Is It Important to You to Please Your Lover?
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I think it truly needs to be 50/50...not each time but in the greater scheme of things. I mean there are nights/days when all you crave is to please your lover and others when all you desire is to be pleasured...and then there are the nights when together you create a spark that could illuminate the universe.
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juicylips said:Or is that a truly dumb question?
Sex is really give and take. Do you feel you give more than you receive?
JL
My own philosophy:
If she didn't enjoyed it, then I didn't enjoyed it either. Blame it on my old age or something, but her pleasure is more important to me than my own.
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I get equal if not more pleasure feeling and seeing my partner climax. I love eating pussy, and do so at every opportunity. I enjoy seeing her eyes roll back, her face and breasts flush, and the contractions of her pussy around my cock. I know I've done a good job when she drifts off to sleep afterwards like a cat who drank its fill of cream. I usually get off, if not, it will get done. I kinda like walking around with blueballs at least part of the day, knowing when I go to her place I will do some damage with my cock ...and she loves it! 
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The times that I feel the most pleasure is when I know that my lover is truly enjoying himself and that he is being pleasured. I would rather pleasure and please. It is important to me to know that I have made my lover pleased and happy. Because his happiness and pleasure is truly my pleasure
The most incredible thing is when you can see the pleasure on your lover's face...and then when you can feel it *weg*
The times that I feel the most pleasure is when I know that my lover is truly enjoying himself and that he is being pleasured. I would rather pleasure and please. It is important to me to know that I have made my lover pleased and happy. Because his happiness and pleasure is truly my pleasure
The most incredible thing is when you can see the pleasure on your lover's face...and then when you can feel it *weg*
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juicylips said:Or is that a truly dumb question?
Sex is really give and take. Do you feel you give more than you receive?
JL
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A truly dumb question it is
For me there is no point in making love with someone unless your ultimate goal is to please them. My own pleasure comes a distant second
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Morning JL,
I like to please my lover, but of course he should feel the same about me. It should be 50/50, but of course it depends on my mood too. I just get a kick out of seeing him enjoy what I do...
I like to please my lover, but of course he should feel the same about me. It should be 50/50, but of course it depends on my mood too. I just get a kick out of seeing him enjoy what I do...
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Yes, it is a give and take..
or that's the ideal. It's easier said than done, too. Chemistry and timing are everything. I find it easy to empty my mind of the clutter and distractions and pinpoint focus my passion in my tongue, or my cock, or my kisses. It is a side benefit of decades of meditative practice. Creative visualization transforms me into a Crusader of your Holy Grail.
However, because my appetite is so deep, my intensity level rarely drops. My SO reaps the benefits no doubt. Her transport is almost continual. But, HER desire rarely builds past a nodding consent, and a "Sure" response. I think the practice of more fully embracing your partner's desire, is paramount to pleasuring with purpose. Knowing the depth of your own need allows you to sift through their pleasure and find similar urges. Isn't that the effectiveness of homosexuality?
Ideally, sex is not MY brush stokes on the canvas of your sexuality...It is OUR brush strokes, OUR wills, first mixed on the palette of desire, and then mutually expressed in a duet of passion.
morning JL, , ninataka kufucka wewe leo.
or that's the ideal. It's easier said than done, too. Chemistry and timing are everything. I find it easy to empty my mind of the clutter and distractions and pinpoint focus my passion in my tongue, or my cock, or my kisses. It is a side benefit of decades of meditative practice. Creative visualization transforms me into a Crusader of your Holy Grail.
However, because my appetite is so deep, my intensity level rarely drops. My SO reaps the benefits no doubt. Her transport is almost continual. But, HER desire rarely builds past a nodding consent, and a "Sure" response. I think the practice of more fully embracing your partner's desire, is paramount to pleasuring with purpose. Knowing the depth of your own need allows you to sift through their pleasure and find similar urges. Isn't that the effectiveness of homosexuality?
Ideally, sex is not MY brush stokes on the canvas of your sexuality...It is OUR brush strokes, OUR wills, first mixed on the palette of desire, and then mutually expressed in a duet of passion.
morning JL,
, ninataka kufucka wewe leo.
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i don't give, I don't take
but I do think it's important
but I do think it's important
Re: F-u-u-u-c-c-c-k-k-kkkk!!
I'm not going to tell you that I just LMAO once again after reading the Unregistered post. I can tell it was you posting. I always can. You're one of a kind, e.
You probably could hear me from where you are....
JL
erosman said:
I'm not going to tell you that I just LMAO once again after reading the Unregistered post. I can tell it was you posting. I always can. You're one of a kind, e.
You probably could hear me from where you are....
JL
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juicylips said:Or is that a truly dumb question?
Sex is really give and take. Do you feel you give more than you receive?
JL
This is NOT a dumb question. How many of us have been with a lover who is completely hedonistic in his/her view of lovemaking.
Wham! Bam! Thank you, ma'am. (And the Thank You being optional. ) I know...I married him. *smirks*
Yes, I am very much into bringing pleasure. The more often he appears to be experiencing something new or something intense, the hotter I become. The hotter I become, the more I want to please him and the more pleasure I recieve. Yes, it is give and take, but there is no let down like the let down when you aren't sure if he is enjoying himself.
Now, the big question....will all these pleasing guys on this thread, who is going to please me? *silly grin*
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i think its fun to sometimes swap it around ... i dont always want equal love making ... i enjoy just pleasing lisa without having any pleasure back ... or her just pleasing me
yes most of the time we're equal but sometimes its fun to mess around with it and be greedy/selfless
yes most of the time we're equal but sometimes its fun to mess around with it and be greedy/selfless
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It is important if I really care about the person I'm with....not just out of the typical masculine ego but also out of love.
But if I'm with a loose harlot and she's giving me headaches about not being able to get her off....I could give a damn....
"You better get yours...cause I'ma damn sho get mine!" Martin Lawerence
But if I'm with a loose harlot and she's giving me headaches about not being able to get her off....I could give a damn....
"You better get yours...cause I'ma damn sho get mine!" Martin Lawerence
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It is absolutely important to please my lover. The more I pleasure her (in the right ways), the more motivated she is to pleasure me. It's an incredible infinite circle.
There is nothing quite so sensuous and satisfying as two people in perfect harmony with each other's needs and desires, fantasies and curiosities, and who are not afraid to explore the limits of human sexuality to find new ways to please each other.
This is just one of many reasons I find my online lover to be such an important part of my life...sexually and otherwise.
There is nothing quite so sensuous and satisfying as two people in perfect harmony with each other's needs and desires, fantasies and curiosities, and who are not afraid to explore the limits of human sexuality to find new ways to please each other.
This is just one of many reasons I find my online lover to be such an important part of my life...sexually and otherwise.
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juicylips said:Or is that a truly dumb question?
Sex is really give and take. Do you feel you give more than you receive?
JL
I know damn well I give more than receive. but I love to give. Hell I think I could eat her pussy for hours on in with out my self ever being pleasured and be ok with that.... sometimes.
Theres nothing like making a woman orgasm!!! I get lots of pleasure from that!
