Is it going good?

[Lovernotkiller]

I was looking all around in the forums and I could not find a place to put my problem so i put it here lol. This is it:

I met a girl last November of last year, we work together at the same place, we started to like each other and got hooked up. We started going out in December. She is my first real girl friend, all the others were more of crushes. About 2 weeks after, we had sex. About 2-3 weeks after that i started to more than like her but really love her, and i told her this, and she feels the same way. We have sex about as often as we can, we are extermly(sp) open and love everything about each other and we are interested and think very simularly. I also found out that her last boyfriend treated her like crap and she is very happy to be with me and i guess im better sex wise too. We love each other and i get her roses and the simple pleasures of life that make her happy, and not a day passes where i dont tell her i love her. Nice start in life right? Ther is a few complications.....

When i metioned her last boyfriend, when they broke up....she decided she watned to live a life without someone else and SIGNED UP FOR THE AIRFORCE...Now i get torn apart when she leaves ..she left for spain not too long ago and it was 11 days and it tore me apart...shes back and i gave her a good loveing ....but thats not the biggest thing.........she leaves june 28th for training and i can only talk by letter for 6 weeks and then she comes back for 12 days then leaves for 15 months with only communication by phone and then she comes back for the holidays till i get my life in gear and off to college or a better job.......im worried she might see another guy cause she really likes sex and people who are nice to her and ther is a lot of guys in the airforce....that will be ther when she goes through these hard times.....but if we made it through all of this there is a LIFE of happiness that we could get a glimpse of.....i want to make it there soo bad...and even though its only been two and a half months we've been going out , i feel l i've known her forever, and if we do make it through this and i still feel the same way about here and she feels the same way about me, im going to ask her to marry me i know it

What are my chances of this relationship working out? and if its bad how can i make it work out?

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Ok dude slow down. You have been dating 2 and a half months and your talking about marriage. Now as you have said, she is your first girl friend. Well this is normal for the first one, because you think it's meant to last forever. I suggest just taking it slow. If she is going away, it will be a good time for you both to see if it is meant to be. I wouldn't worry about her finding someone in the Air Force because I would think they would be busy in their training.

Talk to her about this, and think about what is best for you. Thats all I could suggest.


Ravin

 

[Eritz]

Why not? If thats the way you feel then go for it. One of my friends proposed after two months last year and him and his so are planning on a marriage later this year. Another pair of my friends hooked up for two months, went back packing around Europe for three months and are now engaged. Another one of my friends proposed after something like 8 months. It can happen and to be honest only you and her know truely in your hearts whether it will work out.

 

[Lovernotkiller]

Thanks guys for the advice and guidance so to say. It helps thanks. I however did talk to her about this(not marriage but liveing with her), i am very open with her. I did think about how this is my first also and how everyone must feel the same as me........but i cant help feeling something is special.......and theres always those people who keep saying we are such a good couple, we look good together, and how many people are jealous of how good things are working out with us. Thats what makes me feel it is different. I really love her and i try to get myself depressed about it to make me stronger and use to it. I guess i feel like that i've known her forever because i see her as often as i can and i'm on the phone with her from 2-6 hours a day lol. I give her all the love i can give, and she love me back for that

THANKS A TON for the comments they helped me, thanks

 

[EJFan]

one thing that i personally always find hard to remember in situations like this... you have to be proud of and happy for HER, for her doing what she wants to do (even if it takes her away from you physically for a while). she'll pick up on how you recognize and appreciate her accomplishment... that goes a long way.

so try thinkin' about her while you're thinking about yourself and the "collective you".