybe two guys. Anyone else ever think about that or do I need therapy? I'd like to hear your thoughts. Thanks

A lot of hetero guys I know have these types of fantasies. I'd consider it normal, and no, not homosexual. Being homosexual is a lot more than just having sex with the same sex. What you would likely be is 'heteroflexible'. You're primarily attracted to women and seek relationships with them but you also get aroused by sexual acts with men.

 

[FortybutNice]

A lot of hetero guys I know have these types of fantasies. I'd consider it normal, and no, not homosexual. Being homosexual is a lot more than just having sex with the same sex. What you would likely be is 'heteroflexible'. You're primarily attracted to women and seek relationships with them but you also get aroused by sexual acts with men.

I’m with Racy - you’re not homosexual but you’re ire equally not completely heterosexual. There’s nothing wrong with being in the middle.

If you’re happily married, why not talk to your wife about your fantasies and act out some of them. There are some realistic strapon and wearable dildos, which you could suck and with which she could fuck you. I know I fantasise about being pegged by a hot woman, yet I’m not attracted to men at all, so there’s a whole range of possibilities to explore.

 

[voluptuouswitch]

Of course you’re a little gay, your G spot is up your ass. Nobody is 100% straight but do you fantasize about meeting a nice man and falling in love? Probably not. If it’s just about dicks then I say go for it. But tell us about it because dude on dude action is hot.

 

[Littletoo]

That's interesting. Riddle me this? Why is it more acceptable for women to be together sexually then men? I get it. Women are far more attractive then men and I could list a million reasons why but I'd like to get other opinions too

God, Nature, or The Random Evolutionary
Process (take your pick) gave us humans
sex, for the purpose of Propagating the
Species. This simple observation is dull
boring andobvious, yet if you say anything like
this on a college campus, as I did, you
will be branded an heretic, as I was. I
had already been kicked out of
Scared Heart for Asking Impertainent
Questions. One more branding wasb't
going to make e big difference in my
life.

The reason female homosexuality is
more acceptable than Male
homosexuality is rooted in the above
observation. Male homosexuality
diverts the cum from the female
womb to the Male rectum.This action
frustrates procreation. Most humans
recognize this fact viscerally if not
consciously. This is why Male
homosexuality is less accepted
than female.

Jamie

 

[PolyMale87]

Straight happily married male here. I fantasise about sucking on another man's cock and being fucked in the ass...with one maybe two guys. Anyone else ever think about that or do I need therapy? I'd like to hear your thoughts. Thanks

I would say, love it and embrace it! It may be just a fantasy. It may be something you might want to act out someday. Either way, it's totally OK. I have very similar fantasies. Perhaps I will one day try it myself! You can totally love your wife and be a wonderful husband and partner and still want to suck some cock!

 

[PolyMale87]

Chiming in.... I've often wondered this. I think it's because boys are raised in a culture where they're expected to be stronger and less emotional than women. Being with another man is perceived as feminine, which is perceived as bad (unfortunately).

With respect to the OP, I think sexuality is a lot more gray than it is black and white. Some people are completely gay or straight, but I think most of us are in between. Others of us just want to try everything once. Others fantasize about all sorts of stuff but never actually do the "freakier" stuff.

Nothing wrong with it. Doesn't matter how you label it. You like what you like.

Yes to this reply! Queer women's sex can be exciting to straight men who enjoy watching the female body and sexual situations. It is pleasing to the patriarchal male gaze. Queer male sex is threatening or confusing to the patriarchal male gaze.

 

[kentuckyjim]

Me tooo

Straight happily married male here. I fantasise about sucking on another man's cock and being fucked in the ass...with one maybe two guys. Anyone else ever think about that or do I need therapy? I'd like to hear your thoughts. Thanks

I am 55 and when I was about 30 and I would never have considered doing anything with another guy, but I had a dream that I was locked up out side in a fenced in area like a concentration camp and was force to my knees and suck cock. I woke up hornier then I have ever been. Well pretty horny anyway. I started having fantasies about being forced and even my wife being force into sex. until recently that was only oral, about 35 I met a guy on aol by a case of mistaken identity. I was supposed to have been a 3 some with him and his wife, but she was out of town and supposed to be home while I was there. He was a very wealthy guy and I sucked my first cock. I have done it a few times over the years. I am wanting to know what anal feels like. Over the years I have had submissive fantasies and bi.

 

[load69]

Call me what you want....I have no interest in kissing a guy but would love to get a cock in my mouth and suck a big load of hot cum out of it. I would also love one in my ass. I have not found thew right opportunity to play with a cock but if/when I do, I will not care at all what name someone calls me.

 

[Johnxoxo1970]

Straight happily married male here. I fantasise about sucking on another man's cock and being fucked in the ass...with one maybe two guys. Anyone else ever think about that or do I need therapy? I'd like to hear your thoughts. Thanks

Very similar situation. It’s hard to find people to talk about it with. Nothing wrong with you at all. Let me know if you want to talk

 

[CurvyShadow]

Stop labeling yourselves and each other... From a female perspective - sucking cock feels amazing! Why shouldn’t a man enjoy being on the giving end as well? Go, explore, enjoy!

Besides.... it’s hot!