is hubby cheating?

[makemedrip]

i am pretty sure my hubby is cheating on me again. last time i felt like this i was right i just couldnt prove it until later. what should i do. he lies even when he is caught so i cant have a normal chat with him. any advice

 

[PleasePeesMe]

i am pretty sure my hubby is cheating on me again. last time i felt like this i was right i just couldnt prove it until later. what should i do. he lies even when he is caught so i cant have a normal chat with him. any advice

Seems as though he's a serial cheater, so you have two options; put up with it because it's part of who he is. Or leave. Sorry, but I can't see any others.

 

[mynameisben]

i am pretty sure my hubby is cheating on me again. last time i felt like this i was right i just couldnt prove it until later. what should i do. he lies even when he is caught so i cant have a normal chat with him. any advice

Let's see...Cheated before, compulsive liar, suspected of cheating again, can't have a normal conversation with...

You can:

A. Wake up and smell the handwriting on the wall.

Or

B. Pretend all is well until the smoking gun is found.

 

[Eilan]

DTMFA

(If you don't know what that means, The Google is your friend.)

 

[Jenneva]

If you have to ask..then he is.
And if you don't like it, leave.
And don't tell me it's not that simple, because it is.

 

[b4uris]

what type of phone does he have?

what type of email (gmail, yahoo, etc.)?

i am pretty sure my hubby is cheating on me again. last time i felt like this i was right i just couldnt prove it until later. what should i do. he lies even when he is caught so i cant have a normal chat with him. any advice

 

[PutMeInCoach12]

Is there anything specific that makes you think that or just the gut feeling? If you have already forgiven him once and he walks all over you by taking advantage of that and doing it again, I can't really see him changing his ways. That's just my opinion though. I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

[RuReal]

The last time it happened did you ask him why it happened? Is there any stress going on in your relationship. I know people seem to think that people cheat just to cheat and I am sure that happens sometimes, but I am sure that other times people cheat for a reason.

I would suggest like everything else in a relationship talk to him see what is going on. I know I had a girlfriend that accused me of cheating for months pissed me the fuck off and I never did anything to cause it. Her accusing me of cheating when it was not going on made me decide that our relationship was not going to work.

I would suggest talking to him and finding out what is causing the feeling and if it is real why it is happening.

 

[SweetErika]

i am pretty sure my hubby is cheating on me again. last time i felt like this i was right i just couldnt prove it until later. what should i do. he lies even when he is caught so i cant have a normal chat with him. any advice

I'm so sorry he did that to you once.

This time, I'd say go with your gut, but also gather evidence if possible, so you're not just going on a feeling. I'm not sure of your circumstances, but your options could include stealthily checking out his activities yourself (look at financial statements, phone records, internet activities, see if he is where he says he is, putting tracking software on the computer he uses, etc.) and hiring a private investigator. Chances are, if he's up to no good, he'll slip up somewhere.

The other thing you can do is get tested for STIs and make sure you're not putting yourself at risk with him sexually by abstaining or minimizing your risk with condom use.

If you do find he's cheating again, kick him to the curb. A second chance is one thing; serial/compulsive lying and cheating is quite another, and you can't have a good marriage with someone you don't trust or with a guy who doesn't respect you enough to be honest, protect you or even tell you the truth and work to change after he's been found out. That's a big thing - if he lied about it in the face of hard evidence and wouldn't communicate with you the first time so he (and you) could fix whatever was going on in your relationship, then it was/is likely a matter of time before he goes back to lying and cheating. People who want to save their relationships after cheating work hard to make amends and do things differently.

 

[indyguy78]

Whether he is cheating or not if you don't trust him it's best to end it and save yourself and him the headache. There is no sense in being with someone you don't trust.

 

[Noor]

if you had a confirmation that he was cheating, what would you do?