Is it cheating?

[ByteMe13]

Is it cheating to have sex with someone else if you spouse has lost all interest in sex?

 

[OralAllOver]

A vain attempt to solicit an answer different from the one you know to be true

 

[LMWM321]

Is it cheating to have sex with someone else if you spouse has lost all interest in sex?

I think you're hoping to be told it's cheating but morally justified. Well... That may be true - in a limited number of instances. But let me ask... What reasons might your wife give for losing all interest in having sex with you? And be honest.

For example, if she's lost interest in sex because you've been a shitty husband, well... you can't then seize on her not wanting sex as an acceptable excuse for cheating.

 

[JohnS3]

Are you asking just about intercourse with another person when you write sex?

Or does your definition include handjobs, etc?

 

[ByteMe13]

Are you asking just about intercourse with another person when you write sex?

Or does your definition include handjobs, etc?

Asking about any form of sex. Intercourse, hj, bj

I’m just curious what others think Do you feel guilt or remorse if you have sex of any kind with someone other than your spouse?

 

[St3v3nR80]

Is it cheating to have sex with someone else if you spouse has lost all interest in sex?

It is cheating. Unless your spouse is fully aware and gives permission.

 

[JohnS3]

Asking about any form of sex. Intercourse, hj, bj

I’m just curious what others think Do you feel guilt or remorse if you have sex of any kind with someone other than your spouse?

I have been with another guy and we jerked each other off. Do I feel guilty? No more that when I jerk myself off.

 

[Beth_Anne90]

For all of you gentlemen I would call it cheating. but for us ladies I consider it just looking around to have a little extra fun!!

 

[LeeKee]

For all of you gentlemen I would call it cheating. but for us ladies I consider it just looking around to have a little extra fun!!

Double standard

 

[LeeKee]

For all of you gentlemen I would call it cheating. but for us ladies I consider it just looking around to have a little extra fun!!

 

[St3v3nR80]

It is cheating. Unless your spouse is fully aware and gives permission.

Too be fair I am not saying don't do it. Cause I am in that position and my wife has explicitly said she doesn't want to know if I am.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I think you're hoping to be told it's cheating but morally justified. Well... That may be true - in a limited number of instances. But let me ask... What reasons might your wife give for losing all interest in having sex with you? And be honest.

For example, if she's lost interest in sex because you've been a shitty husband, well... you can't then seize on her not wanting sex as an acceptable excuse for cheating.

Is it cheating to have sex with someone else if you spouse has lost all interest in sex?

Interesting how you avoided a legitimate question.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Is it cheating to have sex with someone else if you spouse has lost all interest in sex?

Not if you tell your wife you are going to do so, and she agrees.

 

[IARainman]

It has zero to do with sex, and everything to do with commitment. If you are committed to her and she believes you are honoring that commitment, you betray it is cheating. Up to you how you justify cheating

 

[BiFunHusband]

I would counsel honesty, whatever may be going on in your marriage.

 

[StrongMaster7]

If your spouse has truly lost all interest in sex, you should tell her that you are going to have sex with someone else.

Since she has lost all interest in sex, she won’t care and you’ll still be an honest man.

 

[trevorness]

How about chatting and camming online?

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

How about chatting and camming online?

Not if you wife knows about it.

 

[leftwantingmore]

Personal relationships outside of a committed relationship whether physical, emotional or sexual but not physical are, IMHO, cheating. That is unless the people in the committed relationship are fully aware and have come to an understanding. Going behind someone's back, deceiving, lying by omission and not communicating only ends in destroying relationships and causing emotional pain. I would rather a physical cut than a cut to my heart.
One thing to remember. Honesty comes with risks. Dishonesty brings the worst kind of pain.

 

[Britva415]

Is it cheating to have sex with someone else if you spouse has lost all interest in sex?

Ask her.

 

[Britva415]

Ask her, "what is it if I lose all interest in this marriage?"

 

[MarionsLover]

Too be fair I am not saying don't do it. Cause I am in that position and my wife has explicitly said she doesn't want to know if I am.

sounds like tacit permission to me. Just "be discreet" and don't bring it home

 

[dpurdy2024]

For all of you gentlemen I would call it cheating. but for us ladies I consider it just looking around to have a little extra fun!!

In my wife's case, she drinks a lot and has played while drunk, with a few guys, and her bff girlfriend. I've heard some of the details, while she's drunk and often blacks out from drinking. Kind of a turn on to hear details and know she won't remember telling them to me the next day.