Is it common to fall in love with your submissive?

[Dhabidommetrix]

Just found out a close friend of mine is falling deeply hard for his submissive. Well not surprised as this is very common amongst dommes. Emotional intimacy and trust often lead to deeper feelings over time.

Any one with same experiences?

 

[OldGoodPup]

Of course. My Miss loves me but it's a different love from her lovers and eventually her husband. She loves me like anyone does a beloved, obedient pet. She takes care of me and loves me and I give her unconditional love and obedience.

 

[Boat1]

It's different for me... my Wife Domme Goddess and I fell in love before we dove into the deep end of the BDSM life.
I became Her slave sub bitch whore after the fact and couldn't possibly be more proud than I am to have Her, as well as my "title" and place in Her life!
I'm the most fortunate man on the planet!

 

[Daddydude55]

Just found out a close friend of mine is falling deeply hard for his submissive. Well not surprised as this is very common amongst dommes. Emotional intimacy and trust often lead to deeper feelings over time.

Any one with same experiences?

I often have but it can cause some small issue but none not worth it hopefully

 

[Greedy_lion]

Just found out a close friend of mine is falling deeply hard for his submissive. Well not surprised as this is very common amongst dommes. Emotional intimacy and trust often lead to deeper feelings over time.

Any one with same experiences?

There is a difference between love and limerence but I do admit to having loved.

 

[Belong2Her]

my then future Wife fell in love with me. So yes it happens.

 

[FoxtrotJulietRomeo]

A few times in years gone by - but apparently completely out of context, entirely unwelcome and definitely not wanted by any of them! Quite hard not to when they’d given so much but apparently that meant nothing!

 

[MasterDarcy]

It's a good question, one that I've never thought about, because for me, love and BDSM are intertwined.

I'm demisexual (and sapiosexual), so an emotional as well as a spiritual and an intellectual connection are prerequisites.

For me, when I begin things with a submissive, we start on a journey paved with communication and honesty. 100% vanilla. Patience is key ad it takes as long as it takes.

All things going well, that journey develops and flourishes into trust, affecting with an ethereal connection. Which is a perfect foundation to layer BDSM.

Being the Dominant of a submissive with whom I have zero or little affection would be infinitely unfulfilling and impossible.

To answer the question;

Is it common? I'd say so. I think the majority of D/s dynamics are based on a duality of love and kink.

There's no right or wrong way, thiugh. There's no one sizes fits all. Every couple (or moreple) find their own path and have their own formula.